Although we all have our favorites, I am crazy about my Knit Picks Options set. I feel they're very good value for the money and there are a lot of additional cable lengths you can add in as you go for even more flexibility. (It's a little like buying clothes and accessories for a Barbie Doll!
Besides, they are AWESOME to knit with!
And relax those fingers!!! It takes a little practice, but you CAN keep those needles and yarn from getting away from you with far less pressure than you're probably knitting with!
Good luck and happy knitting,