Help! I'm soooooo confused.

sugarfunpouch · 10-17-2007, 08:22 PM

This guy asked me to be his girlfriend and I said "okay."
I am so nervous now! I'm really confused! This has never happened to me before. I don't really...ugh I don't know. Boyfriends and girlfriends just hold hands and hug, at my school, but I don't know. Sorry to bother you with my problem, I'm just really confused.
BTW: I DID talk to my mom.

Thanks everyone.

Riss · 10-18-2007, 01:52 AM

If it's not something you're comfortable with, then you should tell him that while you like him, maybe you're not quite ready for that next step in your relationship.

*hug* Just remember to be strong.

sugarfunpouch · 10-18-2007, 01:58 AM

Thanks, I just don't really know how I feel... :(

HamaLee · 10-18-2007, 02:06 AM

Originally Posted by sugarfunpouch

This guy asked me to be his girlfriend and I said "okay."
I am so nervous now! I'm really confused! This has never happened to me before. I don't really...ugh I don't know. Boyfriends and girlfriends just hold hands and hug, at my school, but I don't know. Sorry to bother you with my problem, I'm just really confused.
BTW: I DID talk to my mom.

Thanks everyone.

If you want to hold hands with him and hug, then hold hands and hug and enjoy it.

But if you're not comfortable with that, or with the label and expectation of being boyfriend/girlfriend, that's ok. You can tell him that and if he's a nice guy he'll understand. And if he's not--well, he's a jerk and you don't need that.

If you think you might like him or want to get used to the idea, see if you can hang out with him in groups...like a group date. Go bowling or something with a group of friends and you can hold hands but still be in a comfortable social situation. Do whatever feels right for you.

I'm glad you talked to your mom

I hope she gave you good advice. And I also hope that this is the start of a fun relationship with your mom--where you get to share your crushes and romantic inclinations with her in a way that's safe and special and makes you both feel like this:

Let us know how you're feeling!

iza · 10-18-2007, 02:09 AM

It's normal to be confused! It's a big step. What's important is that you feel respected and that you go at your own pace. You CAN be clear about what you want and don't want. And most of all, you are allowed to change your mind!

No matter what you decide, it's all about expressing yourself clearly, and respectfully.

(You know, even "old people" can be confused in these moments too!

)

sugarfunpouch · 10-18-2007, 02:11 AM

Awww...thanks HamaLee! That really helped!
It was kind of funny actually, he asked me before lunch, I'm usually sooo hungry, but I was still shocked, so I couldn't eat. THAT'S THE FIRST TIME THAT HAS HAPPENED!!!!
I'm always hungry! LOL!

sugarfunpouch · 10-18-2007, 02:13 AM

Thanks iza! You guys are great!
(In case for some reason I can't thank all of you, thanks now.)

HamaLee · 10-18-2007, 01:59 PM

Originally Posted by sugarfunpouch

...but I was still shocked, so I couldn't eat. THAT'S THE FIRST TIME THAT HAS HAPPENED!!!!
I'm always hungry! LOL!

I know EXACTLY what you mean!

msoebel · 10-18-2007, 02:55 PM

First boyfriends are important. You're always going to remember him. I think the most important thing you can do at your age is remember to be friends first and boyfriend/girlfriend second.

That way, no matter what happens, it will turn out okay. Because you will both be good to your friend...And keep talking to your mom. She knows you better than anyone and she can give you great advice. She's been there before.

I hope that this turns out to be something really nice for you.

Sharly · 10-18-2007, 03:32 PM

Hey Sugar!

You are a very mature girl! I'm glad that you have talked to your Mom, and that you trust your older (and, hopefully wiser) friends here at KH! I think the advice you've gotten so far is right on target! Just have fun, don't bow to pressure of any kind, and as long as you enjoy each other's company, it's okay to be girlfriend/boyfriend.

Take care!!