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saracidaltendencies
11-09-2009, 11:35 AM
Ok, first off let me say I love my husband dearly, but, he can be such a pain in the butt! :teehee:

Ugh...Ok, he is the pickiest eater I have EVER known! I'm trying to think of something I can cook for Thanksgiving that he will eat...My family all gets together at my mom and dad's house and my sister, sister in law, and I each bring a dish...I used to bring green bean casserole, but, he won't eat it, then, last year, I made a really good potato casserole (the kind with the corn flakes) that he also refused to eat...He won't eat anything that contains potatoes (on very rare occasions he'll eat a couple french fries or tater tots, but that's it), he doesn't like stuffing or gravy, he doesn't like anything with the word "casserole" in it, and there are other things he refuses to eat just because he thinks it "looks gross"...GAH!

It's also important to note we are vegetarians...

We have a huge variety of food at Thanksgiving but he's so picky he eats hardly any of it! We have corn, mashed potatoes and gravy (plus a delicious vegetarian gravy my dad makes), stuffing (my dad makes a wonderful vegetarian stuffing as well), cauliflower with cheese, a vegetable tray, salad, rolls, cranberry sauce, my mom makes a ham for the meat eaters...I'm sure there's more but I can't think of the rest...lol...Anyway, all hubby will eat is the salad, rolls, corn, and cauliflower with cheese. I want to bring something he will eat and every time I ask him what he'd like me to make, his response is, "I don't know." :hair:

I have been looking at all sorts of vegetarian recipe sites for ideas but most of what I have found is potato based or casseroles!

My mom and I were joking that if I found a casserole that I think hubby might like I'd tell him it was called a "combination" instead of casserole. :teehee:

Anyway, I was wondering if anyone has any vegetarian (or simply non-meat) Thanksgiving type recipes they wouldn't mind sharing that don't contain potatoes and aren't casseroles...lol...It doesn't have to be an entree, just like a side dish or appetizer...I'm driving myself crazy trying to find something and I'm about ready to give up and tell hubby too damn bad...lol

Thanks!!

Jan in CA
11-09-2009, 11:38 AM
We always have candied sweet potatoes. Will he eat those?

saracidaltendencies
11-09-2009, 01:56 PM
Unfortunately, no, being potatoes...I swear, he's impossible! Thank you, though!

zkimom
11-09-2009, 02:11 PM
Is he complaining that there isn't enough for him to eat? If not, make what you want and let him enjoy what he eats. If he is, tell him to grow up. Even my kids know they have to at least try something before telling me they don't like it and won't eat it.

Really, at some point you are going to let him own his own food issues. Most of the "food challenged" people I know have learned that they have to deal with the fact that not everyone eats the way they do or is willing to cater to them all the time.

Hope that is not too blunt!

Susan

saracidaltendencies
11-09-2009, 03:00 PM
No, he doesn't complain about there not being enough, he just hardly eats anything then later, once we're home, complains about being hungry...lol...Thing is, with him, he is hands down the most stubborn person I have ever met...I mean I am stubborn as can be but no where near as bad as he is! He just flat out refuses to try anything he doesn't like ('cause he didn't like it when he was a kid...I think possibly the foods that were cooked for him when he was a child were less than stellar and that has led him to refuse to try anyone else's version), or anything he thinks looks gross...My kids aren't even as picky as their father!

As far as making something else he will eat for Thanksgiving, it would of course be for everyone, not just him, but I wanted to make something he would eat, to try to be nice...lol...My kindness is, however, wearing thin...:teehee:

GinnyG
11-09-2009, 03:02 PM
This is my FAVORITE Vegatarian THANKSGIVING Recipie. I was a vegatarian for many years (I eat chicken now) and made this every year to replace the turkey.

Carrot and Cashew Nut Roast
1 medium size onion
1-2 cloves garlic crushed
1tsp olive oil
2 cups carrots cooked an mashed
2 cups cashews ground
1 cup whole wheat bread crumbs
1 tbsp light tahini (sesame paste)
1 1/2 tsps caraway seeds
Juice of 1/2 lemon
1/3 cup stock from carrots salt and pepper

saute onions and garlic til sofe
Mix together with other ingredietns
place mixture in greased load pan
cover with foil and bake for 350 degrees for 1 hour
remove foil and bake for another 10 minutes

let stand in pan for about 15 minutes before turning out

slice like meat loaf

good hot OR cold!!

cftwo
11-09-2009, 03:03 PM
Your hubby and I would have similar items on our plates. Should I share the time I had green beans and pumpkin pie for Thanksgiving dinner? As a long-time vegetarian who generally dislikes Thanksgiving foods, here's my suggestion.

The best Thanksgiving dish I had that I enjoyed for the FOOD as opposed to the company was the rice stuffing in the Tofurkey turkey dinner package. The Tofurkey itself I could take or leave, but the stuffing was really good. And I detest the traditional bread stuffing. (Apparently, the tofurkey stuffing they make now has both bread and rice. I'm very disappointed.)

Unfortunately, I haven't had a whole lot of luck finding a recipe for it. Here's a possibility, though (sub vegetable broth, of course, and I'd probably leave out the mushrooms since I only eat those if I can't tell they're in the dish - broccoli makes a good colorful substitute):
http://allrecipes.com/Recipe/Wild-Rice-Stuffing/Detail.aspx

Stuffed squash is another quasi-traditional vegetarian option: http://allrecipes.com/Recipe/Wild-Rice-Stuffed-Squash/Detail.aspx

I'm sometimes tempted to go completely un-traditional and make a risotto (yummy) or lasagna or enchiladas or something like that. I am never sure whether traditional foods or the idea of FEASTING should win out. Personally, I think a feasting holiday where I fast really stinks.

GinnyG
11-09-2009, 03:14 PM
Here is one more (I had to go find it). I use a lot of ground nuts for Holiday meals (too lazy the rest of the year).

Mixed Nut Balls

2/3 C ground almonds
2/3 C ground hazelnuts
2/3 C ground pecans
3/4 C sholewheat breadcrumbs
1 cup cheddar cheese grated
1 egg beaten
4 tbsps sherry
1 small onion chopped finely
1 tbsp grate fresh ginger
1 tbsp fresh parsley
1 small red or green chili pepper chopped finely
1 medium red pepper diced
1 tsp salt
1 tsp ground pepper

In another bowl mix beaten egg with sherry onion ginger and parsley chili and red pepper
Combine with nut mixture and add salt and pepper

If mixture is too dry add a little more sherry (you can use milk instead)

from into 1 inch balls, arrange on a well greased baking sheet and bake for 25 minutes at 180-200degrees until golden brown.

I make aplate of these and several bowls of dipping sauce; honey mustard; ranch; marinara sauce etc.

vaknitter
11-09-2009, 03:17 PM
HMMM - I am at work and my recipes are at home...I am not a white tater fan or casserole fan either (not a fan of "one pot dinners" and still have nightmares about my mothers tuna noodle dinner.
As for the picky hubby, what about some sort of lentil salad, rice/lentil pilaf, couscous salad or beans and pasta salad.

saracidaltendencies
11-09-2009, 04:13 PM
Thank you, GinnyG and cftwo, those recipes sound delicious!! Vaknitter, I knew I was forgetting another of hubby's food no-no's...BEANS!! LOL!! Yep, he won't eat anything with any kind of beans either! :wall:

vaknitter
11-09-2009, 04:19 PM
In that case my hubby would starve to death :wink:

saracidaltendencies
11-09-2009, 04:23 PM
:roflhard::roflhard:

Yeah, I'm about to that point...LOL!

MoniDew
11-09-2009, 05:18 PM
Okay - I know this isn't exactly on the topic, but...

Does he have trouble digesting more complex starches? If he won't eat potatoes & beans, maybe there is a reason - that even HE is not aware of - and just "senses" as general dislike :Shrug:

As for mixtures and combination foods - I have heard of other "picky eaters" not liking their foods touching, not liking too many ingredients in a dish. Perhaps their sensation of taste becomes overwhelmed by too many distinct flavors? :Shrug:

I too, used to stuff the most beautiful pumpkin or squash I could find with wild rice, mushrooms, lentils, nuts, etc. as a centerpiece (presentation) dish for a holiday meal. That won't work for your picky eater, but.... for everyone else, perhaps.

Okay, I'm chiming out now and letting the rest of you get back to the real discussion.

saracidaltendencies
11-10-2009, 01:09 AM
OMG, MoniDew, funny you mention the people who don't like food touching, that is TOTALLY him!! He'll get separate plates or bowls for any food that may possibly touch anything else, such as corn or salad or something!! And that taste sensation overload, you could be on to something, not long ago he was going on about liking bland food! :ick: :teehee: I just can't go there, my mom always, always seasons the food she cooks and that's what I grew up on so I like FLAVOR!

HollyP
11-10-2009, 05:06 PM
This is a called Broccoli Casserole but it is more like filling cheesy broccoli. So you can call it what ever you want.:teehee: It is one of my family's favorite dishes. It's definitely not a healthy side dish but soo good.
1 big bag frozen cut broccoli ( 16 oz I think)
1 sleeve Ritz Crackers crushed
8 oz Velveeta cubed
1 stick butter melted

Layer broccoli, cheese, and crackers in 1 qt casserole dish. Cover with melted butter. Bake 30 mins or until bubbly at 350.

melmac51
11-11-2009, 05:12 PM
Demonica, All I can say is "It's a good thing you love him!"

My DH used to be picky. He thought he didn't like cheese. I snuck it into food for years, and he never knew. Now, he openly eats cheese, but not all kinds. He used to tell me to lie to him about ingredients if I thought he wouldn't like it.

margz3
11-11-2009, 05:23 PM
Thank goodness my DH isn't a picky eater! Now, DS on the other hand........

Demonica - can you give us an idea of what he WILL eat? It may be easier for us to come up with suggestions for you! Though I am not a vegetarian, DD's roommate is and we are always trying new things when we have her for dinner.

Ginny - thanks for posting those recipes - they sound yummy! I've printed them to try for DD's roomie :)

Phaedra
11-11-2009, 06:21 PM
How about roasted or sauteed leeks? Maybe cooked in olive oil with some garlic and mushrooms? I've even mixed that into brown rice that I had cooked in vegetable broth instead of water.

Phaedra
11-11-2009, 06:28 PM
Or how about baked spaghetti squash with parm cheese?
Or brussel sprouts (buy frozen) that have been steamed or sauteed (yummy) with butter or olive oil spread? Do you eat butter?

Dimpledapple
11-11-2009, 07:49 PM
I love butternut squash ravioli with brown butter sage sauce! Not only is it delicious, but I can buy the ravioli and only have to worry about making the sauce :) If your hubby doesn't like butternut squash, then you can definitely switch it up by using sweet squash or even pumpkin to stuff the ravioli. This recipe should yield enough sauce for 4-6 servings.

Brown Butter Sage Sauce

1/2 c unsalted butter
10-12 fresh sage leaves

Melt the butter in a large sautee pan (about med/low heat). Add the sage leaves and continue cooking until the butter turns brown, being careful not to burn it. I like for it to have a med amber color. Place the pasta on individual plates and spoon some of the sauce (and sage leaves!) over each of the servings. Sprinkle some Parmigiano-Reggiano cheese on top and enjoy!

saracidaltendencies
11-11-2009, 11:35 PM
Demonica, All I can say is "It's a good thing you love him!"

My DH used to be picky. He thought he didn't like cheese. I snuck it into food for years, and he never knew. Now, he openly eats cheese, but not all kinds. He used to tell me to lie to him about ingredients if I thought he wouldn't like it.


hahaha...Yeah, needless to say, I had noooo idea before we were married just how picky he is! And seriously, it seems he's worsened over the years! I truly believe some of it stems from his stubborn attitude, plain and simple. I mean when he did eat meat he wouldn't eat potatoes or beans or anything and I knew that, but he'd actually eat chicken liver! And have the nerve to tell me he refuses to try vegetable based things because they look gross! As if livers look appetizing! LOL! That's why I think some of it stems from him just being plain 'ol stubborn...If he says he won't try something, he won't do it just to prove a point...The jerk :teehee:

saracidaltendencies
11-11-2009, 11:44 PM
Thank goodness my DH isn't a picky eater! Now, DS on the other hand........

Demonica - can you give us an idea of what he WILL eat? It may be easier for us to come up with suggestions for you! Though I am not a vegetarian, DD's roommate is and we are always trying new things when we have her for dinner.

Ginny - thanks for posting those recipes - they sound yummy! I've printed them to try for DD's roomie :)


LOL! Hmm, what he will eat...Um...He likes pizza! LOL! He'll eat a lot of the MorningStar and Boca products, like the Boca burgers (any veggie burger with the exception of the Full Circle brand veggie burgers, those aren't very good), he'll eat the MorningStar Crumbles, the veggie sausage and bacon, the MorningStar Riblets, Chick Nuggets, and Buffalo Wings...Um...He likes corn and green beans (though we will be having corn with our Thanksgiving dinner)....Um...He likes pasta, pretty much any pasta but the dork refuses to eat angel hair pasta! "The noodles are too thin and don't taste as good." What a weirdo...LOL! Um...heh...This is why I loathe having to make dinner and grocery lists, he is impossible...And when asked, he's no help! He likes cheese...lol...Seriously, that's about all I can think of that I know for a fact he likes! I swear, the dude is lucky he has many other lovable qualities! :teehee:

vaknitter
11-12-2009, 10:53 AM
HAHA my hubby prefers angel hair and thin spaghetti over fettucinni as he says they taste better !!!:roflhard:
Now I can tell the difference btwn peanut butter brands, but I cannot tell (by taste) the difference btwn pasta shells, rotini, spaghetti or bow ties.
After hearing about your husband I really can't complain too much about mine. Before we got married he pretty much ate Taco Bell and Bagel Bites. After 3 yrs of marriage he told me the other day that Taco Bell just doesn't taste that good anymore - that the taco's and burritos we make at home are better. I almost fell off my chair.

melmac51
11-12-2009, 04:48 PM
Have you ever made chili with those crumbles? I know it's not the most traditional Thanksgiving dish, but it sure does taste good! Just put everything that you'd put in regular chili, substituting the crumbles for the meat. Serve it over his favorite pasta.

saracidaltendencies
11-13-2009, 12:21 AM
Unfortunately chili is another thing he refuses to eat, he thinks it looks disgusting...BAH! I love chili! My dad makes this awesome vegetarian chili with chili beans, refried beans, onion, and green pepper, but hubby won't touch it...He is seriously worse than a child! LOL!

saracidaltendencies
11-13-2009, 12:23 AM
HAHA my hubby prefers angel hair and thin spaghetti over fettucinni as he says they taste better !!!:roflhard:
Now I can tell the difference btwn peanut butter brands, but I cannot tell (by taste) the difference btwn pasta shells, rotini, spaghetti or bow ties.
After hearing about your husband I really can't complain too much about mine. Before we got married he pretty much ate Taco Bell and Bagel Bites. After 3 yrs of marriage he told me the other day that Taco Bell just doesn't taste that good anymore - that the taco's and burritos we make at home are better. I almost fell off my chair.

That sounds sooo much like my hubby! Before we were married the only thing he ate was Taco Bell! But, he's definitely gotten pickier over the years because now he won't touch Taco Bell unless it's the Pizza Hut/Taco Bell and he can order a pizza...lol

flea
11-16-2009, 07:38 AM
Good grief!

I thought I had it bad when my husband refused to eat peas because he claims they tried to kill him once. Seriously. He has a phobia since he got choked on a pea from a pot pie.

Other than that though, I have the opposite problem. He'll eat whatever I make and unless it's terrible he'll answer my question about how it was with, "It's gone, isn't it?"

GAR!

saracidaltendencies
11-16-2009, 10:07 AM
:teehee: If peas were the only thing my dear, butt-headed hubby refused to eat, it would be bliss! hahaha

Sorry to hear about your hubby's phobia...Kind of reminds me of a phobia my sister had...She was scared of Count Chocula and Frankenberry (and refused to eat the cereal) for the longest time because she had a nightmare, when she was a kid, that they were outside of her bedroom window...We also had a really hard time convincing her Count Chocula and Frankenberry do not exist aside from being on the cover of cereal boxes...hahaha

Abbily
11-16-2009, 03:56 PM
Demonica, what does he eat on regular days? Just bring something he normally eats, don't worry if it's not something 'fancy'. :)

bambi
11-16-2009, 04:02 PM
Demonica, I would take a steamed veggie that he likes. Simple. If he starves, that is his issue. Put some veggie burgers in your freezer at home and he can eat those later.

Honestly, it is HIS issue and he is welcome to make and bring his own dish. What would he eat if he were single?


My MIL is always encouraging me to pack my husband's lunch. He doesn't eat fruit much though he eats plenty of veggies and she tells me, "I used to cut up fruit and put it out for my family." I tell her, "Patti, he is nearly 40 years old and lived on his own for a long time before I became his wife. He can cut his own fruit if he wants it." I detect a note of holier than thou in her but I don't care. I will cut stuff up for the 4 year old but not the 40 year old!

I guess my point is not to worry so much about him. Just go and have a good time!

Sunshine's Mom
11-16-2009, 04:06 PM
1) Baby carrots sauteed in butter (lots of it) then add brown sugar to it and cook the carrots a little longer in the butter/brown sugar mixture. I hate cooked carrots but I will eat these.

2) What about eggplant parmesan or something like that?

3) Tell him that you HAVE to bring something, but that HE'S making it so he'll eat it and he better get his butt into the kitchen. You'll be happy to go to the store and get him what he needs, but he's in charge of making it. Maybe then he'll realize what a task this is and stop being so fussy.

UruzPhoenix
11-19-2009, 11:00 AM
simple solution:


Make him cook.


we have a rule here, "If you dont' speak up when I ask what you have for ideas when i'm making out the monthly menu then you either eat what i put in front of you or go hungry."

I'm MOM, not maid, not short order cook :)

Debkcs
11-22-2009, 07:00 PM
You're much nicer than I am, if they don't like what's on the table, dinner's over. Yep, eat it or leave.

However, having said that, a guy we consider to be one of our best friends won't, can't, eat tomatoes. Craziness, but I cater to him.

None of us like turkey, so we're having our son's FIL's handmade gnocchi, they're ethereal, lighter than air, marvelous. He's making two sauces, I'm making dessert.

newamy
11-23-2009, 09:55 PM
Will he eat a squash where you cut it open and bake it then add brown sugar?
What about rice?
Pumpkin Pie??
We always have a vegetarian Thanksgiving too, will he eat a Tofurky? They come in a box with some other fixin's and you just follow the directions. Not my favorite but my husband and daughter love it.

saracidaltendencies
11-23-2009, 10:52 PM
Not sure about the squash, but definitely rice and pumpkin pie! We were living off of rice burritos for a while there when money was super tight...lol

melmac51
11-28-2009, 01:41 PM
...so...what did you end up fixing?

saracidaltendencies
11-28-2009, 11:50 PM
lol...Well, I ended up making this stuff called Pickled Mostaccioli...Earlier in the month, I asked my mom if she thought that would be Thanksgiving-ish enough but she said she thought it would be too summery as it's a cold dish so that's when I tried finding other recipes...Then, right before Thanksgiving, she found her menu from last year and saw that I brought it then so she then decided it would work...lol...Thank you everyone for the recipes, I've added them to my recipe stash!!

Oh, and the Pickled Mostaccioli is: cooked mostaccioli noodles, diced cucumber and onion, salt, pepper, garlic, vinegar, sugar, pimentos, parsley, yellow mustard, and Accent...It's sooo good...If anyone wants the recipe, let me know!!