I have dial up connection too. I think faster is available here, but we are cheap skates.
(poor too, so a good thing)
I don't have a laptop and have never tried to download my pictures directly from the computer. I downsize my pictures to 1200 the longest way they are formatted on a program we have called Photo Impressions. Then I put my pictures either in PhotoBucket or FLICKR, from there I put them on here. I've noticed that the ones I put on from PhotoBucket a person can click on and they will get bigger, but the ones from FLICKR don't do that.
I don't know if any of this helps at all, but that is all I know.