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bip 02-01-2008 11:15 AM

*Sigh* "Knitting" Group
About 2 years ago a friend of mine wanted me to teach her to knit. She thought it would be fun to get a bunch of us together for brunch, chatting, then knitting. We had so much fun, we started doing it every month. Well, not every month, but fairly regularly since then.

It has never really been a knitting group though. Only 3 of us actually knit, and often people don't even bring their needles/yarn. Some of the people never even really learned. It is actually just a chance to drink mimosas and chat about celebrities (about whom none of us really care, but we find it funny/ironic for professional women to sit around sharing celebrity gossip) and our jobs and kids (no one had kids when we started, but there has since been some breeding).

Fine. It is fun, and I would be knitting whether I was at home alone or in their company, so I have kept going. However, in the past 6 months, it has become increasingly tedious in that the focus has shifted to pregnancy/kids. It is a sensitive topic for me because I expected to start a family about 3 years ago, then DH needed a kidney transplant. Then he had 7 months of complications. During that time he had a revelation that he wanted to be a patent lawyer instead of a scientist (had his Phd, was doing a post doc) and is now in law school. We can't start our family for at least 2 more years, and I have a lot of anxiety about it anyway. I don't blame them that their focus has shifted, how couldn't it? It just isn't comfortable for me anymore.

Now they are turning it into a reading group. I am totally completely not interested. My other responsibility is that I have a horse, and I can't ride on days that I have knitting group. Because of my career, I can only ride 4x a week anyway and skipping that one day is a sacrifice for me.

I guess I'm just venting because I'm disappointed. It was fun at first and now I feel like I've lost something. We are all still friends, so fortunately it's not like I've lost friendships.

I guess I am just mourning a little because it could have been a fun thing and it never really got going and now it is gone.

Thanks for listening :)

HamaLee 02-01-2008 11:19 AM

I'm sorry. You always have your online knitting group! :grphug:

GiddyKnitter 02-01-2008 11:49 AM

I can understand why you are dissapointed...The group started off as a knitting group and is now heading for something completely different. Maybe try and start another knitting get together and carry on doing something which you love!!

jodstr2 02-01-2008 11:57 AM

:hug: sorry bip. here's some hugs. :hug:

Sanibelle 02-01-2008 12:23 PM

I am so sorry - I have a knitting group that I go to every Friday night at the BN cafe by my house. I love it and I look forward to it every week. We knit from 8 till 11PM and talk and drink coffee and just have so much fun. I would miss it like crazy if it stopped.

I found this group by luck -I happened to be at the BN on a Friday night and saw them knitting and started to talk to them and they said sitdown, join us. That was a few months ago and I have been going ever since. They have been together for at long time... but they were totally welcoming.

Have you tried to see if there are any other knitting groups in your area? On Ravelry they have a lot of groups and maybe you can find one there - I have found some in my area on Ravelry.

This way you can still hang out with your friends if you still want to, but you can also find some new people to knit with...

Just a thought....

VictoiseC 02-01-2008 12:24 PM

Hi Bip! Well, bummer. You know, my 2 cents, I think you should find a real knitting group. Another knitting group. I'll bet you can through Ravelry or I say this because I went to my FIRST knitting group just this past Wed.
I don't know if I'll continue, well, I think I will come to think of it.

I've gotten used to staying home a lot (I don't have a job, I'm a writer) and it was such a gas to go and be around 20 knitters. At first though, this group on my right started talking about the baby clothes they were knitting and I just couldn't help think, oh boy, I'm out of here. This is not what I'm interested in. I'm past having babies and never got to have one so, yes, it's a senstive issue for some of us. But then things moved on and I started asking what some of the others were knitting, and there were just some gorgeous gorgeous sweaters, a couple I have to make and then I learnt two new technquies ... that was fabulous.

I envy you for having a horse! wow. I live in NYC but I have a place up in the catskills with 2 barns (old small barns) but the woman who sold us the place, 12 acres, had bunches of horses and even some that raced at Saratoga. I have the space for a horse but I'm intimidated to own one, plus I can't afford it coz we live in the city half the time.... Got any pictures of your horse? I'd love to see him/her.

I'll be there are a bunch of knit groups in your area. I just discovered that meetup thing, I found my group through Ravelry but then found out they are part of meetup. It's a pretty interesting .com! okey doke, all for now,

SabrinaJL 02-01-2008 03:10 PM

I second That's where I found my knitting group and they are AWESOME.

psquidy 02-01-2008 07:59 PM

I know how you feel. I've always wanted to be apart of a knitting group but the only one i was ever able to find was just full of b*^chy women who didn't make me feel like I would ever be apart of the group and they talked badly about eachother when backs were turned. I've tried teaching people and that's always a good way to get together a group but after the initial inthusiasm wears off that always ends too. I guess knitting is destined to become my alone time.

knittingymnast 02-02-2008 12:13 PM

sorry about that....

VictoiseC 02-04-2008 02:26 PM

Yes Sabrina! Funny, I found them through Ravelry but then found out about

If anyone is interested, here's a pic from my first ever knitting group... across the street from me. I'm in the white shirt on the right. (and I look kind of crummy)

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