It may help to start out with your stitches on only 2 needles. Fold so the needles are parallel === and use the 3rd needle to knit with. After a couple inches, you can add the 4th needle and rearrange your stitches. You're always only knitting on 2 needles at a time, with the points closest to you; the other ones hang off the back just holding your stitches until you get to them. I wouldn't worry for now whether the finished work points toward you or away from you - it takes a few inches for it to look like anything anyway. What's important is how the needles face. Here's a picture of circular knitting http://www.knitpicks.com/content/wp-content/uploads/2007/05/circular4.jpg
even though it's on a circ needle, the knitting is the same as on dpns.