Angel Type pattern for mourning???

[snephenie]

A very dear friend of mine had to have emergency surgery today to save her life. Sadly that meant delivering her 21 week baby girl who only got to live for 20 minutes. (While my friend was still "put under")

I want to make something for her, maybe an Angel type doll, I was thinking the kind with a blanket and the head at the top....(thinking/typing out loud here)

Thinking maybe when she hurts and mourns for her baby she can hug onto that.

Or maybe something completely different....I don't know. My heart aches for her right now.

does anyone have any suggestions??

[Braden]

I am so sorry for her, that's so sad. Maybe you could just knit a blanket and write a sentimental quote in color patterns in the blanket.

[Jints]

Found some pattern ideas.

http://www.bevscountrycottage.com/be...ent-gowns.html

http://www.bbc.co.uk/stoke/my_pages/.../hkp/025.shtml

http://www.lucybug.org/tinyangel.html

http://www.geocities.com/love2knit_d...Dishcloth.html

[Mariblue]

I'm so sorry for your friend. I've got no pattern suggestions, but think that anything you make for her would be appreciated.

[Susan P.]

snephenie...I am sorry for your friend's loss and yours by default. If I might suggest..try and make contact with one of the groups that deal with loss of babies (SIDS etc here in Oz - Sudden Infant Death Syndrome). The hospital welfare section where she is at should be able to advise you. Those kind of groups, because they deal with grieving parents all the time, will tend to be more intuitive and knowledgeable about what may be best as a gift.

I suspect the doll *could* trigger issues for her because such toys are often given as baby gifts. Then again her reaction could be very different.

I think the blanket idea quite a good one. An inspiration book may be welcome at some stage and if she has a strong religious faith that may be very welcome.

[Knitting_Guy]

That's really sad. She's lucky to have a good friend who is thinking about her.

[sue in canada]

So sorry for your friend.

There is a dishcloth pattern with an angel in the design. What about incorporating something like that into a pillow for her. I will try to find the pattern

[cookworm]

snephenie, I'm so sorry to hear about your friend and losing her little baby. I can't even imagine what she's going through...losing her baby, and at the same time, recovering from a serious surgery. It's just incredibly sad.

Jints mentioned Bev's Country Cottage site--they have a lot of stuff there, and one of the things they have there are preemie burial garments--here is the link if you wanted to take a look; here is one that's designed like an angel and lists sizes on the bottom of the page.

I found this little knitted angel doll, and believe it or not, it was designed specifically for the same purpose that you'd be making it! here is a knitted dishcloth angel that is cute in the shape of an angel, and here is one that might look cute as many blocks seamed together as a blanket.

If you know how to crochet, here is a whole page of angel-themed crochet patterns (for whatever reason, I always find crochet angel stuff, but rarely see anything in the knitted world with angels).

No matter what you make for your friend, she will cherish both the item, as well as your thoughtfulness and reaching out to her. Just go with whatever is in your heart with regards to what to make her, and I believe that she'll appreciate it more than words can express.

[nadja la claire]

I'm sorry for your friend. It's terrible to lose a child. I think your friend will take comfort in anything you do for her, even if you're just there for her to talk to her or to give her a shoulder to cry on.

You're a very good friend.



Nadja