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Old 01-21-2011, 03:46 PM   #1
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Am I Over Reacting?
So, my cousin is expecting a baby (due in mid February), so I thought I would knit a few little things for her and gave them to her along with a few other things at her baby shower last weekend. I haven't had a chance to upload the pictures I took yet, but will post them when I have a chance.

I had knit a ribbed/cabled hat and matching mittens using some yarn I had on hand (KnitPicks Shine Sport, not that it really matters). As I was knitting the hat, I noticed that a few rows back I had accidently purled a stitch that I should have knit. I really hate to rip back for something small like that (if I had noticed the mistake while still on the same row, I would have gone back and fixed it but I didn't want to go back several rows), and I figured that no one else would notice, so I just left it.

A few days after the shower, I heard from my sister that my cousin had noticed the one wrong stitch and was apparently disappointed/bothered by it. She even went so far as to ask my sister to get me to fix it! Now, if I didn't want to go back to fix it when I was only, say, three rows past the mistake, why would I want to rip out half the hat to fix it now?? And secondly, doesn't that seem a little unappreciative?

I'm not particularly close with this cousin, and am feeling even less inclined to want to fix this one stupid stitch now that I've heard what a big deal she's making out of it (especially considering she didn't even have the courtesy to speak to me personally about it!). I have no desire to make anything else for her, as I feel like I would be wasting my time making something for someone who doesn't appreciate it.

I realize that was kind of a long rant!

I guess my question is, do you all think I'm over reacting to this whole situation? Has anyone else experienced something similar? How did you handle it?
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Old 01-21-2011, 04:53 PM   #2
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Yes, that is really shallow of her. If it really was a big deal to her she could just say thank you and then put it away. You don't ask someone to "fix" a hand knit gift for one little stitch. If there was a big hole or seam had come loose that's one thing, but this..not so much.

That said... I think I personally would have fixed it in the first place because it was a gift. I'm maybe weird that way though.
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Old 01-21-2011, 05:04 PM   #3
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Yeah, a gift for someone else I would probably fix it if it was obvious. For just one st you don't have to rip back all the rows, drop the sts over it, do the one correctly and bring the sts back up.

But it was a little petty of your cousin maybe, she could have been more tactful about it.
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I suppose I should have just fixed it in the first place .... it was hardly noticeable the way that it fell in the ribbing pattern (you would have had to have been examining the stitches relatively closely) and I was trying to finish it in time for the shower, so I guess I took a short cut that I probably shouldn't have since it was a gift after all. I guess it just seems odd to me because if I had been in her position I wouldn't have thought anything of it.

Perhaps I shouldn't look at the situation so negatively .... maybe I'll just fix the thing and be done with it rather than wasting any more energy!

I think maybe one of my knitting resolutions this year should be to learn how to fix mistakes more efficiently! I've never been able to do the whole "drop one stitch down" fix very well .... I could definitely use some practice with things like that.
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Old 01-21-2011, 05:42 PM   #5
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Well you can take some leftover yarn and cast on about 20 sts and make some mistakes in it. Purl a stitch that should have been knit, or put an accidental YO in or drop down 2 sts to put in a decrease.
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Originally Posted by suzeeq View Post
Well you can take some leftover yarn and cast on about 20 sts and make some mistakes in it. Purl a stitch that should have been knit, or put an accidental YO in or drop down 2 sts to put in a decrease.

Yes, I think I might make a practice swatch to try out some mistake fixing techniques!
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Old 01-21-2011, 06:13 PM   #7
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The tips page has some Fixing Mistakes videos, besides dropping sts on purpose, there's how to reinsert a needle after you rip out and a couple others.
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I don't think you are over reacting. I think you are venting out of frustration from making a mistake, not fixing it and feeling guilty, and then have it rudely thrown in your face.

Honestly, I think it's very rude and unappreciative of her and she'd never get another thing from me. I can not imagine 1 stitch causing an entire piece to cause such drama. Maybe you should reach out to her directly and just mention you thought it would be something special and if it's a big deal, she can donate it where it will be used by it in a nice way.

I think all of your posted work is great. Knit items for someone who may find a mistake and consider it their own special part of you. It's a reminder someone made this for you because it meant something to them.

Don't beat yourself up over not fixing it. Everyone takes a shortcut at times. Learn from it and move on and know you are talented and appreciated elsewhere.
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Old 01-21-2011, 07:33 PM   #9
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Legend has it that the Amish purposely leave in a "mistake" in every quilt to let the receiver know that it's handmade. I go by that rule with my knitting. If I see a mistake a few rows down and it's not tooooo bad, I'll leave it in and if anyone notices it, I'll tell them "it's so you know it's handmade." I will fix it if it's too horrible, but I leave in most of the little things thinking nobody will notice...or at least not point it out! (Yeah, the cousin was rude! It's not like you wouldn't know it was her who brought the hat back to be fixed! DUH!)
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Originally Posted by kellyh57 View Post
Legend has it that the Amish purposely leave in a "mistake" in every quilt to let the receiver know that it's handmade.

I have heard that about Amish quilts before! I guess that could apply to anything hand made ... thanks!
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