LL Bean's bedding holds up really well and isn't outrageously priced. I love their egyptian cotton towels. they are soft and wear like a champ.
I've had good luck also with the higher end quilts from Bed Bath and Beyond. Not the cheap "clearance" ones, but their regular ones usually between $75 and $125. Plus they have 20%off coupons all the time. (Linens N things is similar.)
You may also want to check out Sears. My daughter's quilt is from there and has been washed at least 10 times since we got it. the padding inside has bunched a little at the corners, but it has an open channel design, so we sort of figured that would happen. Sears has the bedding by Ty Pennington which is definitely not girly.
did I say one project at a time?