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Old 07-14-2008, 10:18 PM   #11
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I have to agree with the majority...I say finish them, and send it with the baby to his new family....

Hopefully it will be a connection you will both always share!
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Old 07-15-2008, 06:53 AM   #12
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Oh do make the sweater for your grandnephew. My husband was adoptive and he came with an outfit. We still have that sweater outfit. So I am sure if you niece lets you send it with the baby. The new parents will love it. So the baby will have something to love when he grows up. I don't know if this helps or not but thought I would tell you how much my husband loved that outfit. My first born and second came home with it on.
So I would make it and hope that your neice says okay with you making it for him. Love is Love.




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Old 07-15-2008, 10:09 AM   #13
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I think it really depends on how sensitive the issue is with your niece. She may be having a really hard time with this decision, but is making it in the best interest of the baby. If that's the case, she may not want family members to send things for the baby as it would be harder for her to deal with.

On the other hand, if she is okay with that - sending something with the baby (esp. if open adoption) will let the child know that he was loved and lack of love was definitely NOT the reason he was given up for adoption.

I'm sorry you're having a hard time with this. Just try to see it through your niece's eyes. If she is being unselfish and trying to provide the best life possible for this baby, then she should be supported in this difficult decision.

God bless and good luck.
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i have to agree with the majority here, i would finish them and ask your nice if she would send them with the baby, if not i'd donate them to a charity or someone i knew.

as someone that may be considering adopting a child at somepoint in the future i would personally think it was great a baby coming with a hand made outfit, it would show that someone loved the baby and cared enough to spend the time and love making it.

its a hard thing for you and your nice to go through, she may still change her mind nearer the time

a big to you though
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Old 07-15-2008, 10:57 AM   #15
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how difficult. I think I'd ask her and if she is ok with it, then send it with him when he goes to his new family. And if she doesn't even want that reminder, give it away or keep it for yourself. I'm so sorry. Too bad she won't let you adopt him.
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I live in a family of adoptees, and to make a long story short, I've dealt with lots more than most people think true.

I would ask your niece. I'd just tell her why you want to send it, and see what she says. Honestly, if she doesn't want to, I'd keep it in the hopes that someday...... or I would donate it. But even if she isn't his forever mom, he still is her child, and she his parent.... I'd ask her. Hope this doesn't sound rude or out of turn.

(((hugs))) I know this is hard for you, her and everyone involved. Someone else has their hand in it, and that Someone knows what He's doing. I'll be praying.
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Old 07-15-2008, 11:06 AM   #17
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I'm so sorry to hear that. I would also finish it and send it with him. That way he will always have a piece of you with him.
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Finish it and send it with him. Im so sorry to hear your hurting, he's part of you and i know you must be really upset. Put all your love into every stitch and ask your niece to send it with him, if the new parents keep it or not is up to them but the love you weave will always stay with him. Good luck.
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Thank you all so much for your input- what a terrible time I was having.

Sorry it took so long to respond- my MIL died and we drove 1/2 way across the country.

She has now decided to keep the baby! I am overjoyed.
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Yeah!! I know you must be ecstatic. God Bless!!
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