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Old 04-24-2008, 10:56 AM   #11
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If she hasn't already tell her to put his email address on her spam or block list so she doesn't have to receive any more of his non-sense. Then tell her to tell him she will call the police if he calls her, or contacts her in any other way. If she continues to have any contact with him it will only continue. It may be once he realizes she's not taking his emails he'll go away and not try another avenue of contact.
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Old 04-24-2008, 12:15 PM   #12
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Originally Posted by stitchwitch View Post
If she hasn't already tell her to put his email address on her spam or block list so she doesn't have to receive any more of his non-sense. Then tell her to tell him she will call the police if he calls her, or contacts her in any other way. If she continues to have any contact with him it will only continue. It may be once he realizes she's not taking his emails he'll go away and not try another avenue of contact.
Thanks! I did tell her about putting him on her block list and I reminded her that no matter how upset he makes her she needs to reel in her urge to communicate in any way - even to tell him off! I know her and she can let anger and hurt overwhelm her and start into a tirade which would only make things worse. She will rationalize that she couldn't let him get away with treating her in such a way and had to give him a piece of her mind, but of course that only serves to make things worse most times. I know this form of thinking because I was once young and had to learn such a lesson too. So far I think her friend has kept her in check as well so that's good.

Last night she called specifically to talk to her little brother, my DS, which I thought was great. Since she's been gone they haven't spoken as much. At 16 he is actually a very level headed old soul of a kid so i am so happy that she called him for advice. It made me very proud of them both for helping each other and knowing who to reach out to.
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Is there a women's center on her campus? THey usually have trained staff to handle this very thing. So sorry to hear this is going on. I hope she gets help soon.
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