View Full Version : Scared for my mom

12-05-2007, 07:54 AM
She had to have a ct scan yesterday for a large mass in her uterine lining the doctor is hoping it is a mass of fibroids but I am very scared that it is not because she went through menopause quite awhile ago and I read that they almost never happen after menopause and she never noticed it before.The other reason I am so scared is because the last physical exam she had before this one was 28 years ago (yep thats right 28 years!!)she comes from a very large very poor family where you only went to a doctor if you were pregnant,bleeding profusely or had a broken bone she also smokes a lot,she said if she can just make through this she will quit.The doctor also told her she was going to need to have surgery regardless of the results from the ct and that they won't know for sure if it is cancer or not untill they operate which he wants to do as soon as possible.Ok I'm done thanks to who ever reads this I just had to get it out.

12-05-2007, 08:17 AM
Best wishes for your mom. :hug:

12-05-2007, 08:25 AM
Sending lots of positive energy to your Mom.

But don't panic yet, I had almost 11 lbs of fibroids removed from my uterus (and the uterus too) POST menopause. I don't remember anyone telling me that was "rare". Fibroids do often shrink after menopause but they can still be there.

12-05-2007, 08:27 AM
Thanks Ginny that makes me feel much better.:hug:

12-05-2007, 09:14 AM
Take a deep breath...hold it for several seconds...let it out through your nose slowly...hold it out for several seconds. Repeat as necessary.

It's a method of stress relief called Square Breathing, and it'll help slow not only your breathing but also your hearbeat.

As for your Mom, try to relax. My Grandmother had to have a fibroid removed that was the size of a grapefruit--it was benign, just growing very rapidly.

And please do let us all know how things turn out for your Mom.

12-05-2007, 09:23 AM
Just remember we're all here if you need us and we're all thinking of you.
My mom went through something similar too, but keep your chin up and stay positive- it's one of the best things you can do.

12-05-2007, 09:37 AM
Hi .
We are all here for you . Prayers are coming your way. :)

12-05-2007, 09:40 AM
Best wishes.

I know it's hard but don't get upset until you know there's a reason to be. Positive energy is best.

12-05-2007, 09:53 AM
:hug: Prayers for you all...

I agree postive energy!! Also don't google anything!! Just wait for the dr to let you all know...Google likes to scare ya when it comes to medical stuff...:thumbsup:

12-05-2007, 10:15 AM
Thanks everyone for all of your kind words I will update everyone as soon as we hear anything I am hoping that will be before the week end.

12-05-2007, 10:32 AM
Thoughts for your mom and you. :hug:

12-05-2007, 11:44 AM
Sending hugs and prayers your way. I just had a almost 5 pound fibroid taken out a few months ago. I was told that they MAY shrink when you go menopause but that is not always the case. Please do not panic yet - I am sure that is easier said than done. And we are all here for you...

12-05-2007, 12:18 PM
:hug: Hugs to you and your mom. :hug:

12-05-2007, 12:27 PM
All the best to your mom thinking of you both.

Jan in CA
12-05-2007, 02:16 PM

Denise in Michigan
12-05-2007, 03:07 PM
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your Mom.

12-05-2007, 03:36 PM
Wow. That is so scary. I hope everything goes okay with your moms surgery. I will keep your mom in my thoughts and prayers.

12-05-2007, 04:00 PM
Everything above is good advice. Prayers coming your way.:grphug:

12-05-2007, 05:58 PM
Hugs and best wishes for you and your mum :hug: :hug:

12-05-2007, 07:01 PM
Well they already called her back this afternoon they said that it is a large mass that is pushing on all her organs and it appears to have attached to one of her ovaries they did not see any tell tale signs of cancer but they won't know for sure untill it comes out she has an appointment with a gynological surgeon on Tuesday so in other words this is going to be a long month!

12-05-2007, 07:02 PM
best wishes and i'll be thinkin and praying for you and your mom!

12-05-2007, 07:10 PM

12-06-2007, 03:59 AM
Best wishes. Prayers are on their way.

12-06-2007, 10:08 AM
I'm so sorry! It's always scary when your parents are ill. We still see them as strong towers who can handle anything. My parents are still relatively young (they are in their early 50's) and when I think about them, they are still 30 something in my mind. (Although, since I am 29, that's a little weird, I guess.:aww: )

I will say a little prayer for you mom today. Hope she recovers very quickly.

12-06-2007, 12:25 PM
blueeyes: hang in there and think positive. I'm keeping you and your mom in my thoughts. :heart: :hug:

12-11-2007, 08:24 PM
My mom saw the DR. today and she said that she has to have a complete hysterectomy like asap and that they won't know for sure if it is cancer or not untill it is removed and biopsyed the Dr she saw is an oncologist and will also be performing the surgery is that normal for an oncologist to be involved before they even know if it is cancer?

12-11-2007, 08:38 PM
:hug: How scary. There probably is no way of knowing how long the growth has been there if she hasn't been to the doctor for a check up in 28 years. Hopefully it is just a fibrous tumor and she will be fine. Since she has already gone through menopause the effects of a hysterectomy are much less. Will be thinking of you and your mom!

As far as an oncologist being involved in the surgery, that isn't uncommon. They've seen lots of cancers and can probably give a good "eyeball" as to it's make up. We've been through this a few times in our family (other things, not uterine cancer) and it was really a relief to know either way what we were up against. Twice the doctor has said that he didn't look suspicious, but they would run a biopsy just in case. No plans were made prior to that. And twice we've had the doctor come in and say that it did look suspicious and these were some treatment options.

12-11-2007, 09:49 PM

12-11-2007, 11:18 PM
Best wishes for your mom.
Yes, it's normal for a surgical oncologist to do the surgery. It's a precautionary thing because he/she is more knowledgeable (I hate to use that term) in the surgery to remove cancer if it is present, doesn't mean it is, but they are putting their ducks in a row in case it turns out to be. Your mom will have the best surgeon already there to do the work instead of having to call one in or go back later for more surgery.
Sending positive thoughts your way for your mom. :hug: :hug: Please keep us updated, we all do care.

12-30-2007, 09:47 PM
She had a complete hysterectomoy on DEC.26th and it turned out that it was a very large fibroid tumor :woot: not cancer!!

12-30-2007, 10:18 PM
Oh, thank goodness! That is WONDERFUL news!!!!!!!


Thanks for the update!!!

12-30-2007, 10:22 PM
I'm so very glad to hear that your mom is doing well & that no cancer has been found. :hug: :hug:

12-30-2007, 10:39 PM
so happy to hear that!:woohoo: :grphug: .

12-31-2007, 03:57 AM
That's great to hear!! :hug: Now praying for a speedy recovery.

12-31-2007, 08:33 AM
So glad to hear the good news!!!

12-31-2007, 10:16 AM
:woohoo: Yay!!!! I'm sure you are all relieved

12-31-2007, 10:53 AM
Great news!!!

12-31-2007, 11:20 AM
That's good news :) Best wishes to her for a speedy recovery :hug:

12-31-2007, 11:29 AM
Wonderful news. Spoil her lots when she gets home. Prayers for a speedy recovery coming her way!

12-31-2007, 05:03 PM
She had a complete hysterectomoy on DEC.26th and it turned out that it was a very large fibroid tumor :woot: not cancer!!
Fantabulous!!!!!:cheering: :balloons:

12-31-2007, 07:56 PM
:happydance: That's wonderful!! :hug:

12-31-2007, 09:54 PM
Thanks everyone we are very relieved,it is a great way to start 2008 it helps put things into perspective.

12-31-2007, 11:23 PM
Outstanding news! I'm delighted for you and her, you must be so relieved!

12-31-2007, 11:52 PM
This is wonderful news!!!!!

01-03-2008, 09:11 AM
Congrats! Glad to hear.

01-03-2008, 09:20 AM
I'm so glad to hear that she doesn't have cancer! That is very good news.

Wanda Witch
01-04-2008, 06:07 PM
You are understandably frightened for your mother. I had numerous fibroids, thus a complete hysterectomy at the age of 69, 16 years after my menopause, and hey, I am still around and kicking. My prayers and thoughts are with your mother, you and your family.

Wanda Witch
01-04-2008, 06:10 PM
A quick P.S. I should have read all the replies before I answered, but I am so happy to hear it is not what all of you feared, as I did too. She will be up and kicking and feeling soooo much better, I know I was. A truly Happy New Year for you and yours.

nadja la claire
01-04-2008, 09:48 PM
I just stumbled onto this thread. My God I'm so glad for you and your family. I hope your mom's surgery went well. Take this as a sign and a blessing. Spend as much time as you can with you mother and all those you love. I'm so, so happy for you. :woot: :woot: :woot:

I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts.