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princess 03-04-2008 02:29 AM

need to vent
ok, so i totally just need to let a load off my shoulder even though i know its somewhat selfish and i am being somewhat ungrateful.

So im only 19 for those of you who dont know, and im a full time college student, just to paint a basic picture

I used to have a decent cavalier in high school, it was ten years old, my biggest problem with it was i didnt have ac, but other then that i loved the car.
The cavy died back in october i think, and since i needed a car and we didnt really have any other option, i inherited my moms vibe. Now i know im really lucky to have such a nice car, being only four years old an all, but im just really frusterated with it. there are three main problems.

first, the car doesnt feel right to me, as weird as that sounds? I feel like a 40 year old driving to the grocery store in a wagon, and off to pick up the kids after school...(no offense to those of that maturity :P) I simply wanted to feel young and 19 in a fun little car like i did in my cavy. I just doesnt fit "me."

second, i live in an area where everyone is spoiled. I see porsches, mercedes, audis, and all sorts of nice cars in a daily basis driven by my peers. i am NOT saying i want/need such a luxery car, i simply wish i could have at least somewhat of a choice in my vehicle, seing as i have to be in it every day. I had no say in the vibe, and it would have been nice to have a small choice, even if it were between two cars.
third, i still see it as "moms" car. As a hand me down i dont think i will ever be able to call it mine. Its just always been "her" car and i will always see it that way, and i want it to feel like "mine"

i would be totally happy with a honda civic, even a somewhat older one, or something similar. I know my parents would NOT let me sell the vibe for something i feel more comfortable in, so there is no point in talking to them about it which really frusterates me. I know im being spoiled, and ungrateful its just that im super disappointed by the whole mess. I was so excited to inherit it, and now its a mess of problems and just hasnt settled with me very well :/

KnittingNat 03-04-2008 08:48 AM

I'm 27 years old and my and hubby's first car was and still is (for the last 1.5 years) a 1994 Peugeot 205. That's a fun little car and about all we could afford. I don't know how it is in US, but here a Cavalier is a family car and so is the Honda Civic. The poor college students have to be content with Fiat Punto or the Peugeot or something similar like Ford Fiesta. I think you're really lucky to have parents who can just give you a car they don't need and you should be happy that you can fit about 5 of your friends in there. Believe me - after taking the bus for a few times - you'd love your car.
I'm not trying to be mean, just to put things a little into perspective for you. For me it's a wishful reality to get a car from my parents, especially when i paid for university myself and worked all the way through my degree. Maybe your reality is different and you come from a wealthy family and my opinion is completely irrelevant:shrug: Just my 2 cents.

Silver 03-04-2008 08:54 AM

Well you can try to be happy with your free car, or go buy the one you want. The Vibe is not an ugly car and it's a lot newer and nicer than most people have. :shrug:

truble2301 03-04-2008 08:55 AM


Originally Posted by princess (Post 1074637)
i would be totally happy with a honda civic, even a somewhat older one, or something similar. /

I think you're going to have to do what my kids will be doing, what my brothers and I did and what my parents did before me -- get a job, save your money and buy whatever car you want.

Like KnittingNat, I worked my way through college and grad school and would have been beyond thrilled to have someone give me a car -- any car at all. The thought of having been given two cars for my sole use by the age of 19 is beyond anything I ever dreamed.

I don't want to pound on you, I know you're just venting. Maybe you need to look at it from the perspective of the kids who don't have the luxury of any car at all at your age. Given the choice between the Vibe and using the bus or your feet, I bet the Vibe will look a little better to you.

princess 03-04-2008 09:08 AM

i do use the bus for school just to let you guys know. i need my car to get to work since its further and my parents dont want me on a public bus at near midnight...

that and i work, i pay bills, and i have conditions for everything my parents do "give" me. my school is very expensive, funds for scholarships are at an all time low, and living costs are very high where im from, there is no way i would be able to do it all on my own thats why my parents help out where they can. and no, my family isnt wealthy by any means, but we are comfortable enough that i get mere pennies in student loans.

and since you obviously missed it, i would be totally happy with an older car that i liked better, and older means CHEAPER. i guess saving them some money doesnt count for anything? but hey what do i know, im only 19 right?

cdjack 03-04-2008 09:29 AM

I think you should be happy with the Vibe. My first car was a 1986 two door Cherokee with A/C that worked when it wanted to work. Looking back, I think my mom should have made me help pay for it.
I would have appreciated it a lot more.

rachejm 03-04-2008 09:36 AM

I'm 20 and I can't even afford lessons let alone manage to run a car! I'm at University, I'm up to my eyeballs in debt and I'm not even qualified yet!!! By the end of my degree I will owe 21,000 and thats not including the interest (which was supposed to be around 2% but they have since decided to double it!!!) Sorry, University fees are a bit of a sore point. Hopefully I can get a summer job and then I can actually learn to drive.

Anyway, this probably isn't very helpful but speaking as someone who doesn't have a car I'd be happy with anything, so maybe you just need to change the way you are thinking about it. Maybe instead of looking at peers with expensive cars look at those of us who have to walk. You just have to try to see the bright side sometimes, at least walking gives me plenty of exercise.

Alternatively, a bit of decoration inside might make you feel more at home in it and you could just mention to your parents that you would feel happier with something else, its not that you don't appreciate it but you just don't feel as happy driving it as you did your old one. At least give them the opportunity to say no, they might surprise you if you present a good argument.

Otherwise get a job and start saving - its what I'm planning to do and what most of my friends did.

Silver 03-04-2008 09:38 AM


Originally Posted by princess (Post 1074684)
and since you obviously missed it, i would be totally happy with an older car that i liked better, and older means CHEAPER.

No, I didn't miss that. I said that you could be happy with your free car or buy your own, however "cheap" it is.

bethany 03-04-2008 09:41 AM

I can feel for you, remembering my car that was light blue but the shine was worn off, so it was a matte light blue, the hubcaps were stolen...I had such a relationship the the mechanic, he'd tow me for free each time, bring me home and I sent him and his family a Christmas card one year! It was when I started smelling like exhaust all the time and people would ask if I drove the "stink mobile" that I started looking for a different car.

But I was in grad school full time and working 30-40 hours a week on top of that. Sooooo.....there are options. Save all the $ to get something else, THEN approach your parents about a trade in. In the mean time, knit some cool fuzzy dice and steering wheel covers, seat covers, and make that thing "yours!"

stitchwitch 03-04-2008 09:58 AM

I'm 40, I drive a 1993 Saturn SCII that I bought new. The tint is faded and peeling, the stereo is busted, the alarm is busted, and the paint is fading and flaking off. If you got a free car from someone and it doesn't have those problems, consider yourself lucky. I consider myself lucky when the thing starts and I get home from wherever I'm going.

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