sounds as if ya'll are trying to choke the hook???
loosen up .. relax when doing it.
also depends on how you sit and how your holding the hook.
I flip flop back and forth between pecil style holding and across the plam holding ..
especially since I have carpal tunnel.
but learn to relx more .. and stop and flex your fingers ever so often too.
learn to sorta set up a rythem with the way you crochet.
for example : only crochet during commercials on tv.. watch the show. every 15 minutes .. stand up stretch .. reach for the ceiling..
walk around the coffee table a few times. But RELAX!!!