I got some little needles for my daughter by Lion Brand, I think. They're plastic (a little more flexible than regular plastic, I think) and they have little kitties on the ends. I think they're size 8's? 9's? They worked for her pretty well. Since they're shorter than regular needles, too, I think she had an easier time using them.
Something the my daughter's Girl Scout troop (9-10 year olds) did was to finger crochet. I got them some brightly colored Red Heart and pony beads and they made bracelets and necklaces. Don't know if that's something that your daughter would like, but it gave my scouts more confidence before they moved onto needles, hooks, and yarn.