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Old 05-08-2012, 03:16 PM   #1
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Knitting projects promised Nightmare!
I have been in and out of the hospital for the last 6 months, I have had 3 surgeries so far and have the last one on June 28. (I have REALLY BAD Arthritis, and needed to replace both hips and both knees, I should have my left elbow and right ankle replaced also, but not willing to do that MUCH surgery in one year.) I seem to be unable to knit with any kind of consistency when I am in the hospital or for the first 3 weeks when I get out--Might have something to do with the pain, pain medications, or simple loss of energy because of the surgeries.
So I just realized that I am REALLY Backed up with Promised knitting projects, I need some help with ideas of how to politely tell some people that they are not going to get what they have been promised within the time frame it was promised.
Here is the list of all current projects and their promised delivery date. HELP!
  1. 2 pairs socks--brother's birthday 8/1--only one pair started (Toe up 2 at a time--toe finished started on foot)
  2. 2 dishcloths--mom's birthday 10/28--1 started about 1/3 finished, yarn for other purchased)
  3. 2 pairs socks--Mom Christmas--NOT started, Yarn purchased
  4. Pink Blanket--Nurse from hospital 6/27--Started about 1/16 done (She is paying me for it)
  5. 5 Blue hats--NICU at Private hospital 6/27--3 finished other 2 not started (Hospital provides yarn and requests completion within 1 month)
  6. 2 Comfort shawls--ICU at Private hospital 6/27--1 started (only 7 rows done, Hospital provides yarn and requests completion within 6 weeks)
  7. Pony--Friend Angelique's birthday 1/1--not started (she paid for all the yarn since she wanted very expensive yarn)
  8. 5 pink hats--NICU at Private hospital 6/27--not started (Hospital provides yarn and requests completion within 1 month)
  9. Brown Shawl--myself 8/31--NOT started, yarn was purchased for me as a birthday present this year, and I was told to make myself a shawl to wear at the church picnic on 8/31
  10. 4 Baby Blankets--Palmer Park Blanket Brigade--1 (peach) started. They provide the yarn. They never request the blankets back by a certain time, but they hand out 30 or more blankets to the battered women's shelter and city owned hospital NICU every week , and need these blankets ASAP.
How in the heck am I going to let people know that I am sorry they are not going to get what they wanted in their time frame, but that I promise they will get The project eventually?

Any suggestions?
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Old 05-08-2012, 04:08 PM   #2
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Simply tell them that - due to your medical/health problems so far this year, you've been unable to work on their items, but will get them as soon as you can finish them. Let them know that may not be until the end of the year, even the charity items. And start saying no to any new items as you prioritize your list.
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Old 05-08-2012, 05:07 PM   #3
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I agree. Tell them that due to your medical problems which includes the pain medication after surgery that you will be unable to complete their projects till at least the end of the year and possibly into next year. Your family and friends should understand. If they don't then consider whether you should be knitting for them at all.

Charity projects do sometimes have due dates for various reasons, but it's likely you're not the only one knitting for them. Tell them the same thing and if they need them by a certain time you'll just have to tell them you won't be able to do this project. Maybe next time.

I have arthritis in my spine at the cervical level. Unfortunately they cant replace that. I hope you feel better soon!
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Old 05-08-2012, 05:57 PM   #4
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You have a very good reason for not being able to complete the projects you promised on time. Let everyone on your list know about it and then relax and concentrate on getting back to your old, but better, self. Sometimes circumstances intervene and upset the best of well-laid plans. Hope all goes very well for you as you recover.
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Old 05-08-2012, 06:03 PM   #5
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HONESTY, as they say, is the best policy.

Personally, I would tell the hospital/ICUs first. While they have supplied the yarn, they are a charity, NOT your friends and family, who should come first. And, since they are a hospital, they can understand medical problems affecting life. Just assure them that the projects will be done, just delayed.

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Old 05-08-2012, 06:55 PM   #6
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One thing you can do is send a nice card to the folks on the birthday/Christmas list. And in the card, tell them that you've been "a little busy lately," but unfortunately it hasn't been the kind of busy that you prefer (that is, knitting for them).

If you have the yarn for the project, snip off a piece of it and enclose it in the card with a note that says, "Here's your project in its infancy stage!! You'll be getting the fully formed [insert name of project] as soon as I'm back to some form of normalcy!"

You could also remind them that if you don't take care of yourself first, then soon NO ONE will be enjoying your knitting!

And for those who purchased yarn for you to make something, offer to give it back to them so they can find someone else to do it. You're not the only knitter out there, so don't feel as though "it's all up to you!"

By the way, I wouldn't recommend putting a deadline on yourself since you never know what's around the corner!

And, yes, I second the advice to stop promising people things--at least until you've recovered. Saying NO is a very healthy thing to do. At the very least, you can tell them, "I'm sorry, but I'm just not able to take on any new projects right now."
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Old 05-09-2012, 08:04 AM   #7
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Originally Posted by Antares View Post
One thing you can do is send a nice card to the folks on the birthday/Christmas list. And in the card, tell them that you've been "a little busy lately."
Good, sound, basic advice.


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If you have the yarn for the project, snip off a piece of it and enclose it in the card with a note that says, "Here's your project in its infancy stage!!
Lovely suggestion/sentiment.
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Old 05-09-2012, 11:40 AM   #8
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Thanks Everyone!
Thanks everyone! I Love the suggestion of sending a cliping of the yarn with the note explaining that things just won't be done on time. I Definitly will be saying NO to any and all new projects, and reprioratizing things and doing those that I feel I can really accomplish.
I think you are right that anyone that gives me a hard time, needs to be droppd from the knitting project list.
DogCatMom, I am sorry to hear of your loss but Happy that you have a new Fur Baby to care for, I am glad you have teh ability to care for ruesuce animals.
I addition to all this surgery, I also had to have my dog (he was 14 3/4 years old, but I had only had him for 4 months. I resuced him from my brother's new wife; she did not have time to care for him as she was working 16 hour days with 1 hour total commute time.) put down last Saturday. He had Aggressive rectal cancer (no visable rectal tumor 4 weeks ago, grew to totally occlude his rectum in 4 weeks) and was unable to poop. Durring the autopsy they found additional Cancer tumors on his kidneys, liver, and chest wall. Vet thought that if we had gone the painkiller and laxative route he would have died within the month anyway.
So now I have to get over his loss before I can consistently knit again, also.

Glad I have you all here to help me keep Knitting in perspective.
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Old 05-09-2012, 11:57 AM   #9
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Good for you!

When you get out from under some of the obligation burden, I bet you'll feel a whole lot better emotionally. Now you just need some time to heal from your surgeries and to grieve for your dog.

Sometimes knitting can be good therapy, but not when it has deadlines and expectations attached to it! Ick!
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Old 05-09-2012, 02:41 PM   #10
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It's clear that you are a generous, giving, kind person. I expect that everyone on the list knows this and that you wouldn't just decide not to do as you've promised. The most important thing right now is your recovery. Things happen that we don't have control over.

I recall one Christmas that my MIL had intended to give items she'd sewn as gifts. For some reason she couldn't get them done before Christmas. There were packages of fabric and an IOU for the finished item. All were done, just not by Christmas. Life's too short to stress over things more than we must.

I wish you a speedy recovery.

ETA My guess: Others will cut you more slack than you do for yourself.
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