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Old 04-24-2006, 04:35 PM   #1
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OT: Dear Abby
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DEAR ABBY: My mother loves to knit, and she's superb at it. When our children were born, Mama was delighted to have new family members to knit for -- and she has done so throughout their lives.

Last summer, Mama announced that she will no longer knit for our oldest, "Heather," who is 12, because Heather loses everything. Mama said she will no longer pour so much effort into a sweater, hat or scarf only to see it disappear because it was left on a playground.

Last Christmas, all the children received scarves, but only those of the younger two were hand-knit. Heather's came from a store. It was nice -- but it was store-bought.

Now Heather is very hurt, and I don't know what to do. We love our daughter, but she hasn't learned to care for her things, and Mama is adamant about her knitting. What should we do? -- LOST IN OREGON

DEAR LOST: Explain to your daughter that, as hurt as she may feel about the scarf, it's a drop in the bucket compared to how her grandmother felt having spent hours creating a one-of-a-kind item only to have it left somewhere. Heather is not the offended party -- Grandma is. A step in the right direction would be a handwritten letter from Heather to her grandmother apologizing for her carelessness.
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Old 04-24-2006, 04:48 PM   #2
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awwww....I understand why the gramma is upset but it's just a little girl....there's gotta be a better way to teach the girl a lesson...
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Old 04-24-2006, 05:06 PM   #3
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I think 12 is old enough to learn not to lose things. If it were a six year old, I'd think it's harsh, but I think 12 is old enough to be responsible for your stuff...and to appreciate someone else's work.
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Old 04-24-2006, 05:16 PM   #4
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:rofling: Abby must be a knitter
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Old 04-24-2006, 05:27 PM   #5
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:rofling: Abby must be a knitter
Or lost a grandma knitted item before. :rofling:
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Old 04-24-2006, 06:39 PM   #6
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hmmm, I am very stingey about who I knit for. If someone lost something continually I would have to cut them off.

Maybe the girl needs to be taught to knit to teach her the value of a knitted item.
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Old 04-24-2006, 06:54 PM   #7
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I agree with gramma. The girl has to learn sometime, 12 is kinda late IMHO to begain learning to take care of her own property.
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Old 04-24-2006, 08:42 PM   #8
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How about:

Deat LOST,

Teach your kid to be responsible, DUMB@$$. Then grandma won't have to do it the hard way.

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Old 04-24-2006, 08:46 PM   #9
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Originally Posted by Hildegard_von_Knittin
How about:

Deat LOST,

Teach your kid to be responsible, DUMB@$$. Then grandma won't have to do it the hard way.

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Oh hildie, you're so tactful!
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I guess we don't have to worry that we'll lose Hildie to a position in international diplomacy...
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