Pretty everything you mentioned validates my experiences. The last year I've been heavily into knitting after a multi-year absence. I decided this time around that I would rarely knit gifts for friends/family unless they asked or I thought they might really
appreciate it. But no more knitting my latest thing/fad for everyone for Christmas (one year a decade or so ago was the hat/scarf Xmas and most didn't seem to appreciate it).
Originally Posted by hedgehog
I mean, even if you hated the object, a simple "thanks, i got your package" isn't too much to ask, is it??
This is the one that gets me the most. It doesn't even apply to knitting only. I hardly ever
have anyone tell me they received a package from me. I usually have to ask - which I hate
doing because then it feels like I'm pressuring them to tell me if they like the gift or not. I just want to know that the %#@!* thing got delivered!
I thought I was in the clear with not making gifts anymore for the unappreciative masses... until my step-niece found out I was knitting again and said, "Oh good, do we all get scarves for Christmas?"
I guess I missed her the last time around (maybe wasn't family at that point?), so since her birthday is like Dec. 22nd, I think she'll get a knit brithday present but everyone else not so much.
I see two sides to it:
the side where I worked really hard and made
something. It took creativity, time and love (sometimes tough love with swearing but the prime intention is love). It is hurtful if people don't appreciate your work and thoughfulness. This can sometimes be separated from whether they like it or not, sometimes just the appreciatation (based on the "it's the thought that counts" mantra) is enough.
And the other side is being a recipient of something you don't like. If it was handmade for you, yes you should show your appreciation for that at least. But like any other gift you don't like, you don't have use it.
So acknowledging that someone might not like what I toiled and bleed over, I definitely am more "selfish" with my knitting and more selective about who I give handknit gifts to. I think the people who are most appreciative will find you!!