2 year old with a broken arm

[ChrissyB]

Ok, I need to get this out, and I like this site, even though I don't post much. So I hope you don't mind if I babble a little. My 2 1/2 year old son broke his arm yesterday, and I feel like a failure. We were at the park, he was climbing something he has climbed many time, and slipped. He didn't fall far, but he fell hard, and broke his right radius, snapped it right in half. I was RIGHT there, less than 2 feet away, it just happened so fast. He is my only baby, and I am a very protective mom. I cloth diapered, made my own baby food, buy organic, ban soda, all to keep him healthy. I always let him play and climb at the park because I want him to be adventurous and confindent, something I am not. He has dealt with the whole thing so well, such a trooper!! The doctor actually didn't think it was broken because Logan let hime move it all around and poke, but the xrays showed a different picture. The Ortho we saw says it should heal just fine, his being so young works in his favor. So he picked a nice red cast that runs from his knuckles to his shoulder, on his right, and yes he is right handed.
Now, to make me feel even worse, we went shopping today and I got several looks from other families as if to say "what kind of parent lets a kid that young break an arm". I guess I know these things happen with kids, but why mine? And why do people have to give me those looks that make me feel like dirt on their shoes. Thanks for letting me rant.

[sugarfunpouch]

Relax, it's okay. Nobody's perfect. My best friend's mom was watching her 20 month daughter walk outside. She slipped and fell on the concrete! She broke her arm, and the mom did the same thing as you're doing now. (Not in a bad way or anything) She will be fine, I promise.

[Ingrid]

These things happen. Don't deal yourself guilt! A kid without bruises is a kid that isn't active enough. He'll heal just fine. Let yourself heal, too.

As for other people pfttttt!

[Knitting_Guy]

He's a guy and guys do that sort of thing. Get used to it because it probably won't be the only injury he ever has. We guys are good at that sort of thing. In a few years he'll be bragging about it.

My mom was on a first name basis with the ER staff when I was growing up

[Feef]

I'm sorry Logan was injured, but how cool is THAT to have a red cast?!? Mine were plain, icky, itchy-around-the-edges white when I had one (twice).

Children aren't the only ones who can be mean; adults can be vicious. Heck with 'em. You know the truth, so stand in that.

[sugarfunpouch]

Go feef!

[Doodknitwit]

haven't had kids!!! Don't beat yourself up!!!

[Riss]

When I was 4 I think... I was walking with my mom and was wearing a new dress. She was holding my hand when I went to jump into a puddle. She yanked up, and broke my wrist. I'm 23, and she's my best friend. I don't love her any less for it, and honestly, I don't remember anyone giving her crap for it.

Just remember that just because he's broken, doesn't mean that you're a bad mother. Just tell whoever says stuff that he's exceptionally smart and adventurous for his age and was exploring. They don't have to know that it was something he'd done a million times.

*hug* It'll be okay. I promise. Stay strong.

[AnnaT]

These things happen. Don't deal yourself guilt! A kid without bruises is a kid that isn't active enough. He'll heal just fine. Let yourself heal, too.

As for other people pfttttt!

Perfect post, couldn't have said it better.

And as hard as it must be to stand aside sometimes, I think that constantly saying "Oh no, honey, you'll hurt yourself" is a million times more damaging than a broken arm. I had a friend who always took that approach with her active boy and I just cringed every time.

[kristinw]

Oh Crissy, that is awful You didn't do anything wrong though. I get so nervous with my little guy climbing on everything (he is such a monkey). But that's what toddlers do. It could have happened to anyone and even if you were standing right there. You're a good mama!