View Full Version : What to knit for my bedridden father in law?

03-12-2006, 04:27 PM
My father in law, who lives near us, has recently become bedridden. he has been in a wheelchair for a while so this isn't a huge surprise. He is morbidly obese and has been slowly declining in terms of physical capabilities for a while.

I'd like to knit him something nice but am not sure what. I can't knit him a pair of socks because he doesn't wear normal sizes (and I just don't think I have the ability to measure him and figure out how to do it and such).

An afghan or something like that would be nice, but honestly I would be surprised if he lived long enough to see it, especially since my knitting time is limited.

Any suggestions for a quick gift that he might enjoy? I can't seem to come up with anything that would he could use. What kind of gift could a bedridden individual use?

I would appreciate any suggestions!

03-12-2006, 04:40 PM
How about some manly styled wrist warmers or a scarf? It sounds kinda different or trite, but my thought is that he would have something soft, and handmade with love to see and touch and help him thing nice thoughts of the person that made it. My dad (who passed 3 1/2 yrs ago) was sick in the hospital for 7 months before he died. I wish I had been knitting then. He was bedridden but I know he would have loved anything I made for him. In fact, we had so many days of visiting that I can see myself sitting there making something for him. You could do an afghan but knit it while you visit, if that's feasible. I bet he would enjoy the time and seeing what you're doing, even if (God forbid) you don't get it finished, it would be a lovely memory.
Just my 86 cents... Hope it helps!

03-12-2006, 05:21 PM
Our hospital gives out heart-shaped pillows. Something soft to hug?

03-12-2006, 05:32 PM
If he has reduced circulation, he might appreciate a pair of mittens knit without the ribbing.

03-12-2006, 05:54 PM
If its up his alley a prayer shawl might be nice. It would convey your thoughts for him and probably would'nt take that long to knit if you weren't too elaborate (ie big yarn, narrow width). Take a look at http://www.shawlministry.com/ Good luck. I'm sure that whatever you make will be appreciated.

03-12-2006, 06:00 PM
You could try a small-ish lap-gan made of simple mitered squares. Each square (about 6 inches on each side) takes me about 50 -60 minutes to knit up. Then you'd just have to seam them all together, and voila! Lap-gan.

Hope I helped.

03-12-2006, 06:40 PM
Wonderful ideas!!! Thanks so much. I am going to look at some of the links and ponder and decide what to make. Thanks again!!

03-12-2006, 07:03 PM
Hmm... If he's bedridden, why not knit him something like a backgammon or checker board?? I know that Melanie Falick's Weekend Knitting (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1584792914/102-6628560-6151342?v=glance&n=283155)book has patterns for them.

Here's a pic of one (http://blog.niceperson.org/2005/06/10/backgammon-for-laughs/)

Or Knitty.com has a pattern for a felted Mancala (http://www.knitty.com/issuewinter04/PATTmancalamia.html) game

Maybe something to help him fill his time?


03-13-2006, 08:13 AM
My grandmother is in the same situation .... and I have been trying to think of something to knit for her ... the heart pillow is a GREAT idea. I made one for my granddaughter but never even thought about one for my grandma ... so pretty and so easy. Thanks, Ingrid for the idea. .... How blessed am I to have a grandmother (95) and a granddaughter (6) ???


ALSO .... I am sooooooooo going to make the Mancala game for a WEDDING PRESENT !!!!!! maybe with a wine bottle cozy to match???

03-13-2006, 09:19 AM
My husband, who is quadriplegic and has been bedridden for several years, often gets cold. Folks in bed for a long time get poor circulation, and often are chilled when the rest of us are comfortable.

So, bed socks or slippers are a good idea, as well as hats. Maybe a felted pattern for the slippers, but just don't felt them, if his feet are swollen. A soft cotton cap is good for bad hair days as well as comfort. Even a simple neckwarmer in cotton might be appreciated.

03-13-2006, 10:47 AM
I made my mother-in-law a wrap to just cover her shoulders and upper-arms that could just be slipped on and tied in front. She couldn't move her arms enough to get into sleeves, and she was always cold because her blankets only covered up to her arms when she sat up in bed.

03-13-2006, 11:04 PM
I've been knitting a hot-water bottle cover (with an intarsia heart on it) that is featured in the ROwen Junior pattern book from last year (or so). You could also knit a super-soft (alpaca or something) pillow cover--maybe neck roll shape. Sew up an insert filled with buckwheat and a handful of dried lavendar.

03-14-2006, 02:26 AM
If the invalid was female I would say bed-jacket or shawl but seeing as it is a man I would think maybe a hat and scarf or even a combination of the two - a scarf thingy that covered the head also.

03-14-2006, 07:24 AM
My recommendation would be instead of a knitted gift, how about a gift of knitting. lol

Why not take whatever you're knitting, and sit with him to talk while you work on it? I bet he would enjoy the visit more than any gift you make.