I need to vent a little

happyfingers · 03-07-2008, 02:45 PM

Hi
I'm 43 I have 4 kids 15-6 and a husband.....I love my kids with all my heart and they are really good kids, but they are kids.....I have been married for 17 yrs this Aug and I'm so sorry I ever married this man....he will do nothing I MEAN NOTHING,

but pay the bills...no housework , no rtake the kids out to do something with them I have to be there...well I have just started back to work because I was a stay at home mom...it amazes me how some men don't realize how you give of your self to take care of the home and the children

...They think that the are better because they pay the bills.....so wrong...I read the thread were the lady was talking about have just a few days to her self.....I need that but it's not happening......you know since I have started this job my husband gets home before me but will not make dinner. will not clean, will only wash his clothes forget anyone else

...he tells my oldest which is my 15 yr old son who could not boil a cup of water to fix something.

.....I try to make crock pot meals and all he has to do is turn it on and let it warm put the food on a plate........but will he oh no..how the h*$@ do we stay together I hear you say.......It is only for my kids.......I do not make enough to support them on my own......Now we don't fight basically I just act like he is not here...and I do things with my kids..but I need a break....thanks to all who listen

Nikkilc · 03-07-2008, 03:04 PM

i think you need one of these

auburnchick · 03-07-2008, 03:09 PM

I'm so sorry. Marriage is difficult...especially when the other spouse does not help out. My husband had to start doing things when I went back to school. My kids also started doing more for themselves. I had to hold myself back and not do things...just so they would learn.

Anyhow, I totally understand. You have a load to carry, and he's not doing anything to help lighten the burden.

HamaLee · 03-07-2008, 03:16 PM

Big BIG BIIIIG

Sounds like a tough transition time for you and I hope it gets better. Hopefully, like AuburnChick mentioned, with time they will figure out that they have to pitch in a bit if they want clean clothes and food. They are physically able to do it but it'll be hard for you to sit back and NOT do things for awhile. Good luck, vent often!

saracidaltendencies · 03-07-2008, 03:34 PM

I know how difficult situations like this can be and I hope things work out for the best. Just don't let your happiness get lost in the mess of things.

Dangles · 03-07-2008, 03:54 PM

I hope you get that break you need.

03-07-2008, 06:15 PM

Originally Posted by Demonica

Just don't let your happiness get lost in the mess of things.

It won't get lost. It will re-surface, when the coast is clear.

Happiness stays with us, no matter what. The hardships of life might temporarily darken it, but, it will come back for her.

domiknitrix · 03-07-2008, 04:17 PM

Same here. My husband had to learn how to do everything when I went back to school too. He could not could a lick and the kids would complain and say the food didn't taste good and I would say - taste good to me. I didn't want him to stop crying. NOW, he is an excellent cook and he helps around the house a lot. But, that came after years of prodding. We have been together 16 years and we have three kids 18, 14 and 9.

Natrasha · 03-08-2008, 09:23 AM

I can relate...boy, howdy, I know what you mean!

And that's all I'm gonna say about that.

Just take some comfort in knowing that there is at least one other person out here who is just as fed up as you are.

Becky Morgan · 03-08-2008, 07:27 PM

Originally Posted by Natrasha

I can relate...boy, howdy, I know what you mean!

And that's all I'm gonna say about that.

Just take some comfort in knowing that there is at least one other person out here who is just as fed up as you are.

Make that two. Mine imagines he's sick and won't eat anything but bread, milk and cereal. I'm starting to think that if I'm cooking for one anyhow, I might as well be where no one complains about the "stench" from steamed carrots and peas or the "stink" from my sweat after I scrub the floor, salt and sweep the sidewalk and clear half of the driveway.