Thanks again to everyone who sent messages of support and offered recommendations on handling DS7's issues at school. We had a good, productive meeting wth the staff this morning and
DS has been assigned a full-time paraprofessional to see him through til spring break, buying all of us more time to build a good, solid, useful IEP and BIP.
I was surprised to see the autism specialist's excited, enthusiastic reaction to my suggestion of a paraprofessional. I heard after the meeting from a don't-say-I-said-so-source that more than one person thought an aid would be ideal for DS, but that the school district doesn't suggest them because of the expense. Once a parent asks, though, they have to by law consider it and give us a good reason other than staffing/money if they turn it down.
The knitting related part:
While we were waiting on everyone to arrive for the meeting, I pulled out socks I'm knitting for DS's teacher Everyone's eyes popped! At first it was the colors -- the yarn is Lana Grossa's Inca 528 http://www.awesomeewe.com/058.htm
(colorway is in the second row, peacock and yellow) -- then it was the 5 fearsome looking DPNs.