Originally Posted by MoniDew
Because I'm attracted to color like a parrot is attracted to a mirror, I have bought many, many busy, overly excited colorways that I don't really like once they are knitted up.
The best way I have discovered to resolve the issue by what I call a "yarn marriage": knitting with 2 strands held together as though they are one. I use one plain yarn and my busy yarn. (in your case, a nice medium grey would calm down the rest of the colors and make it look more like a tweed with pretty flecks.) The plain yarn calms down the overly excited yarn!
This may be the best advice yet! I got to the point where I realized I was really, really not going to wear that busy shawl/ wrap, and I put the yarn and project (still on the needles) away in my stash. I think this weekend I will actually frog it, and when I am ready, try knitting a few swatches in different stitch patterns AND with a carried along yarn husband
to see what looks best. I could easily get 2 scarves out of that much yarn, maybe three.
Thanks for all the advice, everyone!