goes out to you!!
I have to say that part of me thinks you did the right thing. As someone else already said, "no good deed goes unpunished". However, I have to sort-of side with the sister, too. I live far away from my family and my middle brother and his wife tend to get themselves in trouble - you name it, they've done it. Some of it has been bad luck, but some of it has been self-inflicted and bad choices. After filing bankruptcy, the last straw came when their house burned down and their two dogs died :crying::crying: Even though they pretty much lost everything, I couldn't bring myself to give them money. I bought them some things for them and the kids, but I didn't trust them. I love them, but 2 yrs later, I still don't trust them with anything. I can't say I would be a sister who would take care of him. I guess you could say I'm playing tough love, but since I'm not as involved in their lives, at least the times I do see them, we enjoy our time together. *Semi-rant alert: Also, they live down the street from my parents and they always seem to bail him out of trouble. I know they love him, but they're enabling him, which means he won't grow up. I mean, what is he going to do when/if something happens to my parents?
Semi-rant over* But I live 875 miles away, so I keep my mouth shut!