I have been trying to boil this down to the bottom line. I am trying to clear the bull and supposed "excuses" (as some without anxiety see it) To be completely honest with myself...
I think this is it....
I DO very much support her, and DO very much want to be there for her special moment/day.
I DO NOT want to take a vacation on a cruise. I DO NOT want pass go and spend $3000 on a wedding/unwanted vacation.
I think that is cut and dry. Without any additional feelings in the way.
The next question is, does a friend do something they don't want to do, just for the sake of a friends happiness. Do I sacrifice/put off some of the things I need/want to do to make her happy?
What makes me a real friend? Just because she is being unreasonable, does that give me the right to be unreasonable back? Is she really being unreasonable?
See...this is the sort of thing that goes flying through my mind.
Growing old is mandatory, growing UP is optional!