When people just have the wrong idea, I haven't really found it annoying exactly, so much as I feel compelled to make sure they leave the interraction with the right idea, about my intentions! I definitely don't don an attitude about it or anything. I fully agree with you Anne. I think the connection we have with other people as knitters, and with people who are even just curious about knitting, is a special and even sacred thing. There's not many things that will get people talking easily with you in public. You know...babies, puppies, and knitting! We're a part of a special elite here! It's definitely a fortunate thing.
I think we all get this, don't we? We're not in war mode, just SNB mode.
Unless we're talking about the kind of people who SERIOUSLY condescend, and make a point out of trying to make you feel small, because you're just learning, or you don't know some knitting term or whatever. I've only had one encounter like that, and it got me really upset. Then, they're clearly not striking up conversation in order to make a connection, but rather to put you down. I don't know what Nuno's experience was, or what degree of annoying she's talking about. If she's seriously peeved, it had to be this kind of encounter. In that case, we're talking about two different kinds of encounters altogether.
In any case, I don't think anyone's questioning the wonderful connection and experience you can have with a stranger who wants to talk about your knitting. I absolutely LOVE that kind of stranger! gab gab gab, it's the best way to get me talking!