HOW DO I GET RID OF THIS BUG?!?!?!?!

knittingymnast · 01-18-2008, 10:03 PM

A friend, whom I have talked about before, says that her parents deprive her of yarn. She loves digging through my yarn bag to find all of my yummy yarns, which I allow. However, I cross the line at USING MY BEST YARN IN THE AWESOMEST DYE LOT EVER!!!! She dug through and pulled out a pair of metal needles and this really pretty wool blend in the color Delft. She then proceeded to CO 25 sts and start a baby blanket piece. After that, I have not seen the yarn nor needles, and she claims that they, again

, are hers. She said she will keep the yarn and needles until she is finished, which will be never. She always wants MY yarn and MY needles. I really wouldn't care if she gave up knitting for good just so that my yarns would stay mine! If I want the awesomest yarn ever back, (the needles are junky, I don't care) what should I say/do, or what should I not say/do?

Spinto · 01-19-2008, 03:08 AM

I don't think there's anything you can do now, short of breaking in and looting her house. In the future, don't let her take your stuff. If you keep it out of her hands in the first place, you won't have to go to the trouble of trying to get it back.

nitewyngs · 01-19-2008, 03:09 AM

Good gosh! This depends on the age of said miscreant! By her parents deprive her of yarn do you mean to say that she is in middle, high school or slightly above? The age will make a difference in your approach.

*KnitPixie* · 01-19-2008, 03:44 AM

Kick her @$*

No J/K violence is not the way to go..but I do agree with what was said above it depends on her age but let me tell you I would get it back, I would

Ingrid · 01-19-2008, 04:19 AM

If someone took my nicest yarn, they'd end up with a bloody stump!

Seriously, buy her some less expensive stuff for her own, and hide yours.

iwouldratherbeknitting · 01-19-2008, 06:50 AM

Clearly, she is young enough to be living at home and her parents providing for her-- since, they aren't buying her yarn. It appears that she is still young enough that .. this might work?

So, you need to go to her house and talk to her parents and either get the yarn back and the cost of the materials from her parents (including the yucky needles that you don't mention that they are yucky- they still need to be replaced).

She is not treating you the way that a friend should treat another friend.

YarnKitten · 01-19-2008, 07:56 AM

Sounds like a kid to me. They've got to be put in their place about WHAT they can and cannot have. Next time, tell them no. If you don't want to be mean about it, tell them you already had plans for that material which is why you bought it in the first place.

knitmama · 01-19-2008, 09:20 AM

What they said. Also, keep your good stuff where she can't have access to it. Hide it when she's coming over. Politely explain that all the supplies you have are necessary to your craft, and that the yarns you purchase are all special to you. If she keeps taking things or refuses to return what she already has taken, then go to her/your parents and get them involved. A real friend wouldn't mooch off of you so much. It's one thing if have generously decided to gift some thing to her, but it's quite another to just take what has not been offered.

Nobones · 01-19-2008, 11:20 AM

[quote=Ingrid;1045608]If someone took my nicest yarn, they'd end up with a bloody stump!

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I have to agree, I wouldn't put up with that. Yarn doesn't just fall in your lap, someone is paying for it. You must either get the yarn back, or get reimbursed for it by her or her parents.

I'd be hiding my stash whenever she was around. I also agree with others, that's not much of a 'friend' you have there.

knittingymnast · 01-19-2008, 01:44 PM

Originally Posted by nitewyngs

Good gosh! This depends on the age of said miscreant! By her parents deprive her of yarn do you mean to say that she is in middle, high school or slightly above? The age will make a difference in your approach.

shes actually, in 5th grade.