I feel like a lazy slob...

[Cristy]

Is that normal after you have a kid b/c I felt that way w/ my first one too!!! I kept saying that I wasn't going to be so lazy during this maternity leave...I feel like all I do is, get up and down all night to nurse, get up in the morning, change a diaper, nurse some more, put Aaron down for a nap, jump online and check email and this site, change his diaper, nurse some more, put Aaron in his swing or bouncy seat, knit or check my email, and so on and so forth. I so badly need to clean house but by the time I get done nursing and put him down I try to do something I want to do b/c for most of the day I'm doing what I have to do to take care of him....and then my 4YO comes home and I have to take care of both until dh gets home...

It just seems like it takes forever to do anything and if I try to do it during his nap periods I only get half finished...

Today, I haven't even gotten out of my bathrobe....

dh says it's okay but then I look around and see the messy house and the leaves that need burning, etc. etc. and I feel guilty...

[brownishcoat]

That's totally normal! Please don't be so hard on yourself!

[Knitting_Guy]

Not ever having had a kid myself (wrong plumbing), I do know that my ex experienced the exact same thing after each of my three were born. You body had just gone through quite a trauma and needs time to heal and for the hormones to settle back to normal.

Cut yourself some slack and give your body time to do what it needs to do.

[Stiney]

Oh my God your day really makes me sound tired! Running after two kids all day?

I'm serious, I could never be a mom! You are SOOOO not lazy.

[Kaydee]

Not ever having had a kid myself (wrong plumbing) .

I can't say I've ever had kids and being only 22, I don't really know anything about giving birth or being a mother. BUT, I can't imagine that it's easy to have a newborn and to have to get up constantly during the night. I'm sure you're exhausted which probably makes it hard to get other things done. I wouldn't be so hard on yourself, yuo're doing what you need to do for your child and that's all that really matters right now. So what if your house if a little messy, when your kids are grown you aren't going to remember that but you will remember those precious moments you got to spend with them.

[Ingrid]

Oh, Christy! You just had a baby. You're providing him with all his nutrition and taking care of a 4-year-old. The stooooopid housecleaning will wait. Trust me--it doesn't go anywhere.

Cut yourself some slack. Relax and recouperate. Spend your energy on your kids and yourself. Somebody else (hint hint dh) can take care of the cleaning.

[iza]

Reading your post Cristy... now I feel unbelievably lazy I don't have the energy to do house cleaning either and the only reason I found is because I have a cold. yes yes, just a cold, but it's really draining my energy. So I have to relax... right???

[Cristy]

thanks guys..I needed to hear that....dh tries to clean the house but it just isn't the same as when I do it, you know?? but I try to be patient and thankful...

I keep telling myself that I'll be wishing I could be back on the sofa in my bathrobe in a few weeks when I'm back at work so I should just enjoy it...I just feel guilty for some reason. My dad decided to stop by unannounced earlier today after his doctor's appt--when he rang the doorbell I looked up at the front door and he was peeking in the little sidelights at me and I suddenly felt bad b/c I'm in my robe and there is a half eaten apple beside me along w/ an empty water bottle...I get my need for things to be clean and neat from him so I couldn't help but wonder what he thought...

I'll just keep re-reading this thread when I feel bad!

[ArtLady1981]

"This too shall pass...."

Here's something to think about: Real-life lazy people don't feel lazy. They don't worry about laziness. They don't think they are lazy. They don't see any problem.

You are not lazy. You are successfully making adjustments to the changes that a baby makes to your household! You are taking care of the most important things: your baby.

Next, you are taking care of YOU. Checking email and this Forum is good for YOU. It hooks you up with other people. Knitting relaxes you!

Nothing lasts forever. Your baby will nurse less and less...and before you know it...all your kids are grown and out of the house. I have been down this road 5 times...our five children are now grown, married, and raising their own children! They haven't taken me to see Dr. Phil yet, so I must have done something right!

There will always be time to clean and organize...but the time for raising your little ones is fleeting!

PS: I am still in my jammies, too! Well, this is what I say: who cares? There is no one here to give me a hard time but me...and I won't!

And I will betcha your baby could care less if you are dressed in your jammies or your jeans!

[Cristy]

he probably likes my jammies better since they allow quicker access when he's hungry! LOL!