I'm so sorry to hear of your MIL's situation and of all the stress you're going through. *Hugs* and I hope things will get easier for you soon.
After reading this topic, I feel that I have to say something about smoking in general.
I quit smoking 3 months ago and I can say that although I still have cravings once in a while, I NEVER want to smoke again. My husband and I used the Commit nicotine lozenges for a month to ween ourselves off the chemical addiction and it REALLY helped -- I recommend them to anyone who is looking to quit.
The second thing I will recommend is a book called "The Easy Way to Stop Smoking" by Allen Carr. If you are a smoker, or if you have smokers in your family, I implore you to buy this book. It costs about $10 and it simply puts smoking into perspective for the smoker -- there's no gimmicky tricks or anything like that; it simply makes you want
to quit. If you don't take my word for it, then check out the Amazon reviews here: http://www.amazon.com/Easy-Way-Stop-.../dp/1402718616
. It's a quick read at 200 pages. I highly recommend it!!!
Recommendation #3: http://www.quitnet.com/
Tobacco addiction is a strange thing. People start smoking because it seems "cool" or because it "relieves stress". People start smoking because they see other people doing it, and it looks cool or interesting or whatever. But the irony is that the people who smoke would really rather not
smoke. Ask any smoker you know, and he or she will generally say, "Oh, I've tried to quit X-amount of times, but I got stressed out and started smoking again (or: I missed it/I really enjoy smoking/etc.). Smoking makes you think that you're "enjoying" the cigarette, but all you're really enjoying is the relief from the withdrawals that the PREVIOUS cigarette caused!
It's a vicious cycle and the prospect of quitting can terrify a smoker.
It was not easy to quit, as any of you who've quit can surely testify. But it is SO worth it. I have SO much more energy now, and I honestly think I have actually lost a few pounds since I quit (maybe my metabolism is resetting itself?). My husband is also feeling better and more empowered every day.