Wow, I hate posting something so off topic; I try to limit OT posts to searching for tips on things such a varied group of people may have experience with...you know, buying electronics, dealing with wisdom teeth, etc. I try not to use it for group therapy. BUT.......
My husband and I have been looking for a house on acerage or just plain land so he can farm like he's always wanted to. We've been looking off and on for about five years, and a year ago we got really serious about it. We have very specific needs, since he has certain things he wants to do with the land...we're not just looking to plunk down a McMansion in the middle of a tract to pretend we're the only people around. Long story short, I happened to find a perfect place yesterday. I came home and told my husband I had found the place I wanted to raise our kids and spend the rest of my life. He went and had a look, and it suited his needs too. We called our agent, and....the place had been sold two days before.
Now, I am not an emotional person. (Well, not unless I'm hormonal.) I don't cry when people move away, and I don't think I even cried when my kids were born (although I plead staidol...I don't really remember much of anything). But all day today I've been in tears. Even with a firm belief that anything we want and don't get wouldn't have been ultimately good for us, I'm having trouble with this.
My question is this...have any of you experienced actual grief over a mere opportunity? Something that was never even concrete? Is this normal? How do you deal with it? Thanks in advance for sharing any thoughts.
Okay, my four year old has been waiting patiently for me to finish so she can do some emoticons. Here we go!