I am by no means an expert knitter. I had the same problem when I first started. The worst part was that I started knitting because of a bet with a friend and I wasn't allowed to ask for help from anyone. I had to teach myself. I could use books and videos but no live human beings. I was so frustrated! I'm like you in that I hate not being able to do something right away (I'm also a perfectionist which didn't help). I had to get it into my head that I wasn't going to learn this in an hour and have everything be perfect. I'm still in the trial and error stage but I think I'm doing pretty well. The only advice I can really give is relax and try to enjoy it (it's supposed to be FUN). You'll soon find that it's much more natural than it feels at first.