So if I lose count of how many rows I've done, how do I count them? Does the row on the needle count as a finished row? So I count the number I can see plus the one on the needle? I'm fairly sure I'm making this harder than it needs to be.

In stockinette stitch or ribbing it's fairly easy to count the knit stitches, but in garter I can't figure it out.
When you're checking gauge, do you do a swatch, bind off and then count the gauge? Or can you count the gauge while it's still on the needle?
The pattern I'm working on says "Change to larger needle and k1, kfb to end of row." Does that mean I have the work on the smaller needle, and just work the next row with the larger needle? Or do I need to slip the stitches onto the larger needle before working the next row? I had a heck of a time working kfb with a 4 in one hand and 7 in the other, but I think part of that is that I knit really tight.
Speaking of... how tight should I be knitting? Out of habit (from crochet), I keep my working yarn fairly tight, so my stitches don't have a whole lot of room on the needle... working on bamboo, they don't slide freely at all (I really have to work to slide the stitches with my free hand). Looking at the gauge I'm getting though, that's much tighter than is expected in this pattern, at least. (expected is 18 stitches, 26 rows per 4 inches of stockinette on 7's) Definitely not giving up... but I suspect this diaper cover is going to wind up preemie sized instead of small.
