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Old 09-25-2007, 10:10 AM   #41
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A friend was introducing me to a guy and as as we approach him and her uncle, I overhear her uncle say, "I told you she was fat but I guess her face isn't too bad."

My mom likes me to stay home with her when I am not working. In a way, I can't blame her because she is disabled and I know she is lonely but she really makes me feel insecure on the rare occasion when I go out. (mabe 2x per year) She looks at me like I have grown a 2nd head and says, "You are wearing THAT?" Any bravado I have is crushed and I ask, "Whats wrong with this?" Her response is, "Nothing if thats the way you want to look." Nothing concrete, no actual definition of whats wrong or inappropriate. Just hitting below the belt.

Not long ago I was on web camming with my friend in Ireland (Lord have mercy, that man is hot!) and my mom comes out and says, "Well I HOPE you don't think your hair looks GOOD!". That was the first thing she had said to me that day.

Since I have never been thin I am used to the comments people make...

Oh, but you have such a pretty face...
You could be pretty if only you lost weight...


Oh and the kids at school were the worst. There was this really popular guy who used to moo at me when I walked down the hall. My last memory of him was us being alone in the hall-without an audience I have no idea what prompted him to be so cruel- and he was about 30 feet away mooing like a cow. Loudly.
A week later he was killed in a car accident and I actually had the nerve to feel guilty that I didn't care he was dead.

I ran into one of my middle school teachers and he asked what I was doing with my life. I said I was a preschool teacher. He responded by saying, "Ha! I knew it. You were nothing and you grew up to be nothing!" I was flabbergasted, but collected myself enough to respond by glaring at him up and down and saying, "What do you expect? I had a great role model."

My mother thinks its horrible that I am so outspoken, but I decided a long time ago I was tired of letting people make me feel like I didn't have a right to be somewhere. They back down pretty quick when I look them in the eye and ask if they have an issue.
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Old 09-25-2007, 10:40 AM   #42
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I get wayyyyyy too many nasty comments from my parents, too many to even remember or think about anymore. They come on almost a daily occurance from my mom.
Although, back in May I was hospitalized for a week with diverticulitis. My dad says to me over the phone "What the hell is wrong with you? Are you stupid or something?" He felt I shouldn't have eaten corn, thereby causing me to get sick in his mind.
My mom makes snarky remarks about my marriage, our wealth, my looks, etc. all the time. We think it's a way of her counteracting her own feelings of inadequency. She knows some hotspots and will put in a few digs each time I talk to her. It's a wonderful way to live and communicate. I dread picking up the phone.
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Old 09-25-2007, 11:06 AM   #43
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Chel I've never been thin either and its true, after a lifetime of hearing the rude comments you just get to the "to hell with them" point. Had a man call my office and ask "Are you the fat one or the skinny one?" I said "I'm the fat one and I remember you, your the stupid one." Not very professional but it shut him up really quickly. And other time this really old lady said to my boss "I can't believe you would hire a fat person to work here." He grabbed her by the elbow and escorted her out. I later saw her at the post office and she started toward me saying "Hey your that fat lady." I cut off by saying "Yep, I'm that fat lady but you are old and you will DIE soon." And I'll be darned about two months later she did DIE. And no I didn't feel bad at all.
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Old 09-25-2007, 11:30 AM   #44
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quote=PurlyGyrl "I cut her off by saying "Yep, I'm that fat lady but you are old and you will DIE soon." And I'll be darned about two months later she did DIE. And no I didn't feel bad at all."

Okay...so totally wrong, but so freaking funny!

What really annoys me, even more than people making stupid comments about the fact that we haven't been able to have any more children, are the people who make STUPID comments about my dh's job.

I actually cut off a friend of mine from childhood because she was so patronizing and just plain wrong about it.

He's a youth pastor. Yes, that is a full time job. Yes, his job allows him SOME flexibility to be available to his family during his normal office hours, but he also works 70+ hours in a normal week...not including the phone calls at 2 am from a student who is suicidal, or the times when he drives out to a home to mediate because a kid ran away and is back now, or the court dates he attends, or the graduation parties, or the high school plays/musicals/sport events, or when kids show up at our house because they know they are ALWAYS welcome there...He works his butt off. And dd and I love him and we love "our" kids and we wouldn't have it any other way.

But it's NOT a cushy job. He works very hard for NO thanks. He doesn't make much money and he doesn't get free cars, free clothes or free whatever because of his job. He isn't a televangelist!

And yet, it is surprising how many people, upon finding out what he does, say, "Oh, it must be nice to only work part time." Because apparently, he only has to work on Sunday mornings and Wednesday nights.

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Old 09-25-2007, 12:49 PM   #45
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Those are the people who think kids require and deserve minimal effort-the exact people whose kids end up in crisis. Be thankful your mind (and heart) isn't as small as theirs.
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Old 09-25-2007, 05:26 PM   #46
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Originally Posted by msoebel View Post
And yet, it is surprising how many people, upon finding out what he does, say, "Oh, it must be nice to only work part time." Because apparently, he only has to work on Sunday mornings and Wednesday nights.
Heh, I would reply that compared him they ARE working only part time. Then hand them a sign that says "I'm stupid".
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Old 09-25-2007, 05:31 PM   #47
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When I was in 4th grade, there was this substitute teacher, Mr. Mooney that we would all dread having because he was so mean. One day I came in on a Monday and had a temporary tattoo of a flower on my cheek from a carnival I was at with my family the day before. Mr. Mooney looked at me and said “why would you put that ugly thing on your face?” I ran into the bathroom crying and scrubbed it off until me cheek was red. He was an older man who obviously didn't like his job but why would a teacher say that to a child?
He reminds me of my kindergarten teacher! Seriously, I don't know why this guy chose to teach kindergarten, he was awful! He made us color in one direction on the whole sheet of paper (instead of randomly scribbling like most kids do) and we had homework. He made me so nervous that I developed a stutter. One day while we were saying the pledge of allegiance I couldn't keep up because I was stuttering and he made me stand up in front of the entire class and say it by myself! which of course was harder with the stutter...which went away a month or two after school let out and I didn't have to be around him anymore.

I wish I'd told my mom. I didn't know it wasn't normal, but when I told her a few years later, she told me she never liked him and would have pulled me from that class in a heartbeat if she'd known.
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Old 09-25-2007, 06:35 PM   #48
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Old 09-25-2007, 09:38 PM   #49
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People always used to say to me "Why do you have so many dogs" or " Why do you let your dogs in the house,they belong outside".To which I would reply " I love dogs and they don't lie, cheat, or steal from you like most people do." They make great companions.They give you unconditional love.Unlike people do.People always want something in return. I let my dogs in the house because I want to and the next time somebody breaks in your house you'll wish you had a dog inside the house instead of tied up to his dog house.

I think it was Richard Dean Anderson that said "The more people I meet the more I like my dog."


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I ran into one of my middle school teachers and he asked what I was doing with my life. I said I was a preschool teacher. He responded by saying, "Ha! I knew it. You were nothing and you grew up to be nothing!" I was flabbergasted, but collected myself enough to respond by glaring at him up and down and saying, "What do you expect? I had a great role model."

And this guys a teacher? Doesn't he know the first five years of a child's life are the most important developmentally? You give more to any child that you teach then he ever will.


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Somebody posted a comment on a website, not aimed at me in particular but all childcare providers: "Instead of complaining about how underpaid/underappreciated you are, get a real job, or better yet, get a degree"

I started to train to become a Early Childhood Educator but had to quit because of financial problems. When I told one guy what I was going to school for he laughed and said "Oh! A glorified babysitter." It really ticked me off. There is way more to being a preschool teacher/daycare provider then what a babysitter would do. Not to mention the fact that I was never one of those babysitters that just sat around watching TV while the kids played. This guy supposedly wanted to become a social worker for troubled youth. Guess I know why that didn't work out.
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I swear, I am not making this up. I just went and got the mail and the garbage cans from at the end of my driveway. One of my neighbors (I think he's on meds of some sort or he needs to be) walks up to me with his dogs and says:

Jimmy: You know your next door neighbors are pregnant?
Me: Yeah, I got that memo
Jimmy: You should have a baby
Me: Yeah, that's not going to happen.
Jimmy: Are you still having your period?
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