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bailsmom
05-30-2008, 11:24 AM
My God. Here I am, a grown woman who should know better than to reason with a woman who drinks while having a 7 & 5 yr old home alone with her. :doh: But I couldn't help myself anymore, I just couldn't take it.

A little backround info: We've lived here for 5 years, the neighbors 3 yrs. Our lives went down the crapper the day they moved in. Screaming loud annoying children that they don't keep in check. Prior to them arriving it was blissfully quiet and serene. Their kids drive us nuts. And when I say nuts, I'm using a nice word. There isn't enough computer space to describe how much they annoy us. We can't go out into our own yard and enjoy anything. DH just put in a garden and the stupid wife took that upon herself to just walk right into our yard and ask my DH everything and anything about her plants and whatnot. (DH is an arborist/horticulturist) He knows pretty much everything there is to know about plants/shrubs/trees, and since she knows this she thinks she should get a free pass and be able to ask whenever she wants to about anything in her yard. Poor DH, but I keep telling him to ignore her and he says she just keeps talking to him if he ignores her!! Can you believe that!!

So, now you have a small idea of how invasive they are. So yesterday it's a beautiful spring day, 78 degrees, sunny, breezy, just gorgeous. I have my 2 kitchen windows and back door open to let the breeze inside and I'm in the living room (remember, we can't go outside while they are out if we want to be left alone, so we stay inside until we know they are inside, basically we're trapped indoors while they are outdoors) watching tv. So I hear her kids screaming and shouting (they don't talk normally) and I just turn up the volume, and then I hear her 7 yr old start whining. I ignore it and focus on the tv. 10 minutes later he's still whining. Now mind you, there's a yard between us and I'm 2 rooms away inside the house and I can hear him like he's next to me. I continue to try and ignore it, but it's one of those REALLY ANNOYING WHINES that after a while you can't ignore. 15 minutes, now were at 20 minutes of loud whining.

I can't take it anymore, we put up with SO MUCH from them, they don't leave us alone to enjoy ourselves, we put up with their kids CONSTANTLY hounding us, the mother is a pure 100% Beotch and then this whining, well, I kind of lost it.

So I jump up and run outside and see her, the 2 kids and her 'friend' just standing there watching this annoying brat whine and she never once tells him to stop. She's the kind of parent that would let her kid go crazy in a restaurant and not tell him to stop. So I yell across the yard "Is everything alright over there?" (I knew nothing was wrong, but thought I'd make it seem like I cared) And she yells something back, and then I proceed to tell her how annoying it is to hear that sound for 20+ minutes and then she says, "He's a kid".

OH MY GOD. If I hear that excuse one more time I'm going to haul off and smack the parent. So I say, yes, he's a kid, but you can make him STOP! She says No I can't. :noway:

So, by this time I'm fuming and the next words out of her mouth just stun me: She tells me I should Shut MY windows and doors if I don't want to listen to it. :passedout: Is she frickin' kidding me?? I should have to shut my house back up because she won't shut her own kid up??!! I then proceeded to tell her to shut up and walked back inside and slammed the door.

Fast forward to walking our dog later last night, we come home, DH is now with me, they are out on the patio and her boyfriend comes home and she yells across the yard that she's sorry for what her kid was doing. Not sorry that she didn't shut him up; so I apologized for telling her to shut up. Then she proceeds to try and explain to me that he's a kid and blah blah blah. So I fight back with my own words and she starts yelling gibberish back at me and her boyfriend is yelling at her to shut up and stop this nonsense and I'm trying to explain to her that she's used to hearing that noise and since I don't have kids, I'm not and to have the courtesy to be neighborly and bring her kid inside the house. She then says to me, "But I'm outside". :doh: Meaning, she can't put him in the house because she's not in the house. Their house is about as big as my thumb.

We should have stopped there, but then my DH puts in his two cents and then I turned to him and said just forget it, she's not hearing what we are saying and then she tells us 'whatever, just go inside'. DH keeps yelling at her. So I finally get him to stop and we go in and are just fuming at her stupidity, and ours.

Later on I kept thinking about it and I said to DH, how stupid of us to try and reason with her, she's told me on more than one occation that she's not drinking water - she's drinking vodka. And that it's 4 pm and she's already had 2 beers!! Yep, a 7 & 5 yr old are in here care and she's got alcohol in her system at 4 pm.

What do I do?? Call the cops next time? I couldn't get away with letting my dog bark for 20 minutes straight, why can she let her kid do that?? We have at least 4 other houses nearby with kids around their age and we NEVER hear them. And one lives across the street. I'm exhausted. :passedout:

iza
05-30-2008, 12:20 PM
I'm with you, bailsmom! I don't have kids, but I do like children. Only, it drives me nuts to see parents not even trying to educate their children. Yes, he's just a kid, which is why he needs a parent to tell him he needs to behave if he wants to stay outside. Hearing children play is normal, I have no problem with that. But whining for 20 minutes and annoy the entire neighborhood is not acceptable. It's not only parents, though. Some people just don't care about their neighbors...

I don't really know either what to do in these situations. :shrug: You try to handle the situation calmly and responsibly, but if your neighbors are not calm and responsible, it won't work. I guess you could call the cops, but I doubt they would show up for whiny kids. I agree with you though, there's no way you would get away with letting your dogs bark... :roll:

Sometimes I wonder if I'll need to live in a bunker, without a single soul living within a 1km radius. I thought I liked people and that I was a friendly person, but sometimes I wonder if I'm becoming misanthropic... :shrug:

fireflyknitter
05-30-2008, 12:40 PM
Do you have a fence, or can you put one up? Like... a really, really tall one? It wouldn't help with the noise but at least you might be able to go outside without her knowing about it and constantly bothering you.

:hug: Bad neighbors are the worst!

Jan in CA
05-30-2008, 12:50 PM
Oh boy. Unfortunately whining, loud, obnoxious children aren't something that you can call CPS for. As much as you hate it it's not really the kids fault. They've never been taught any manners by this boorish woman. That certainly doesn't change the fact that you want to rip your hair out though! I am concerned about the drinking and if you truly feel that it's bad enough (drunk, passing out, etc) that it poses a danger to the children then calling CPS makes good sense.

About your privacy..do you have a fence or wall? I know in some areas of the country this isn't the norm as it is here. Here NO ONE would even consider coming into our yards... it would be like coming into our house uninvited. A privacy fence/wall with a locked gate would at least give you that measure of protection.

auburnchick
05-30-2008, 12:54 PM
No advice for you...

Just a hug. :hug:

bailsmom
05-30-2008, 01:53 PM
I'm with you, bailsmom! I don't have kids, but I do like children. Only, it drives me nuts to see parents not even trying to educate their children. Yes, he's just a kid, which is why he needs a parent to tell him he needs to behave if he wants to stay outside. Hearing children play is normal, I have no problem with that. But whining for 20 minutes and annoy the entire neighborhood is not acceptable. It's not only parents, though. Some people just don't care about their neighbors...

I don't really know either what to do in these situations. :shrug: You try to handle the situation calmly and responsibly, but if your neighbors are not calm and responsible, it won't work. I guess you could call the cops, but I doubt they would show up for whiny kids. I agree with you though, there's no way you would get away with letting your dogs bark... :roll:

Sometimes I wonder if I'll need to live in a bunker, without a single soul living within a 1km radius. I thought I liked people and that I was a friendly person, but sometimes I wonder if I'm becoming misanthropic... :shrug:

:roflhard: :roflhard:
Oh my gosh! I feel the same way! :teehee: And I thought I was the only one on this planet that felt that way. Thanks :hug:

bailsmom
05-30-2008, 02:09 PM
Unfortunately it's a no to putting up a fence, only because we're renting the house and the landlord would never put one up. So we're stuck.

Thank you all for understanding my predicament. I feel so much better just getting this off my chest. :hug:

This family (if you can call it that) is the type that she never yells at them and their father screams at them. She lets them get away with everything and she's home all afternoon with them and on the weekends when he's home all he does is yell at them. It's been like this since they moved in. Our last neighbors were so great. If we saw each other we said hello, how are you and responded both ways and then went on our merry little ways. We were respectful of each other's space. Once this woman found out what my DH does for a living it was downhill from there.

And I don't have a problem with kids outside yelling and playing and what-not, but it was just one of those moments when that sound built up and there's nowhere else to put the annoyance and I lost it. Plain and simple. I shouldn't have done it and in my defense (:teehee: ) I did go out once earlier and stopped myself and went back in, but after 10 more minutes (yes, I kept looking at my clock) my switch went off and I had to try and stop it. And the other point I tried to make with her, to no avail, was that since they were her kids she is used to them making that noise, that horrible horrible noise and I'm not. We don't have kids and I doubt I'll ever be able to have them (My girly insides are broken). It's different for people who don't have kids, we're unable to block out the noises they make. It all comes down to common courtesy I guess, which most people don't seem to have.

Shame on me, I know, but I think I turned "postal" and had to do something. No offense to the postal workers out there, I just didn't know how else to describe it. ;)

kellyh57
05-30-2008, 02:35 PM
I'm a totally non-confrontational. Last summer, I almost got into it with a mother that sounds JUST like this one! My kids (4 & 2 at the time) had a bucket of toys. They were playing along and this kid came over and took one. He left it in the middle of the pool, under the waterfall thing. My 2-year-old came over looking for the toy. I looked all over for it and finally saw it. I had to go under there to get it (ugh!) because he wouldn't. Then the kid came back and got another toy. I told him it wasn't his and he had to give it back. (It was one of Jared's favorites and I didn't want to lose it.) His mom started screaming at me that her kid was only 3, he doesn't know any better, I should be nice and share, etc. I told her he should know better than to take other's things and he needs to ask me nicely if he wants something. (I always share with kids when they ask and if it's a child too young to understand, I don't mind as long as their parents are kind about it!) She threatened to go get management if I talked to her child again. I about lost it. Yeah. Like I'm the one in the wrong. I still get mad when I think about it! I know how you feel. I like kids. My OWN kids and well-behaved kind children. I hate it when people use the excuse that "they're just kids." They are mini-humans. How will they ever learn if they don't start now? My kids know what is right and wrong and I'm not afraid to discipline or correct them!

Kelly

stitchwitch
05-30-2008, 03:23 PM
I didn't realize you lived in my neighborhood!! :roflhard:
I'm surrounded by three households full of kids who cannot communicate without screaming or shrieking at the top of their lungs. I can't say squat since I'm the minority. To top it off, we also have the inept pet owners who think it's acceptable to let their dogs bark continuosly because they are just dogs and it's cute to bark at everything in their surroundings.
Last weekend I got up to find the neighbor's dog from down the street squatting in my front yard while the husband sat at the end of my driveway in his suv watching it. My husband went out, scared the dog out of our yard and the wife came up and cussed him out over it. I guess we're not only supposed to watch for their kids playing in the road instead of the safety of the sidewalks, listen to them scream all day long but we're also supposed to let their dog use our front yard as it's bathroom while they sit in their car watching. I feel your pain, 10000 acres between me and the next person would not be enough. I count the days until I can move out of here and to someplace with some space.

bailsmom
05-30-2008, 03:56 PM
I hear ya Stitchwich! I keep hounding my husband, "When are you going to buy me my farmhouse that has an acre or two between neighbors!" I don't need a fancy 3,000 sq ft house, I just want a nice sized farmhouse that's all mine and no one can bother me...I realize this makes me sound unfriendly, but I'm really not. Heck, I'm the one who went over when they moved in to introduce myself to her! No one did that for us when we moved here. I am sooooo counting the days until my DH's work contract is up. Then we can make a major life move across the country closer to family. But not too close, we need that acre or two... :wink: :teehee:

Jan in CA
05-30-2008, 04:38 PM
Well, in defense of kids.. not ALL kids are that bad. I never let my kids scream and whine like that! They even learned to "scream" quiet in the car. They just did it to be funny because they knew they weren't allowed. :teehee: People should have to get a license to have kids. :doh:

newamy
05-30-2008, 09:42 PM
Well it does sound like a terrible situation. But you are assuming this woman has the skills to control her children. If she is an alcoholic she does not have the skills to control herself, much less her children. And parenting does take skill. It's not easy. Not responding to a kids whining is really poor because the child either really does need something or has to go really far to get any kind of attention. Clearly she needs parenting training and if it's bad for you to live next door it is worse for the children to live in such an environment. I would say if she drinks early in the day she is at best neglectful of her kids and who knows what goes on inside the house. Children's protective services may not be able to do much but a welfare check wouldn't hurt. I believe calls can be anonymous.

CountryKitty
05-31-2008, 09:06 AM
:grphug:

I sympathize with y'all---bad neighbors are the worst! Especially those who let their kids and dogs run wild. DH and I love being out in the country where our neighbors are at "shooting distance" as DH calls it. And we've STILL had to threaten to shoot a few animals (like a pekinese mix that kept running into the yard to snap at my children, and the neighbor's pit bulls that were allowed to run loose and came after DH one day).

For many dogs, a discreet pop with a BB gun tends to do wonders--they do get the message after a few hits (just be sure neither dog nor owner sees you--the dog will just hang around while you're away if it knows you're the cause, and the owner will call the law on you and claim abuse even tho' they are violating the law by 'failure to control an animal'. Try aiming out a window.)

Children under the age of 5 sometimes respond well to an adult who voices corrections as 'instructions'. A neighbor who couldn't get her kids to say please or thank you (or do anything else) was surprised when they would do it for me. She would insist, then cave in when they wouldn't do it--I wouldn't yell or scream they way she did...just wouldn't give them what they wanted til they asked nicely.


Sadly, with such lousy influences at home, you can't make as much of a difference as the kids and dogs need.

susi
05-31-2008, 11:43 AM
I just want a nice sized farmhouse that's all mine and no one can bother me
oh i have that right now. my closest neighbour is a 10 min walk away. i have issues with other busy bodies that turn up to insult and annoy the hell outa me. to the point of im selling up asap and moving literally to the middle of no where, no neighbours for at least 40 mins thats the rule. im getting to know noone so i ca,t be bothered all the time. keep the great friends i have now and screw the rest :teehee:

susi

susi
05-31-2008, 11:55 AM
i so sympathise though. i have a 5 year old that cant do anything quietly, but he is never allowed to shout outside (or inside for that matter).

it does sound like tha mother has a problem with alchol if shes drinking at that time of the day whilst caring for young children.

personally i would have a chat with someone and say you have some worries, but i would do it without leaving your name etc. it could cause you big issues with her later on.
theres no excuse for not controlling your children. she has it easier in some ways with 2, they could entertain each other.

i can see why she wouldnt have her children in the house when shes not, so she simply should have gone inside withthem. or given them enough to entertain them, which tbh isnt hard to entertain a child.

i hope all sorts out for you

susi

bailsmom
05-31-2008, 03:35 PM
Well it does sound like a terrible situation. But you are assuming this woman has the skills to control her children. If she is an alcoholic she does not have the skills to control herself, much less her children. And parenting does take skill.

:rofl: I know that wasn't meant to be funny, but I sure got a chuckly out of this line.

As for calling Child Services or someone else, we're pretty much the only neighbors they talk too so I think she'd figure that one out. The neighbors on the other side of them had the sense to put in a hedge so they only talk to them every once in a while.

Can I just point out that since this has happened the kids haven't been outside at all. :woot: I think her boyfriend must have yelled at her for letting the kid go on and on like that to the point of having my say something to shut him up. See, he won't tolerate that for even one minute. He yells at those kids so much, but they don't misbehave when he's home on the weekends.

I'm not saying that's the way to parent these poor kids, but this is the situation and there's nothing I can do about it. They don't beat the kids, but he sure does have a temper. She's told me on more than one occasion that he owns everything. Nothing that they own is in her name, and that they will never get married. They can't stand each other which is evident to anyone who talks to them, and it's a horrible environment to raise children in, so we're keeping our distance.

Debkcs
05-31-2008, 03:54 PM
If she is drinking and the kids are creating a nuisance, here in Oregon CPS is very interested. You might call them and tell them the mom is an out of control drunk (I grew up with one, so they're easy to spot) and ask what your options are. Tell them the kid was whining loudly for twenty minutes and she didn't check on him or help him.

You should not have to put up with another family's crap.

If she doesn't have any parenting skills (which is BS because if she wanted to she could learn) she shouldn't have control of kids. I'm all for CPS in situations like this.

jamiejeans
05-31-2008, 04:40 PM
I mean no disrespect with my two cents; I am writing this without having read any other replies so I don't know what others have said. I have a hunch that my opinion may not be popular.
I agree that listening to loud obnoxious children can be annoying. But they have every right to be outside. It sounds like she lets the kids walk all over her and get to run amuck, which I think is poor parenting, but again that is nothing others can control. I think asking her to try and keep things down is not unreasonable, but I wonder if your outward annoyance caused the breakdown in adult type communication.
As far as this woman coming over and asking questions about landscaping and whatnot, I think she was only being neighborly. Sure, it can get tiresome and annoying when she doesn't know when to be quiet or know when she's worn out her welcome, but simply asking advice from someone who is an expert isn't out of line. Again, ignoring her while she is standing there talking is rude; your husband could always politely say he is quite busy with his work there and doesn't really have much time to chat, etc.
So I see several options here: get a fence, move, or try to be decent neighbors. As far as calling CPS, I don't think they can do much if the kids are provided for, fed, etc.

jamiejeans
05-31-2008, 04:43 PM
:grphug:


For many dogs, a discreet pop with a BB gun tends to do wonders--they do get the message after a few hits (just be sure neither dog nor owner sees you--the dog will just hang around while you're away if it knows you're the cause, and the owner will call the law on you and claim abuse even tho' they are violating the law by 'failure to control an animal'. Try aiming out a window.)



I sure hope that you are kidding- animal cruelty can not be justified because an animal comes into your yard. Unless your life is in danger, I don't see shooting animals as means of solving the problem. You can always call the animal officer in town and they can enforce the "control of the animal" laws.

CountryKitty
05-31-2008, 05:18 PM
Of course I didn't mean that the animal was to be HURT by the BB gun--I should have specified aiming for the hip or shoulder, where the BB wouldn't do more than give them a sharp sting. As for calling animal control to come and get the dog, I'm afraid the owners would decide against bailing the dog out and it might very well wind up getting put down...to me the sting of a couple BB's seems more humane.

(Given that any dog problem is actually an OWNER problem, I'd far rather give the owner a pop in the rear with a BB!)

stitchwitch
05-31-2008, 06:57 PM
I chucked a wooden clog (yep, a wooden clog I was wearing :teehee: ) at my neighbor's dog in our last neighborhood who constantly crapped in my yard and then would attack me in my own yard. I got so pissed one day when I came around the corner and the nasty thing started growling and barking at me in my own yard. I snapped and whipped the clog and clocked him/her right in the head. That solved the nasty thing from coming into my yard again and it never barked at or attacked me again either.

jamiejeans
05-31-2008, 08:57 PM
(Given that any dog problem is actually an OWNER problem, I'd far rather give the owner a pop in the rear with a BB!)
Well in that case I say shoot the owner!:wink:

bailsmom
06-01-2008, 05:21 PM
Well in that case I say shoot the owner!:wink:

:teehee:

eladine
06-04-2008, 09:02 AM
Nothing new to add really... just wanted to send you a :grphug:...

Similar situation here at times... mother next door goes off like a screaming banshee... and we do have a 6ft fence between us and them!!

It has struck me though, that whoever your neighbours are there will always be things that annoy / bug you.

I'm thinking about sticking a big sign up on top of our garage readable from all sides - maybe a rotating one.. something that says "DOES NOT PLAY WELL WITH OTHERS WHEN PROVOKED - YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED!"

(This will be more for her visitors who constantly park over our driveway... grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!!)

We also have an escape plan... one to where we move to the middle of nowhere, where neighbours are a drive distance away... and surrounded by fields...

But you know what then? We'll complain it's too quiet! ;)

But in the meantime, it's take a step back... BREATHE... unclench the fists... and S M I L E! Then go inside and hit the b'whatsits out of a pillow or something!!


El.

bailsmom
06-04-2008, 10:44 AM
Nothing new to add really... just wanted to send you a :grphug:...

Similar situation here at times... mother next door goes off like a screaming banshee... and we do have a 6ft fence between us and them!!

It has struck me though, that whoever your neighbours are there will always be things that annoy / bug you.

I'm thinking about sticking a big sign up on top of our garage readable from all sides - maybe a rotating one.. something that says "DOES NOT PLAY WELL WITH OTHERS WHEN PROVOKED - YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED!"

(This will be more for her visitors who constantly park over our driveway... grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!!)

We also have an escape plan... one to where we move to the middle of nowhere, where neighbours are a drive distance away... and surrounded by fields...

But you know what then? We'll complain it's too quiet! ;)

But in the meantime, it's take a step back... BREATHE... unclench the fists... and S M I L E! Then go inside and hit the b'whatsits out of a pillow or something!!
El.

That would never happen. Because we live on a BUSY street, it's never quiet here, never. The road we live on is an alternate to the main road a block away so everyone uses it. So 'too quiet' isn't even in my vocabulary nor will it ever be. ;)

And as for the last part, I've been 'breathing' my way through their annoying temper tantrums that last forever for 3 years because she just sits there and lets them scream right in her face and she does nothing, so my 'breating' ability is getting shorter and shorter with each passing day.

You know, eventually anyone would do what I did. Like I said earlier, I'm human, I lost my temper. One time. We put up with their insanity everyday and we shouldn't have too. But this is life and I finally said something. They haven't been screaming since the 'episode' so it did do some good. I mean, it's not like I went off half-cocked and was screaming obsenities to her or anything. I told her to shut her kid up.

It amazed me at some of the replies to this thread. How most of the people understood how frustrating it is to have neighbors who don't care to keep the peace and realize they need to be respectful of their neighbors, and how other people think I need to keep 'breathing' and put up with this crap everyday. If we could move, we would. But we can't so I used this forum as a vent of what happened, which most of us do from time to time. We can't build a fence, it's not our property. And ignoring them is the only way for her to take the hint that we are annoyed with her.

I guess it just comes down to this: until you've lived in my house for a day and had to listen to them for hours on end, then you can't tell me to 'breath' or 'relax' or whatever technique you think would help. Because nothing is going to help until we get the hell out of here.

P.S. I do appreciate the support from the other posts where you all said that you know how we feel with having horrible neighbors. It's just nice to be able to vent things out once in a while. :hug:

eladine
06-04-2008, 04:42 PM
Bailsmom, Sorry you took offence at my post.

All I can say is that I'm sorry my post was taken for me telling you to smile and breathe and relax (albeit through gritted teeth). It wasn't intended for that. It was more of a what I do... not what you should do. Having read what you wrote, I realise you were at the end of your tether when you said something to her.

I realise re-reading it, it came over wrong.

I'm sorry.

El.

scout52
06-04-2008, 08:39 PM
Bailsmom,

Seriously, I think we have the same neighbors!!! When I first moved in I had wonderful neighbors. I live in a townhome community. lovely family on one side, retired couple on the other side. Stayed this way for the first year.

and THEN the retired couple's kid and grandkids moved in. and for the past 2 years it has been HELL. there are 5 kids living in that place and NO ONE takes care of them. and I MEAN NO ONE. They stay up until 2 or 3 in the morning and you can hear them SCREAMING that they don't want to go to bed. the father blocks my garage with his truck so i can't pull in. his kids run amock in the street, i think they are trying to commit suicide. the grandparents nor the father do not tell them to get out of the street. AND OMIGOD the screaming coming from these kids!! you would think their vocal cords would get sore.

I do feel bad because their mother left them, ( i heard the sob story from the father, who hits on me every chance he gets,) so the kids basically climb on me every time the see me. I recommended to the father to sign the kids up to the big sister/big brother program, but nope he didn't.

He also doesn't take them to the play area in the community, no just has them play in the street, so all the cars get to play dodge the tiny kids ( who I seriously think is an actual game). doesn't take them to the park, he says they don't listen to him. yet I go outside, and I don't even have to say anything but give those kids a look and they are quiet. it's very frustrating when NONE of the adults want to take responsibility for their kids.

I

CountryKitty
06-04-2008, 09:54 PM
For what it's worth, my brother had terrible neighbors, who eventually drove THEMSELVES out of house an home. Always screaming at each other an at imaginary people, playing music way too loud. They were a couple of crackhead brothers and did the dumbest/damnedest things.

On one occasion, DB and the older gentleman were talking over the fence and one of the brothers decided to beat on the electric junction box behind his trailerhouse with a metal baseballbat--an electric shock knocked him to the ground; the older neighbor just muttered under his breath "Do it again, you didn't do it right the first time!"

Another time, one of them stood on DB's porch, screaming that DB had slithered under their door like a snake and stolen their stash, and he wanted it back. When he finally kicked the door in, DB racked a shell into the chamber of his shotgun and announced, "YOu're a$$ is grass adn I'm the lawnmower!"--the nutjob screamed, jumped off the porch, grabbed DB's lawnmower and ran up the street with it!

Finally the ding-a-lings burned the trailer down. DB was at work, so nobody could claim he had anything to do with it. (The neighborkids told him the next day that they had sat in his truck to watch while the place burned.)

Neighborhood was a lot quieter after that.


I guess the morale is that people who make everyone else miserable aren't happy themselves and eventually will either self-destruct or move on in search of happier surroundings. (I know, they're the reason their surroundings aren't happy, but some people just never seem to understand that.)

Debkcs
06-05-2008, 02:46 AM
Kitty, that is a really funny story. At least to those of us who have had 'neighbors from hell'.

We had a guy across the street from us who would go out and shoot into the sky all the time. This was in a neighborhood of duplexes, not in the country. When we complained he told us to "STFU" (acronym mine) and shot at our cats now and then when drunk. The cops would do nothing. Well, this idiot was cleaning a handgun, but didn't clear it first, splatted his brains all over his newest, not beaten up yet, girlfriend. I felt badly for her, but glad she escaped unharmed from him, at least physically.

Our little neighborhood made the news all over New Mexico.

letah75
06-05-2008, 02:12 PM
I'm the mean old (32 yrs) lady at the end of the complex. We have screaming, yelling, brat at one end of the complex. They call each other "stupid" and cuss at one another among other things. They are loud and obnoxious. However, they don't do any of that stuff around me, around my family, around my apartment.

To my step-son they are unfailingly polite and courteous. If he is not around they will not play past the tree that is 15 feet from my apartment.

When I am outside it's all pleases and thank you's no screaming or yelling.....I will and have "talked" to the kids about their behavior.

"I don't care if your mother says you can act like you were raised by wolves, but down here, by my house and around my family, you WILL act live civilized beings. The minute you act up, you WILL go back home."

Since then no issues.

They have the kind of parents who will let them play outside until 11pm at 6 years old unsupervised.

scout52
06-05-2008, 02:20 PM
Letah your my hero!!!

letah75
06-05-2008, 04:43 PM
Letah your my hero!!!

WOW :aww:

so you've seen me walking around my house in my cape?!?

Shoot I thought I always closed the curtains. :rofl:

scout52
06-05-2008, 05:38 PM
WOW :aww:

so you've seen me walking around my house in my cape?!?

Shoot I thought I always closed the curtains. :rofl:

:rofl: Yep I saw gold cuffs and all!!

letah75
06-05-2008, 06:09 PM
:rofl: Yep I saw gold cuffs and all!!

Did you know when walking around the house I play theme music too. I made a CD that just constantly loops.