View Full Version : OT: Is 40 too young to have a mid life crisis?
03-11-2010, 05:45 PM
I'm having one of those months where the bad news keeps piling up. Each morning is like a new trial, and even though I have started to knit again I find myself more stressed out than ever. I am the breadwinner in my home, and I fantasize more and more about winning the lottery or running away and becoming a hobo? Can anyone relate?
03-11-2010, 06:24 PM
Relate sure....I'm 44 and unemployed since June 2009. Sometimes I want to just dissappear and become a hermit.
03-11-2010, 06:33 PM
Been there, done that. It isn't a happy place to be. My best advice is to keep it simple. Knit easy things that you can finish quickly. Look for small victories to pursue in other areas, like cleaning out the junk drawer. Watch your old home movies and go through the scrapbook to remind yourself of better times. Keep the faith, whatever it may be. Get some quality exercise every day. Take your vitamins, eat right, and get plenty of sleep.
When I have an ordeal to get through, and I don't know how long it will last, I keep track of how much of it I've already gone through and take some comfort in knowing I'm that much closer to the end of it.:hug:
03-11-2010, 06:59 PM
I had kinda one of those last summer and I'm 35. I was doing the whole "what the H--- am I doing all this for?! What's the point?! etc" and wished I could escape etc.
03-11-2010, 08:24 PM
Sorry you're going through a rough patch. I completely understand feeling like new trials present themselves everyday.
Best of Luck :knitting:
I understand how you feel, and I'm only 21! What I do when I'm super-stressed is either sleep or go on a long drive. I know driving isn't really a valid option sometimes because of the insane gas prices in the US, but going for a walk helps a lot too. I also find taking a complete day off (no classes, no work if I can help it, no phone calls, anything) every now and then helps me decompress, and the next day I come back to reality rested and (more) ready to go.
Don't know if any of my suggestions will help, but I really hope everything works out :)
Oh, and a cup of hot tea, a good book, and a purring kitty can do wonders, too :D
03-11-2010, 11:26 PM
I watch the news, and see how good my life actually is...
03-11-2010, 11:45 PM
Do you remember that Talking Heads song? "This is not my beautiful house! This is not my beautiful wife!" In my case, husband, but yeah. I feel like that sometimes.
Don't get me wrong: I love my husband and child. However, when I was the single city girl, I wished to be married and have a child. I am married with a child but on those bad days...I wish I was a single city girl! I think it is a natural thing. :hug:
03-12-2010, 12:57 AM
You would be amazed at the incredibly negative things lack of Vitamin B1 in your system can create. It's especially important for creative people because that creative energy will burn up the B1 in your body in a red-hot hurry! :)
Yes, it's not the whole answer to whatever ails you, but it surely helps. I take 200 mg of B1 and 500 mg of Vitamin C twice a day and it keeps me revving along. Even if you take a B complex, make sure to take some additional B1 and C.
Once you have that vitamin soothing your nerves (and it does) the other stuff life throws at you is easier to handle.
Hope this helps!
03-15-2010, 03:01 PM
You can feel like this at any age even in your 50s!
03-15-2010, 09:33 PM
I had my first midlife crisis in my late twenties and early thirties. Seriously. When things are bad or hard its easy to believe they will always be that way but that's just an illusion. In 1860, at age 38, Ulysses Grant was reduced to working for his father in a saddle shop having failed at just about everything else. By 1861 he was a general in the Union Army.
I try to get through tough periods in three ways: First, although cliche, I live one day at a time. Today is the only day you are responsible for living. Second, I work, even in small ways, on an "escape plan". In other words I try to have a plan that will get me out of whatever trap I think I'm in and I work on little bits of it every day. It may not pan out, but it makes me feel more positive and that in and of itself can bring change. Third, I count my blessings. When I do, I end up feeling rich.
Best Wishes to you.:hug:
03-16-2010, 04:07 PM
Thank you Jeremy. Well said.
03-16-2010, 09:08 PM
Thanks for all of your responses. I am thankful for all I have and my family that loves me. There are just some days when I just need a break. Hopefully this too shall pass and I will get out of this funk.
03-17-2010, 11:10 AM
I think we all have days/weeks/months like that. I'm hoping that you get to feeling in a more positive state of mind and soon. It's tough feeling that way and then trying to be the cheerleader for everyone around you.
We'll be here to cheer you on :cheering: