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knittingdoula
01-19-2006, 03:26 PM
Hi everyone.

I was saddened by the posts regarding DH's/boyfriends who were not entirely supportive of our knitting. I wanted to post about husbands and boyfriends who are supportive, and to publicly acknowledge my husband for doing so. (He would probably die of embarassment if he knew I was posting something so positive about him in public! :D :D )

Knitting has become my way of relaxing, working through anxiety, depression and grief, and feeling a sense of accomplishment. (SAHM's sometimes feel rather bereft of this feeling, given the day to day undoing of your accomplishments!)

I've bought more yarn than you can shake a sheep at, and my drawers are so full of bamboo that a panda would have a field day. (Not to mention the Addi's filling up the drawer.) Like I've said before, I surf the Internet for yarn like some people surf for porn, and through it all, my husband has been SO supportive.

He hasn't complained at all about the drawers of yarn, the 6 prjects I have in progress, or the Stitch and Bitches I attend. In fact, he takes care of the kids while I go, despite being in medical school. He's amazing.

I am very, very blessed.

Alison

CarmenIbanez
01-19-2006, 03:39 PM
Yes you are. I am too. My hubby is WAY supportive. Provided I knit him a little somethin' somethin' now and again!

kayeknit
01-19-2006, 03:39 PM
I also have a VERY supportive husband. I am a SAHM also (homeschooling my daughter), and my husband is so encouraging and supportive of my knitting, as well as all my other interests. We both have our hobbies and I hope I am as supportive of his as he has always been of mine. I can't imagine being married to someone who isn't. I feel that one of the most important things is for BOTH partners to have interests/hobbies. Maybe those who are with unsupportive spouses could try encouraging their DH/DW to pursue a hobby of their own...
Just my two cents. :D

flecker
01-19-2006, 03:40 PM
Good for your husband to be proud of you and understand how it helps.

I have tried other hobbies off and on, but knitting has given my a sense of accomplishment that nothing else has. All my teaching and my own two children are rewarding but a lot of times the reward is more long term. When you straighen the living room for the 5000 time only to see it trashed in 10 minutes :shock: , it is so helpful to see that scarf (or whatever) is still together. My hubby seems to recognize this as well and loves to show everyone what I've done or what I'm doing. Thank goodness.
Kim

margie
01-19-2006, 04:26 PM
Alison, you and I sound very similar in a few ways. My husband is also very, very supportive of my knitting. He actually drove 2 1/2 hours to take me to a new yarn store once, just because he wanted me to see it- and then told me to buy whatever I wanted! I think he finds it somewhat amusing to see me so enthralled with a hobby- but he is also fascinated by what I can do and thinks it is super cool that I am able to knit actual garments! He hasn't once complained about the amount of knitting "stuff" that is around the house- projects on the table, bits of yarn, stitch markers at every turn, etc.- I am also very blessed to have such a wonderful husband. :heart:

rebecca
01-19-2006, 06:29 PM
:cheering: :cheering: :cheering: There is nothing, absolutely nothing better in life than a mate that supports you. I have the most understanding, loving, supporting, knit enabling husband in the world and I'm so happy to hear that others do, too! There's rarely a week goes by that he doesn't surprise me with a knitting gift :inlove: , he is just a giving person by nature and :inlove: loves to spoil me...and does a VERY good job of it..LOL!! As a matter of fact, I just got 2 new addi's in the mail today that I didn't know that he had ordered...LOL, it's a good thing I got the mail before I made my addi order ;) !! He knows that knitting makes me happy and that it helps with my pain; and if I'm happy, he's happy....just as if he's happy, I'm happy! I, too, support his hobbies as much as he supports mine. Herein lies the importance...supporting one another ;) I thank God for blessing me with such a wonderful man...the Best :inlove: Husband in the World!!!

KellyK
01-19-2006, 06:35 PM
You are right....lets give those DHs some KUDOS!

I have to say....Al was ALL excited to see everyone open their Christmas cloggies.....and was even trying to help schedule their felting for me! :lol: He also shows off his FDK hat with much pride!

Cristy
01-19-2006, 06:48 PM
my dh is awesome too--and he watches our daughter while I go to SnBs! He doesn't complain about my yarn purchases and is very complimentary of my FO's. He's glad that I found something that gives me enjoyment and a sense of accomplishment. With past hobbies--I usually became overly critical and frustrated--with knitting I feel good about my efforts and I think he can see that.

newbieknit
01-19-2006, 09:11 PM
I am also blessed with an amazing husband who is supportive of my knitting obsession. It's mostly his own fault that I am knit obsessed. He encouraged me. :heart: :heart:
I cannot say enough how wonderful my husband is!! When I was in my auto-accident my husband of one month had to become my caretaker. He didn't ask questions or try to pawn me off on others. He stood up and did the job. I was severely depressed. My husband remembered that when we had first begun dating that I had expressed a desire to learn how to knit, and with my background in crochet he felt that I should try to knit. He did the reasearch about knitting, what I'd need, what websites were good, he ordered the supplies and books. Most of t his stuff before I even knew what was up. He learned the 'lingo' so he'd know what I meant when I declared 'damn these DPNs!!'. He's even brags to all his guy friends about all the items I make for him with my own two hands.
When we leave the house and I bring my knitting, he double checks the bag to make sure I got everything, and always says "do you have the right size dpns with you? what about your tapestry needle? is this enough yarn or should we stop at LYS?' Gotta :heart: him!

BinkyKat
01-19-2006, 10:26 PM
My DH really truly supports my hobbies as well. With good natured ribbing aside, he agrees when I point out to him that his R/C hobby's importance to him is what knitting is to me

Yay Men! Ewe rock! :happydance: :heart:

Lisa1216
01-20-2006, 10:42 AM
My husband is awesome too! He has always had hobbies and when he gets into something, it is all or nothing. (His hobby right now is cars) I used to knit years ago and then gave it up because of neck pain that I had. I just recently started up again and haven't stopped. He just laughs when I get all excited about a pattern or some yarn and says 'It's about time you got back into doing something for yourself'. I asked him if he wanted me to knit anything for him, and he said 'No, just knit what you want to do'. (I bet if I could knit him a hot rod or a '69 Camaro, he'd love it!!) He's my best friend! :heart: :heart:

punkhippiemom
01-20-2006, 11:49 AM
I have to say, my DH was NOT very supportive of my knitting, for a long time... he still likes to poke fun at me for my knitter's ADD and seems seriously concerned with me hurting my hands, but he did mention the other day that "..at least with your hobby, you have something to show for it when you're done." And I have to add, that even tho he has no clue what I'm talking about most of the time, he lets me ramble and bounce ideas off of him, and he was genuinely happy for me when I found out I might be getting some patterns published. :thumbsup: Slowly but surely, he's coming around!

Angelia
01-20-2006, 11:58 AM
My dh is really supportive, too. He's so happy that I've found something that I enjoy doing. We do quibble about knitty purchases sometimes, but only because I exceed monthly the very budget that I set for myself and swore to adhere to. :rollseyes: But he's a dear and always "oooohs" and "aahhhhs" when I complete something. (And he's not faking them!) Hopefully my dh will turn out like Lonnie and learn enough about knitting to buy surprise gifties like Addis! ;)

Anyway, big hugs for my Rob!

Darhain
01-20-2006, 02:52 PM
Knitting has become my way of relaxing, working through anxiety, depression and grief, and feeling a sense of accomplishment. (SAHM's sometimes feel rather bereft of this feeling, given the day to day undoing of your accomplishments!)


Yessssssss!!!! Yes! Yes! Yes! I call knitting my "mommy therapy".


He's glad that I found something that gives me enjoyment and a sense of accomplishment. With past hobbies--I usually became overly critical and frustrated--with knitting I feel good about my efforts and I think he can see that.


Are you me?!? :lol: DH says the same thing. He's glad I am doing something for me again, and that I'm really enjoying it and not expecting to be perfect from the start. Motherhood had pretty much taken over my life there for awhile, and I was starting to get serious burn out. The knitting is giving me a sense of myself again, and DH is thrilled!

I am so thankful for the opportunity I have been given to live such a blessed life with DH! He really is the perfect man (for me)!

Andrea
01-20-2006, 02:59 PM
My DH is very supportive too...He is so proud of me that I set out to learn something new and I have STUCK with it for once (after failed attempts at scrapbooking and stamping). He's so proud of his clogs and brags about how I love to knit. He bought me a personalized license plate frame for my motorcycle that says "Born to Ride, Love to Knit". :D He loves telling people how I learned how to ride a motorcycle and how to knit in the same month last summer. The only time he makes a peep is when I'm on here too much!! :D He's just so happy I'm happy though!! Last fall I also dragged him up to a YS in Wisconsin that took a couple hours to find (we had to navigate through a bunch of county roads that were a little hard to find!!)---the best part of course, is that we both rode our motorcycles up there, so we had a great time!!! By the time we got there he said "You BETTER buy something!!!" :roflhard:

rebecca
01-20-2006, 05:18 PM
:D I'm so very, very happy as I sit here and read about these wonderful, wonderful husbands....and ya'll asked me to see if Lonnie would give lessons or if perhaps we could clone him....I always knew that he was not the only one ;)
Newbieknit & hubby remind me very much of us...Lonnie got me started knitting and he will go to the store & pick up something/anything at the drop of a hat...LOL, my LYS owner just loves him & says he's one of a kind bc of his devotion to my knitting :heart: . Of course, I must agree with her :inlove: !!
Let's hear it for these AMAZING mates :cheering: :cheering: :cheering:

witis1
01-20-2006, 05:44 PM
My sweet fiance was supportive from the start, helping me to choose little gifts to make for the babies on his side of the family, and I was very happy with that! Then, last week, he went so far as to ask me to teach him to cast on and knit, he made a cute little swatch which was actually very even! I don't see him doing it much in the future, but he wanted to understand more about the work I was putting into it.

-w <-- totally in love!

Ellen Edwards
01-21-2006, 05:23 AM
Gotta add one more!! My dh has supported me for 40 years this coming June 30!! Through crocheting, watercolors, counted cross stitch, writing, and now knitting for the last year or so---he has smiled, and told others about how talented and smart his wife is. The people where he works tell me how much they hear about my projects and how much he loves me!

I know that sometimes when I'm concentrating on knitting I miss something he says and have to ask him over, but he's a musician ( and I am, too) and he's often working something out on the banjo or guitar, and he might miss something I tell him. The thing is--we're in the same room, enjoying one another's company in our little blue home , talking or quiet--we love each other, and when you do love someone--how can you not support them in what they do??

He almost NEVER buys anything for himself, and at Christmas , he asked me to write a list of knitting things I'd like, so that he could get me something I like. :heart:

You've heard of "spousal support"?? I think if spouses supported each other in the things they love, then there would be a lot less of that "other" support needed!! :shock:

Angelia
01-21-2006, 09:01 AM
I think you've just explained beautifully how a couple can stay together happily for 40 years! :heart: :heart:

njknitter
01-21-2006, 09:55 AM
No one gives kudos better than my hubby Dave! He enjoys seeing close friends and family reactions to special gifts as much as I do. He has really good taste and once in a while I can get him in a yarn store to help me pick patterns and/or yarn, so he gets to take some credit for the outcome!!

You are all truly blessed, as am I, to have a relationship that works on (I expect) many levels beyond your hobby!!

Lynn

Ellen Edwards
01-21-2006, 12:24 PM
Thanks Angelia!! It's all about the love!! :heart: It DO make the world go 'round, you know!! ;)

kitkat
01-21-2006, 01:35 PM
My ex-hubby was never supportive - at the time I wasn't knitting, but I quilted, as I was doing my SAHM activities. In his eyes, "success" was all about the money and the accolades, not about the accomplishments.

I believe that in a good relationship, your spouse will BE supportive of your activities, and applaud your accomplishments. My NEXT boyfriend (and he is out there I just need to get out and find him) will be in that category. I see that there are lots of supportive mates out there, and I am happy for all of you!

Kirochka
01-23-2006, 03:07 PM
My DH is so sweet, I put him in my Avatar!!! :heart: :heart:

He's also a lot more patient than I am (er... except behind the wheel of a car), so when I sit there ripping out the umpteenth attempt at ribbing because yet again I've purled when I should have knitted, he's a good person to be sitting next to... leading by calm example!

I can't imagine when he wouldn't be supportive of me, and knitting is no exception. He makes a huge fuss when I manage to complete a tiny little square of something, as if I've just created a masterpiece!

Can't help lovin' that man!
:D