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Old 06-18-2006, 08:21 PM   #11
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Old 06-18-2006, 08:33 PM   #12
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Old 06-18-2006, 08:39 PM   #13
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My heart goes out to you and your family.

Since you can't fall apart at home, go ahead and do it here. We're all here for you.

All my best wishes for you! Be strong.
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Old 06-18-2006, 10:22 PM   #14
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I'm so sorry to hear about the rough time you're having. I thought my year was bad until I read about yours.

DH had a mild stroke in late March. He's run over 100 marathons and eats very healthily so this was a shock to us. He has atrial fibrillation and that's being blamed for the stroke. Then the day before Mother's Day our 16 year old Lab, Abby died. The good part of that was that we got to have her as a member of our family for such a long time, she only had one bad day before she died, and we didn't have to make the decision to end her life.

I'm glad you can find support here and know that we care even though all we can provide is moral support.

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Old 06-18-2006, 11:05 PM   #15
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Re: OT: Ever had a REALLY bad year?
Originally Posted by TwoLeftNeedles
I absolutely cannot fall apart. DH panics if I'm anxious or unhappy -- for him to be able to help me, I have to stay calm, optomistic and assured. I don't want to be a sad sack with a litany of woes to recite every time someone asks, "How are you?" The soap opera of my life just isn't that interesting to someone not living it.

In fact, unless I decide to pay someone to listen to me feel sorry for myself, I can't think of a soul it would benefit.
First, Im sending the BIGGEST HUGS I can muster.

Second, I work with seniors and, while you are not one, I see people and their families who have multiple challenges to face.

I can tell you that caregivers absolutely MUST take care of themselves.... physically, emotionally and spiritually, if they are expected to take GOOD care of their loved ones. I've seen people that, without meaning to, get burnt out taking care of someone they really love, and it affects not only the care they are able to give, but the quality of time they spend with that person. Relationships suffer and no one benefits.

It sounds like you are going to have a circle of care-giving at your house. If you are to take care of your son and your DH and do it WELL, if your DH is going to take care of you and your son like he will want to, you HAVE to take care of yourselves individually, too.

It sounds like you are ready to face your medical care plan head on...and GOOD for you! And, Im SO glad that you found that KH is the WONDERFUL community that it is....I have felt the compassion and kindness of friends here too many times to count already.

But, please dont be afraid to seek professional help as well. The most emotionally healthy, stable person in the WORLD would be knocked on their butt by all that you have had to face in the last year, and the promise of what's to come in the future for you, for your son, and the uncertainty of your DHs condition.

Your whole FAMILY is going to need all the strength you can gather. You are going to use all kinds of resources along your journey. Asperger's specialists and community organizations for your son, Parkinson's for you. Dont forget about the emotional support resources that will be available to you, as well.

Even when a family is fairly healthy, who says they cant get even BETTER and STRONGER together? Anything to avoid the possibility of burnt-out, you know?

I wish only the best for you... and Im sending MORE HUGS! Those are ALWAYS available here!
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Old 06-18-2006, 11:40 PM   #16
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Old 06-19-2006, 07:49 AM   #17
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Old 06-19-2006, 07:57 AM   #18
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and ((((HUGS)))) to you.

Not much else to say but that bad years suck moneky hoo has and that even the Queen of England had an Annus Horibilis. Some years just blow, I hope that the next 12 months will allow you a more peaceful time of it, and I agree there are times when carers need to step back and care a little for themseves.
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Old 06-19-2006, 08:29 AM   #19
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When I saw your subject title, I thought of 1979. All but one of us ended up in the hospital, multiple times. If bad things really do come in "threes", we knew when we got to four, more was in store.

You sound like you have the ability and determination to learn coping skills to move you forward. I believe attitude has a lot to do with how well we manage and cope with the unexpected things that arise in our lives.

My suggestion is to learn as much as you can about the things that affect your family. From personal experience, the school system might end up being your biggest challenge.
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Old 06-19-2006, 12:48 PM   #20
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My prayers and love go out to you and your DH.... yup, one day at a time.


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