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02-01-2013, 10:02 AM
We recently received an "invitation" from some relatives to "save the date" for their wedding renewal ceremony. I'm not up on all the latest wedding fru-fru (never have been and not gonna start now), but is this a normal thing for couples to have? And are we supposed to send a gift?
I thought a renewal of vows were for people who were having a rocky marriage and wanted to recommit to each other. This couple isn't having any rockiness, so what's with this anyway--just a chance to throw a party for themselves and get presents?
We have a previous engagement, so we can't attend, but meanwhile I'm finding this a strange thing to ask of friends and relatives.
02-01-2013, 01:48 PM
What's normal? My DD and SIL were married by a judge and for their 10th anniversary had a big wedding--with the two kids involved. It was really cool. My sister and her DH renewed their vows at some point, I can't remember which year for them, but it was a much smaller do. There weren't presents at either of these. For whatever reason, it might be that they want a big party, they've chosen this way to commemorate their marriage. Do I understand it? Nope. My idea of the perfect wedding would be a very small number of people involved and low key.
Jan in CA
02-01-2013, 02:31 PM
:?? Unless this couple is in the habit of throwing themselves parties and expecting gifts I see no reason to consider this a negative.
Renewals aren't uncommon. I've never heard of one being used for a rocky marriage. They are normally just done as a recommitment and many people do them on their 10th, 25th or some other one considered significant to them.
IMO you don't need to send a gift. If you feel you need to maybe a gift card to a nice dinner they can share. I would send a card congratulating them on 10 or 25 (whatever) years.
02-01-2013, 08:37 PM
Ahhh . . . okay. That's good to know, Jan and GG. I guess I'm just not very familiar with this kind of thing.
They might get a card. I'll have to see if I can find a suitable one.
Thankfully, though, we have a family reunion to go to, so we're off the hook as far as attendance goes! Whew!
02-02-2013, 08:43 AM
Or just write a note. I don't think this calls for a present either. Just a nice way to celebrate an anniversary with friends and family.
02-02-2013, 02:20 PM
Most marriages these days don't seem to last long enough to plan something like this. It is a nice way to commemorate stubborn stick-to-itiveness. That's one of the main qualities I see in people who stay married for years and years. How long have they been married?
02-02-2013, 03:24 PM
If I were guessing, I would say it's probably their 10 year anniversary, so let's just say they have some "stick-to-itiveness," but they haven't demonstrated tons of it just yet. All the same, we'll send a nice chatty card wishing them the best.
BTW: They love to travel, so DH seems to think that this is just an excuse to go on another honeymoon! :teehee: He could be right! If one needs an excuse, any ol' one will do!