I have 3 that I like alot - I can't remember if they have the requirements and planning, but I think they do touch on it -
Moosewood Restuarant LowFat Favorites
- I like alot of theirs, and I think there is healthy stuff in most of their cookbooks, but I know this one does for sure.
I like Deborah Madison's Vegetarian Cooking for Everyone
; not always healthy, but there are lots of recipes in there.
Cresent Dragonwagon's Passionate Vegetarian
is HUGE - lots of recipes, stories, menu ideas, and it's all healthy. I think she gives variations too, as does Moosewood.
I also have Vegetarian Times Complete Cookbook
- that one has a bunch of info, it might actually be closest to what you're looking for, but it's not as ... creative, I guess, as the others. I've made a few things from it, and had them turn out fine too.
It might be worth checking online too - I think there's probably lots of good sites - I haven't looked in a while; having kids changed the way I cook - they don't go much for curries and things, and you can only disguise beans and veggies so many ways before they grow suspicious.
Anyway, just my .02 - Good luck wiht what you find.