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Old 01-19-2011, 02:13 PM   #11
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It is taking alot for me to respond to this thread, as the memories will likely begin to flow..I too lost a dear neighbor, friend, muse and teacher..Our relationship ship began when she was 89 and I was close too 50..She lived across the street (her husband of 88 still lives there) what began as a "question" (please show me how to quilt) turned into my dear neighbor "craming" every craft she knew into the last 4 years of her life..She taught me to quilt, knit, crochet, tating, sew and soo many others..I too sat in hospice with a pair of slippers I knit for her (on a plane on my way back home) slipped on her feet and said my goodbyes...I inherited all her of crafting supplies and think of her everyday...
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Old 01-19-2011, 02:27 PM   #12
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I am so incredibly sorry to hear that. I have empathy for both you and her. I am sure she is a very special person to everyone who is in her life, and it is so nice and honorable of you to stay with her as a friend.
I don't pray, but I do "think" positive thoughts to try and send them outward into the world...I guess positive vibes. She will be in my thoughts, and hopes for the best.
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Old 01-19-2011, 02:30 PM   #13
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I will think and hope for not only a comfortable and painless death, but also perhaps that she might have a little longer on this earth (as long as it isn't painful). And learn as much as you can from her, perhaps some new knitting tricks, and pass them on to us so that we all might be able to keep a part of her alive in this world.
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Old 01-19-2011, 03:45 PM   #14
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I am so sorry. Please do your best through this tough time to complete the sweater. It's the last thing her husband will get from her, and to have you complete it too, her true friend, adds even more importance to it. I will be thinking of you all.
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I am saying prayers for your friend and you . You are helping to ease her pain of leaving her husband by completing the sweater for her.
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Old 01-20-2011, 11:06 AM   #16
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Thank you everyone, for your kind words of support, prayers, and positive thoughts.

Her husband insisted that I go through all of her yarn (and there was enough to open a small shop!) to pick out what I wanted to keep and set aside yarn to donate back to her favorite LYS.

I now have a lawn sized bag of yarn...enough to keep me busy for a couple of years, at least! I think I have 20-30 skeins of sock yarn. And her husband wants me to keep her Addi Turbo set in a beautiful leather case that was a gift to her. AND, I am instructed to continue to teach what Nancy taught me and pass it along. They also want me to have her swifter and ball roller.

All of that is so very generous and kind, but I felt rather like a scavenger. Oh, and she's like me. Can't find my needles? Let's just go buy more! HUNDREDS of dpns that I get to sort through and give to the friend I'm trying to teach.

As for the sweater...I'm moving to Long Beach CA and have found a beautiful shop at the Marina, where I can take it for any help I might need. I WILL finish that sweater for him.

Sorry for the babbling, but I'm sitting here with her and she's now progressed to nearly constant delirium. My friend is already gone at this point, we're just waiting for her body to catch up.

As she always said....it is what it is.

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I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. My grandmother died of lung cancer about 9 years ago. She had brain tumors and they made her forget a lot of things and stuff.
She was an awesome knitter and crocheter. Sadly, I didn't really know this until after she passed away.
My thoughts and prayers are with you. I know how hard it is to lose someone to cancer. Good luck on finishing the sweater for her husband. I know that they will both appreciate your work and dedication.

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So sorry, Feef. I just lost my father-in-law to cancer on 1/10/11 and I know your grief. It's wonderful that you are there with her. Your presence gives her great comfort. I've said a little prayer that her suffering ends peacefully and that her husband's and your grief will be eased by knowing she loves you very much.

Peace, Feef. And a hug.

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I have said a prayer for your friend, her DH and you. Finish that sweater and let the love be knit throughout the sweater. It will be a beautiful tribute to all of your lives.
I agree with this. Not only will her husband have a sweater knit by her but it'll be finished by a good friend of hers who took the time to be with her in the hospital during some of her last hours, if not the rest of them. He'll not only remember her but remember how her spirits were lifted by you just for being there. Also, I'm sure she loved the chemo cap, no matter how plain or how many mistakes you had in it. People who have been knitting a long time get more touched by getting something from someone who has a tougher time at it... in a way, it's more special because it might not be this gorgeous thing but it's by someone who cared enough to take the time to make it and give it. I'm not sure how much you know her husband but if I were in your shoes, I'd offer to listen and be there- even if it's only email, snail-mail, IM or cell phone... you know, when he needed to cry or get some hard feelings out. I'm sure her death will touch him pretty deeply, as it is touching you. Also, listening and talking to him about how you feel can help you get through the sad time as well. I really do hope she has a painless death and I know with cancer, sometimes, that's all you can do. My mom's mother died when she and her siblings were still in... hmm... I think middle school... early teens or just before. Their dad died before their mom. Her mother died of cancer but she wasn't in the hospital in her last days... she was fighting hard to make sure her kids would continue to have a good life... working when she should have been resting.
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Oh Feef first of all let me send you a big hug . I have thought long and hard about what I'd like to say to you and now I can't seem to find any of the right words. I'm sitting here with tears in my eyes. How wonderful that you and Nancy found each other and have been able to share an incredible friendship. I lost my baby sister, (who was also my very best friend), to a terminal illness 5 years ago. By baby sister I mean that she was 56 and I'm 5 years older. I live in TX and she was in MN. Her last days were spent living with her daughter. Hospice was amazing! At our beck and call day and night. I was able to fly to MN and spend the last month of her life by her side. (Just as you've been able to be with your friend.) It's extremely difficult watching someone you love so much die, but you'll never regret being there. I believe hospice has a saying that goes something like: Dying is a process. Death is the "event". I sort of compared my sister's "process" to something like standing outside of this large house at night. You see all the windows lit up and you know there's so much activity going on inside. As the days and weeks went by and my sister slipped closer to her final day on this earth, it was as though every night there was one less light lit inside this home until only one small candle burned in a window. Then that finally flickered out....You will keep Nancy's love for knitting alive and I know that sweater for her husband will get finished He'll cherish it forever. Always remember how much Nancy has enriched your life. God bless her. God bless you.
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