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Old 02-18-2005, 09:26 AM   #1
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I taught my 5 year old son to knit...now...
WARNING: This might be a little long!

This is interesting, I would appreciate any advise from other moms of boys or anyone else...

My son came home from kindergarten yesterday and was beaming from the work they were doing at school. Apparently they were doing sculpture work. He loves any kind of art.

He asked me "Mommy, can you teach me to knit?" I said "Sure"....then he said "How about today?" Well, how could I pass this up. He asked me after all....right?

So I marched downstairs and set out to look for yarn. He yelled down that he wanted the Orange yarn...orange is his favorite color. So I grabbed a pair of size US15 circular needles and headed up for a lesson.

Little did I know he was going to be so quick. And so proud of himself. He was going on and on about how happy he was that mommy taught him and about how he couldn't believe he was doing it.

I cast on a loose 25 stiches and showed him how to K. He repeated that little ditty about Jack and he laughed and laughed.

He said he couldn't wait to show Daddy!

OK....now my husband is not one of those ultra overly-manly guys booming with testosterone, he's a really great guy, and I thought more open-minded than this. But, apparently he thinks that my son shouldn't be a knitting guy. He thinks that he'll get beat up on. HE'S 5! He's waiting for him to tire of it I suspect.

Oh, I thought he might not be positive with my son, so I when he called I told him that our boy was excited to show him his handywork....Yea, he was like "what? Oh geez, great! Yea, I'll be positive" !

I personally think it is a good skill to have....why shouldn't guys be comfortable knitting. I want to raise a confident son who isn't a "this is for girls, that is for guys" kind of person.

I mean it's not like I enrolled him in Ballet or anything! LOL
My son takes karate lessons, and is quite a "boy" if you know what I mean.

What do you think? Any advise on how to proceed with this, my son completed around 12 rows, and is so proud! I am proud of him too!


Sorry if this is too long!

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Old 02-18-2005, 10:13 AM   #2
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I think it's wonderful that your son is learning to knit. EVERYONE should knit. Knitting is so meditational. If more people knitted, the world would probably be a nicer place.
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Old 02-18-2005, 10:39 AM   #3
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I ABSOLUTELY agree! Thanks for your support Salsa!
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Old 02-18-2005, 10:49 AM   #4
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Well, for one thing, people are going to have a hard time beating him up for knitting if he grows up in karate... *grin*

Here is a link I've copied from Carie's post down the page...
http://www.ljworld.com/section/18under/story/196297

One of the interesting things in there is Waldorf schools, arguably some of the best whole mind learning establishments around for young kids, uses knitting in their curriculum for math skills etc. They teach girls *and boys* to knit, and some of them take it on to become a life long hobby with no develepmental stunting :)

Also, if your hubby is a historical buff, I'd let him know that knitting was a mans thing for a very long time... Throughout the last several centuries, men have knit to supply themselves with garmets and in times of manufacturing stress as in the settlement of America, Australia, and Canada, and during wars to support themselves and troops, as in during the American Civil war and during WWI.

If nothing else, wait till he calms down a little and hit him with the whole, "Do you want our son to grow up being a mysoginest pig? That some things are womens work? If he was a girl, you wouldn't be telling him he/she shouldn't be good at math or science because those are a 'mans' skills..." Let our modern political correctness work on him a bit :)
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Old 02-18-2005, 10:54 AM   #5
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Yeah! That is what I think too.. I think I'll wait a bit til he settles and sees his son and all his satisfaction! I think that every accomplishment that our kids make all lead to strong confident and well-rounded adults!

I agree that if we had girls instead of boys he would never discourage a girl from trying anything that others would consider to be boy things!

So he just needs to see it that way too!

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Old 02-18-2005, 11:09 AM   #6
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Gold stars to your little boy!
You say your hubby is a nice guy, so you could also tell him that kids of both genders all over the USA are doing knitting projects for Warm Up America.
Also, saying that Kaffe Fassett is rich might not hurt either. :D
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Old 02-18-2005, 12:25 PM   #7
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The son of a lady in my aqua jogging class knits! Kids are serious "kryptonite" to me, but even I had to take notice of this well behaved little boy and his knitting. I think he was around 7 yrs old or so. He'd sit on the bench on the pool deck and knit while his mother took the aqua jogging class.

If it were me, I'd kindly tell your husband that if he loves his son, then he would focus more on the fact that your son found something that he enjoys, something that gives him satisfaction and, perhaps more importantly, something that makes him proud of himself. Tell him to think POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT not flat-out discouragement because of some asinine decades-old stereotype.

Or you could make it "fun" by telling your husband, "Hey knitting could even turn our son into a chick magnet when grows up because he'll OOoooZzeee uber-confidence! Women like confidence!" Maybe that will appeal more to your ultra masculine hubby. :D

I agree w/ yellowness, it'll be a bit difficult for kids to bully your son. And even if they try, I'm sure your son's Sensei teaches that karate is about discipline, health and self defense, NOT aggression and violence. So your son will be better equipped to thwart a bully however the situation deems appropriate, at least better equipped than other non-karate 5 yr olds But I actually wouldn't worry about your son being bullied because bullies aren't typically attracted to the confident
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My hubby and I like to daydream together about some of the things that we'd like to do with our son (and any other future children). I told him that I would love to teach our son how to knit when he gets a bit older. Before I could even say why, he was saying, "It would be great for him to develop his fine motor skills and his dexterity. Oh and did you know that knitting used to be primarily done by men?" he asks me. Later on in the discussion, I thought it would be so sweet, if he made a scarf for a girl that he likes.

I think your hubby was still great about it. I give him the thumbs up because he held back his own primary thoughts about his son knitting and, instead, made him feel good about his accomplishment. I believe it's very hard for a parent to hold back their own prejudices from their children.

A story from my hubby's dad. My husband and his brother used to love eating oatmeal for breakfast when they were kids. Then, one day, their mom walked past, looked into the pot of cooking oatmeal and said, "Ewwww, oatmeal." Neither of them have touched oatmeal since that day.

I used to volunteer my time in schools when I was younger. One boy, around 7 years old, was painstakingly trying to print some of his letters the wrong way. As I watched him, he said to me, "That's the way my dad writes."

Anyway, I think your husband is okay. To me, it sounds like he's worried about the "other" dads who wouldn't be okay with their boys knitting. He cares about his son and doesn't want him to get hurt. So, you ask, "How to proceed with this?" Give your husband a great big hug and tell him he's a wonderful dad. Your son may or may not continue to knit, but at least he's had the chance to try it out.
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Thank you so much belderaan. You bring up some great points. I definitely think that giving him the heads up allowed him to see the satisfaction that my son has and celebrate that rather than spout off the first thing that might have come to mind.

He's generally VERY considerate of others' feelings thank goodness!

I am sure that it is more about other men's thoughts than the actual act of his son knitting, and I think he'll come around too. I just want to make sure that we always celebrate the things that the kids do and foster a positive self-confidence where they know that they can accomplish whatever they put their minds to!

Especially since his younger brother just today said he wants to try knitting too!

Hee Hee! I should try to get him to try it, it might be a nice stress reliever! (Yeah, right! ) :o


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Originally Posted by ltourish
Hee Hee! I should try to get him to try it, it might be a nice stress reliever! (Yeah, right! ) :o

Thanks again
Not a bad idea! Let us know if he tries ...
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