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Eccie
06-24-2008, 03:36 PM
I usually don't share personal things, especially the bad personal things but I've had all I can take and I need to vent a little, I guess.

It all started in January. Our one and only car decided to stop working, luckily hubbie's mom had a car she wasn't using and my dad hauls car across country so he was able to pick it up and bring it to us. We borrowed money from my parents to get insurance and get it registered in this state.

In March, Hubbie's work decided they needed to do some downsizing to save money and so they let several people go, one of which was the hubster. The next month on his way to a job interview a blood clot in his leg broke loose and traveled to his lungs. He's fine now but it resulted in a long hospital stay and a lot of recovery time during which he couldn't continue to look for work. I blogged about the health issues, if you wanna look on my blog.

2 weeks ago he got a very promising job lead, had a phone interview and then a face to face interview where he found out he was the top candidate for the job. The man said he'd call us on the 23 or 24th to let us know if he got the job or not. We got a call today saying the man in charge had a family emergency and would be out of the office all this week so they'd call and let us know something next Monday.

We're out of money, our bills are behind, our rent is behind, and this man had to go on vacation for a week? I know that's selfish, he had some sort of family crisis that needed his attention, but I'm having a family crisis too! It's so extremely hard to wait to hear and to then find out that we have to wait another week to even see if he has the job!! Argh!

I know lots of people are having financial and medical problems right now but I would greatly appreciate it if you could keep us in your thoughts or say a little prayer, light a candle, or whatever it is you do.

I fell a little better having gotten it off my chest. Thanks for "listening" :)

scout52
06-24-2008, 04:12 PM
Oh wow what hard time you have been lately. thank goodness your husband is ok now. Please vent all you want. sometimes it's the only way to make yourself feel better. I will keep you in my thoughts. Good luck on the job. Please update us.

Knit4Fun
06-24-2008, 04:44 PM
What a lot to deal with at once...I'm so sorry you are going through all that. When it rains, it pours sometimes, doesn't it?

I've had similar times when it seems that all the news coming in is negative and it sure wears a person down. When that happens, all I want to do is cry and throw things...and sometimes I do! :-) But eventually, I can start to see a golden lining or at least see my way through the tough times. It sure is hard sometimes, though. I tend to feel alone and like no one has ever experienced what I am going through...which is totally silly, of course.

Is there anyone that can help you with maybe a little loan or something to tide you over? Sometimes it is so hard to ask for help, but hey, we all need a hand now and then and there is no shame in asking. It takes a brave person to admit they need some help. Or maybe you have some things you've been meaning to get rid of that you could sell to get some money? Just thinking out loud here.

In the meantime, my best advice to you is to keep your chin up - think of the little things in life that are still okay and that you still feel blessed about - sometimes that can make all the difference.

I will certainly pray for you and your husband...for prosperous, happy, peaceful times to return and stay. Big hugs to you... :hug:

tarrentella
06-24-2008, 05:38 PM
So much love and hugs for you.

Im sorry to hear about your troubles. Waiting can be so hard especially when youa re in such a tough situation. I have my fingers crossed that next monday will bring good news.

saracidaltendencies
06-24-2008, 06:25 PM
I'm so sorry you're going through all that :hug::hug::hug: I can totally relate to the situation (minus the blood clot). I know what you mean about feeling selfish about the time off from the prospective employer, my hubby had gone through the same thing...He applied for a job, interviewed, they were really interested and were supposed to call back in a week, then, BOTH guys in charge had family emergencies so we waited on that, and, in the end, they never called back.

He finally got another job, but, the pay still isn't what we need. We're too all out of money, behind on all but 2 bills (house payment and 2nd mortgage), and, we don't know what we're going to do about gas so hubby can get to work the rest of the week.

I don't say this to try to compare, but, hopefully it is somewhat, somehow, sort of a relief knowing that it's NOT you guys and NOT your fault. The whole economy is such a wreck right now it's absolutely ridiculous. We were better off even only 3 years ago than we are now, it's crazy. You'd think, over time, a situation would improve, pay would increase, etc. and it's just incredible it doesn't necessarily work out that way.

I don't know that my point of view is the best, but, I've learned to just stop worrying about it. I spent so much of my time worried that I literally made myself sick. I suffered from panic attacks, stomach pains, sleeplessness, etc. then, one day, I just quit caring...lol...My once excellent credit is now horrible and I don't care! :teehee: Well, I do "care" but I just don't worry anymore. It's so much easier for me to get through my days if I just put it out of my mind. As long as I have food for my kids, a roof over our heads, and enough gas in the car for hubby to get to work and back, I say F the rest...lol

I'm truly hoping things work out for you soon, I swear, I know, so many of us know how incredibly difficult it is right now and it just doesn't seem fair. You'll definitely be in my thoughts and I'm hoping for the best for you! :hug:

Wanda Witch
06-24-2008, 06:29 PM
You certainly have been handed a huge load. And, as Knit4Fun wrote it never rains but what it pours. I think all of us here who read about this current crisis you are experiencing will keep you and your husband in our thoughts and prayers and hopefully, next Monday will bring good news. :thumbsup:Crossed Fingers

auburnchick
06-24-2008, 07:38 PM
:hug:

BobbiKnits
06-24-2008, 08:12 PM
So sorry about all the bad luck. I'll be saying a little prayer for you as soon as I finish typing, I promise! I hope things get better!

Plantgoddess+
06-24-2008, 08:21 PM
Sorry to hear about all the problems. It does seem when you're there that there is no light at the end of the tunnel. When hubby and I went through similar tough times we found the way to survive being behind in the bills was to contact creditors and talk to them. We were able to work out reduced payments temporarily until we could find an income source.
It also brought us closer together as we scrambled to find anyway to make a buck.
I wish you all the best in coming throught these hard times a stronger couple.

mwhite
06-24-2008, 10:18 PM
:muah: :hug: And lots of prayers...been there and know how you feel.

bailsmom
06-24-2008, 11:21 PM
Oh God! That's awful! I'm so sorry you are having such a tough time. I'm so glad your DH is okay after having that blood clot! That must have been so scary for you both. And I'm sorry you have to wait another week to hear about the job, that really sucks. I'd feel the same as you do. Will say a prayer for you and your family right away, and I'll ask my mother too. She's quite the prayer warrior. :)

Many :hug: to you and your DH.

Eccie
06-25-2008, 12:14 AM
Thanks all, it really makes me smile to read the things you've all written. You guys are great!

evona
06-25-2008, 03:26 PM
. . .We were better off even only 3 years ago than we are now, it's crazy. You'd think, over time, a situation would improve, pay would increase, etc. and it's just incredible it doesn't necessarily work out that way.



I too am feeling the crunch so I can totally relate to you eccie and you too Demonica. Unfortunately, my pay has increased and I was doing a little better. I was never rich, but I was getting to the point where i didn't have to juggle bills and could even take the kids out to eat or get them an extra cd or something every once in a while, but now I just can't sustain simple life with the rise in gas and food prices. I don't have a house, I rent a small duplex for me and my my 2 kids. I want to tell my boss that I need a raise but I fear the consequences and that I wouldn't be able to find a job even paying what I am making now.

Just like you Demonica, I don't say these things to garner sympathy or to undermine eccie's dilemma. I just want you both to know that you have company and maybe we can ALL remind each other with our stories that we aren't alone and things will get better. It may seem like its all too much and it might be hard at times to see the light under all our problems. But we've survived this far, we will survive even longer. I think in times like this we should take every bit of good news, no matter how small, and revel in it :roflhard: Its hard to remember that we were ever happy when we are so sad and worried, but good times will come. Something will make you smile, then laugh, then jump up and down with excitement :) :)

Crossed Fingers That your husband will land that job, or one even better and in the mean time :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

Eccie
06-25-2008, 05:16 PM
Just like you Demonica, I don't say these things to garner sympathy or to undermine eccie's dilemma. I just want you both to know that you have company and maybe we can ALL remind each other with our stories that we aren't alone and things will get better.

I appreciate both of you sharing your stories. I does make me feel slightly better knowing that I'm not alone. We're going tomorrow to speak to someone about some government assistance. I'm really kinda embarrassed about that but none of our friends and family have anything to spare right now, and well we gotta eat :aww:

mwhite
06-25-2008, 06:01 PM
I appreciate both of you sharing your stories. I does make me feel slightly better knowing that I'm not alone. We're going tomorrow to speak to someone about some government assistance. I'm really kinda embarrassed about that but none of our friends and family have anything to spare right now, and well we gotta eat :aww:

Do not be embarrassed about this. The programs are set up to help you when you need them...despite the fact that there are people abusing them. In fact, you have contributed to these programs, either in taxes or the election of the officials that implement them, so why not take advantage when you are in need? Everyone suffers setbacks at one time or another in their lives. It's all a part of the "school of hard knocks". Sometimes you have no control of what life throws at you. :muah: and :hug:

evona
06-25-2008, 06:24 PM
I 2nd mwhite . . . you should not feel embarrassed! The programs are there to help people who find themselves in tough positions beyond their control :hug: :hug:

saracidaltendencies
06-25-2008, 10:29 PM
Indeed, there's no need to feel embarrassment, you're trying your hardest and sometimes it's just not enough, no matter what you do. I was checking into government assistance just last night and found a site you may find useful as well. You fill out a short questionnaire (your answers are not saved and you will not be contacted) and based on your answers, it gives you a list of different government programs you may be eligible for.

Here's the link if you'd like to check it out:

http://www.govbenefits.gov/govbenefits_en.portal;jsessionid=K8ZNLv1MbQdxV9h5T 2kG0nC38WzLBmYLZRbfdKylKdnThDZQfQPp!-984725542?_nfpb=true&_pageLabel=gbcc_page_questionnaire&_nfls=false&filter=&interestedInSpecificBids=false

Knitting_Guy
06-25-2008, 11:51 PM
:hug:

Debkcs
06-26-2008, 05:04 AM
Eccie, we've been where you are now, it was very hard, and we only had one child. Don't feel embarrased, as others said, you have paid into the system, you should get some benefits out of it.

Have you a church that you attend? When we were going through this, our church brought food, and picked up some of my DH's hospital bills, plus one lady who paid our electrical bills and bought my son his new stuff for third grade. That was 21 years ago, and I still thank God for every one of them! (We both had to have surgery, within a month of one another :???: ) They wouldn't accept repayment, but we did pass it on.

Demonica, that is a great site, thanks. Going to save it for the future. We're going to be seeing more of this, I think.

Eccie
06-26-2008, 04:46 PM
Do not be embarrassed about this. The programs are set up to help you when you need them.

Thanks I needed to hear that.

We got a call this morning saying that the funding for the job had been pulled so, no job :(

We went to Christian Ministries this morning and they're gonna help with part of our power bill, and we signed up for temporary food stamps. So I've had a day of mixed ups and downs :P