Ugh! I feel for you all. I've never been a great sleeper though it is worse since menopause. I've tried the various OTC remedies, but they don't work well for me. I finally decided my quality of life was being compromised being so tired all the time so I ended up getting Ambien. I get the highest dose (10 mg), but often only take half along with a couple benedryl. I only use the other half if I'm not asleep within a few hours.
My DH gets up to see if I'm okay but then let's me alone thank god. He usually doesn't mind the light on in bed either if I read late. .