Wanted to come back and say - WOW does holding yarn in both hands instead of one make a difference!
First, it's more even tension (and I had to go up a needle size, I knit tighter when I throw than when I pick)
Second, it keeps the yarn balls from dancing and tangling.
Third, I found a previous post that said to put the background in your right hand, pattern color in your left - and it's amazing, the pattern is really popping this time!!
I'm so happy I decided to force myself past the awkward stage and just do it - my right glitten is going to be so much nicer than my left