I would be honest with her. Let her know that you are very excited about the wheel and don't want to be a bother. Ask her how often you should call to check the status. If she spins, then I think she'll understand.
I have yet to come across a spinning book that doesn't make spinning look easy as pie. So, I only have two that I love.
Twisted Sisters Sock Workbook. - It has lots and lots on awesome info. Even if you don't want to make socks, it's good. I think they are coming out with a sweater work book in the near future. I am so gonna get it.
Interweaves Reference booklet on spinning. It has a little bit of info on lots of subjects for spinning. Plus it is small and fits in my spinning basket.
I have Spin to Knit - it may be good for you if you like the patterns, but other wise all the info she has can be found for free online.
I am a visual person and learn by actually watching others and asking questions. If you are like this then look into the DVDs that are available. Yarn Barn of KS
has some good choices.
Good luck and keep us posted!