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Sharly
08-30-2007, 02:14 PM
I think I just need to get in the shower, run some nice hot water and have a good cry! The least little thing will set me off, and I get all teary, and I have to fight it back because I'm not where I can just let go. The last two mornings on the way to work, I've had to choke it back, and I think right now, I could really get into a bad ugly-cry if I had half a chance. I think if I can go ahead and indulge it, I'll feel better. Just wondered if everyone else feels this way every now and then?

:cry:

auburnchick
08-30-2007, 02:26 PM
About nine months after my dad died, I was having a very difficult time. I took his death very hard because we were apart for many, many years due to my parents being divorced when I was young. My mom had pretty much brainwashed me into thinking he had been an ogre, but we had reconciled after I had my son. We had about five years to get to know one another again...long-distance...

One day I went through my closet looking for something and came across my baby album. I sat and cried and cried as I turned those pages. Kids weren't home (I was a SAHM), and so I had the whole day.

I felt so much better afterward. This was the turning point for me in my grieving process.

So, go ahead and pick a part of the day to try to figure out what's going on inside your head. You'll feel like a weight's been lifted.

jodstr2
08-30-2007, 02:29 PM
:hug: yep. go ahead and let it out. :hug:

Riss
08-30-2007, 02:40 PM
All the time. Sometimes everything just gets to be too much. Crying is like purging. Having a good cry almost always makes me feel better. It doesn't solve the issues, but it does make you feel better.

*hugs*

Sharly
08-30-2007, 02:44 PM
Thanks guys!! Poor hubby! He thinks there has to be a reason!! Bless his heart - he always wants to do whatever he can to make it stop. That's why I have to resort to the shower cry....so it can be a good long one...something about washing all the tears down the drain, I guess...

Thanks...

Sharly
08-30-2007, 02:45 PM
AuburnChick: :hug:

I was close to both my parents and had lost them both by the time I turned 38. I so totally felt like an orphan.

Riss:

You are so right about not solving anything, but there's something to be said about the purge!!

bailsmom
08-30-2007, 02:46 PM
I agree!! Let those tears flow honey. I don't cry as often as I should cause I get horrible headaches/migraines when I do that.....kinda sucks, but sometimes I just have to cry and deal with the pain later.

I'm sorry you're sad. I hope you feel better soon. :hug:

marykz
08-30-2007, 02:48 PM
I think everyone feels that way sometimes. life just builds up and even if there isn't a "good" reason right that minute, a good cry can work wonders. you are definitely not alone. hang in there...

Sharly
08-30-2007, 02:51 PM
Hey everyone! Pity Party at my place - admission charge: Chocolate!! :lol:

I would say more about how nice you all are, but the waterworks are threatening to start!!!

JessicaR
08-30-2007, 02:56 PM
I do it all the time. I let things build up and build up until I just, well, lose it. I cry and feel sorry for myself and sulk. But in the morning I'm so much better. I call it crash and rebuild. Weird I know :eyes:

stitchwitch
08-30-2007, 03:07 PM
Reminds me of the time I sat down before work (loathed the job and the boss) to eat some cereal my husband had prepared for me. I had a complete mental meltdown and started sobbing uncontrollably. Poor thing had no idea what happened and kept saying "I'll make ya' something else". I couldn't speak so he just thought I was upset over the cereal. :roflhard:
I have a tendency to stuff alot of stuff down and just keep going and ignoring it. I'm no stranger to the crying outburst at totally the inappropriate time. I lost it one time at a store during Christmas shopping. I wish I had learned to deal with stuff as it happens but unfortunately I never did.

cindycactus
08-30-2007, 03:12 PM
The shower is the very best place to let it go. I have done that all my life. The hot water is soothing and no one can hear. If you get out of a hot shower with a red face noone asks why!! Hope you feel better.

Sharly
08-30-2007, 03:12 PM
Awww Stitchwitch! I can so identify!! Thanks for the laugh, though! That was cute :)

Sharly
08-30-2007, 03:13 PM
The shower is the very best place to let it go. I have done that all my life. The hot water is soothing and no one can hear. If you get out of a hot shower with a red face noone asks why!! Hope you feel better.

So True!!!

Chel
08-30-2007, 03:34 PM
I have been that way ever since Daniel died. Sept 26 will be 2 years and talking or thinking about him makes me tear up. If I don't stop immediately I can't dam it back up.

Its been worse this summer since my mom got sick and I don't have privacy-even in the bathroom since mom is on heavy diuretics. I usually go for a drive and just cry in the car. I totally understand what you mean.

I say let it out and then dry your eyes on a dove bar wrapper.

sinistral_needler
08-30-2007, 03:36 PM
You just cry as much as you need to, sweetie! Sometimes, all it takes for me, is to watch a really good episode of Extreme Home Makeover. The episode of Wisconsin had me bawling my eyes out. :waah:

Then, when I think that enough's enough .. I think about SpongeBob Squarepants.:clink:

Sharly
08-30-2007, 03:46 PM
I have been that way ever since Daniel died. Sept 26 will be 2 years and talking or thinking about him makes me tear up. If I don't stop immediately I can't dam it back up.

Its been worse this summer since my mom got sick and I don't have privacy-even in the bathroom since mom is on heavy diuretics. I usually go for a drive and just cry in the car. I totally understand what you mean.

I say let it out and then dry your eyes on a dove bar wrapper.

:hug: to you! And I like the dove bar wrapper idea :)

Sharly
08-30-2007, 03:47 PM
Spongebob! :lol:

brendajos
08-30-2007, 04:10 PM
I am pretty sure that is normal for girls in general. That's why we have movies like "Beaches." We may loathe the movie and make fun of it in general but it is a good movie for those days we need to cry.

One day I was at a video store and picking movies to buy. I walked up to the counter and then realized the selection I had chosen... "Revenge" with Kevin Costner (if you haven't seen it it is a good cry movie), "Dying Young," and "Beaches." I laughed as I looked at the selection and realized that it must be a day when I needed a good cry.

My favorite part of the girly need to cry for no apparent reason? It REALLY messes with men because they can't figure out WHY...lol. (yes that is mean of me because they can't help wanting to try to fix things. :teehee:)

debinoz
08-30-2007, 11:25 PM
I'm a regular waterworks over here! The kids make fun of me all the time. I'll be watching a movie, crying, minding my own business and one of them will yell, "Mom? Are you crying again?!"

DH came home today after being gone for almost a month and I keep bawling. He keeps asking what's wrong and if it's because he's home and he could leave if it upset me that much... my answer?? "I'm not crying because you're home, I'm crying because you're home!!" I think he finally figured out what I meant.

ChroniclesofYarnia
08-30-2007, 11:54 PM
I do this regularly. I think it is a very cleansing thing, and helps to maintain composure at times that you don't want to cry. (I am a nervous, angry cryer. I hate it.)

Sometimes, since I live in the middle of nowhere, I will go on a walk and cry. That seems to work well...but sitting in the shower is the best.

robynbird
08-31-2007, 12:53 AM
I always feel better once I let it all out and can cry without worrying over anyone seeing/getting worried about WHY I'm crying. I usually stuff it all down but since my mom died, I have regular sobbing sessions. I do try to not do it in front of the kids as they just want to fix mommy.

Sajomaro
08-31-2007, 02:24 AM
I'm a believer in having a good cry every now and then. You need the release.
When I was in high school a song came out titled "Cry if you want to". Can't remember who sang it but Holly Cole (1993)did a version as did Paul Brandt (2001). I think it says all that needs to be said.

Cry (if you want to)
by: Holly Cole

Cry if you want
I wont tell you not to
I wonít try to cheer you up
Ill just be here if you want me

Itís no use in keeping a stiff upper lip
You can weep you can sleep you can loosen your grip
You can frown you can drown and go down with the ship
You cry if you want to
Donít ever apologize venting your pain
Its something to me you donít need to explain
I donít need to know why
I donít think itís insane
You can cry if you want to

The windows are closed
The neighbors arenít home
If itís better with me than to do it alone
Ills draw all the curtains and unplug the phone
You can cry if you want

You can stare at the ceiling and tear at your hair
Swallow your feelings and stager and swear
You could show things and throw things and I wouldnít care
You can cry if you want to

I wonít make fun of you
I wonít tell any one
I wonít analyze what you do or you should have done
I wonít advise you to go and have fun
You can cry if you want to

Well itís empty and ugly and terribly sad
I canít feel what you feel but I no it feel bad
I no that its real and it makes you so mad
You could cry

Cry if you want to I wonít tell you not to
I wonít try and cheer you up
Ill just be here if you want me; to be
Near you

cindycactus
08-31-2007, 09:31 AM
I'm a regular waterworks over here! The kids make fun of me all the time. I'll be watching a movie, crying, minding my own business and one of them will yell, "Mom? Are you crying again?!"

DH came home today after being gone for almost a month and I keep bawling. He keeps asking what's wrong and if it's because he's home and he could leave if it upset me that much... my answer?? "I'm not crying because you're home, I'm crying because you're home!!" I think he finally figured out what I meant.

Seems clear to me!!!!:woohoo:

Sharly
08-31-2007, 11:36 AM
DH came home today after being gone for almost a month and I keep bawling. He keeps asking what's wrong and if it's because he's home and he could leave if it upset me that much... my answer?? "I'm not crying because you're home, I'm crying because you're home!!" I think he finally figured out what I meant.

I so know what you mean!!! I did the same thing when DH was only gone for two weeks and came home!!

I usually stuff it all down but since my mom died, I have regular sobbing sessions.

:hug:There's just nothing like wanting your Mom, is there?:cry:

Update: I did have that good cry. Unfortunately, I didn't make it to the shower, but I was sitting on the side of the bed. The worst thing was that I had my contacts in...I hate to cry with my contacts in!! We are having a thing at work in a few weeks where people have to match the baby picture to the employee, and I wasn't even thinking when I took that box out to look for a picture, but it all came over me really quickly. My sweet dh was a doll and just gave me the room I needed. He asked me this morning if I was cried out. I told him, I think I'm over that crying for no reason jag, but I could probably get started pretty easily with a little provoking. Thanks to you all for your support. You guys are the best!! :muah:

robynbird
08-31-2007, 11:54 AM
:hug:There's just nothing like wanting your Mom, is there?:cry:
Nope. :sad:

Eloewien
08-31-2007, 09:38 PM
sometimes crying is just the best stress relief-- my husband knows this, and sometimes he just gives me the push I need to start bawling (I often hold it back too long)... he's really wonderful about it and he'll just hold me, which helps too

Quiltlady
09-01-2007, 04:03 AM
I think we all need a good cry once in awhile. I had one just yesterday. I went to my doctors due to left hip pain and he had it xrayed and come to find out I NEED hip relacement surgery!!! I am only 53 and I was shocked. :hair:

I know I have arthritis in a lot of my joints and only wanted a pain killer so I could move on with my life in more comfort. So now I have to call a specialist on Tuesday..yes you can bet I had a GOOD cry when I got home.

Sharly
09-02-2007, 08:20 AM
Eloewien: Hey - I was so glad to see the Hokies win their first game yesterday - I can only imagine how emotional that was.

Quiltlady: I'm so sorry to hear you are having to go through this. My sil actually had a hip replacement in her 40's. I think she has never regretted it and is so glad to be without that pain! I know she found a lot of support on the i-net. I bet you can find a forum similar to this one somewhere. Best wishes to you -

Jeremy
09-03-2007, 07:15 PM
I think Brendajos is right about men wanting to fix things. I don't really know if its a cultural thing or a biological thing. I can tell you that I regret not having cried at the time my father died. I only let it out years later. I don't regret sobbing when my first son went off to college. I really felt the loss and I adjusted much better than my wife who really didn't cry. The Greeks called the purge that you get when you cry catharsis and designed their tragedies for that purpose. This was, of course, before Beaches was filmed.:)

brendajos
09-03-2007, 08:10 PM
This was, of course, before Beaches was filmed.:)


:teehee: that gets you a big ol' hug for making me giggle like that. :hug:


Yay for you getting it out!!

Knitting_Guy
09-03-2007, 09:14 PM
Nope

PurlyGyrl
09-06-2007, 03:54 PM
:roflhard: Mason!! :roflhard:

Thanks for the giggle!