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Old 06-15-2008, 02:29 AM   #1
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I just don't get people sometimes

The other day I had the pool out for the kids. It's a small inflatable pool that looks like a pirate ship. I've had to put it in the driveway because our backyard is pretty much all dirt right now and putting the pool in back would only create HUGE mud puddles and the pool water would be disgusting...ANYWAY, so I'm out in the pool with the kids and a guy who lives 3 houses up was taking his daughter for a walk. Now, though I've been in this neighborhood for 4 years, I've never actually talked to the guy, just a wave or a hi in passing. So, he's taking his daughter for a walk and passes my house and I do the usual wave and say hi. He says hi back and keeps on walking.

About an hour passes, and I notice him taking his daughter for a walk again. He was on the side of the street opposite our house. I notice him just standing there and overhear him telling his daughter to look at the pool, pointing to the pool, etc. So, I look up and say hi to him again then went back to playing with my son. He's still standing there...and I notice he's got a beach towel with him and his daughter (roughly 2) is wearing a swimming suit...I'm thinking no way, he's not going to do what I think he's going to do....And he does.

He walks right over, uninvited and tells his daughter to look at the pool, blah, blah, blah...Then, his daughter gets in the pool...and the guy NEVER asked! I'm thinking omg, no way, I can't believe he has the audacity to just walk right over, obviously with the intention of letting his daughter swim (seeing as he had a towel for her and she had a swimsuit on) without even asking! Then, to top it off, HE GETS IN THE POOL!!! Granted he just stood there, but still! I was so taken off guard I didn't even know what to say! I mean the guy is nice and all, but man, have some manners! How incredibly rude!

If he would have ASKED me if it was ok to let his daughter swim, that would have been fine but to just waltz right over without even asking and with the obvious intention of taking her swimming at my house is just nerve! Then, he actually says to me he was taking his daughter up to the school to play on the playground...Uh huh, with her in a swimming suit and him carrying a towel!

That's it, I'm getting a tarp to put in the backyard so the kids can walk on that and not get muddy...I can only imagine how many times he'll come back, uninvited, if I keep it in the driveway
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Old 06-15-2008, 02:37 AM   #2
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I think that would have freaked me out. a strange man jumping in the pool where my kids are. I feel sorry for the little girl because if her dad carries on being this rude one day she will hear about it. that wont be nice.
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Old 06-15-2008, 08:00 AM   #3
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That kind of boggles the mind, and is pretty scary. He was probably depending on the fact that you wouldn't call him on it with his daughter there with him. Can you imagine the manners she'll have if he's her role model??
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Old 06-15-2008, 08:44 AM   #4
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At the time it would have been really strange, but now it just sounds really funny. It's like one of those comedy skits where they get people to do strange things just to see their reaction. Maybe you'll be on TV someday soon!

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Old 06-15-2008, 09:02 AM   #5
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omg thats terrible. i just dont get how someone would have the cheek to do that. i get embarrassed asking for money off something ina shop let alone a splash pool on someone elses property!

it was also a little dangerous on his part, he didnt know your kids are well behaved and wouldnt 'play rough' with his 2 year old daughter, so many kids dont understand how to play nice now a days do they.

taht poor little girl will have no respect of other peoples things or manners byh the time she grows up unless her mother is brilliant.

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Old 06-15-2008, 09:03 AM   #6
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OMG What a freak! I don't think I could have just stood there and let him get in the pool. It really creeps me out that he got in, nevermind his daughter.

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Old 06-15-2008, 12:58 PM   #7
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I don't even know what to say..that is so bizarre! It would have been weird if it had been a neighbor you knew doing that w/o asking, but to have someone who is not close do it... yikes! Do you have a gate or something you could lock?

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Old 06-15-2008, 01:31 PM   #8
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some people. I wouldn't know what to say either. Maybe "what are you doing?" or "who are you?" He probably knows that that would be an uncomfortable sitution for you though. Or maybe he didn't? Maybe he has Asperbers or something? Maybe he has no social skills? UGH, I feel so bad for you.
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Wow...I'm so sorry that happened to you. How creepy. I would have had to say something...but then again, I tend to be fairly outspoken. Thank goodness it doesn't sound like anything bad happened...but what a weirdo.

We have an inground pool at our house and when we moved in, we met some really bizarre neighbors that live behind us. Apparently, the former owners used to have them over a lot to swim. Well, the wife is always screaming at her kids (I mean screeeeeeaming) and is very negative and the husband is one of those passive-aggressive types who says things that you aren't sure whether he is insulting you or doesn't know he is being rude...that sort of thing...and so we haven't buddied up with them.

The husband was outside and he had just made one of his rude comments and then he followed it up with 'How come we never get to come over and swim in your pool? The old owners used to let us...' and DH is too nice to say anything so he looks at me (thanks honey) and so I say, 'Well, I don't think you are very nice with some of your comments to be perfectly honest and I don't feel comfortable having you over when I don't know if you are going to insult us while you are here.' I thought DH would pass out from embarrassment and the guy didn't know what to say - he asked how he was rude and so I gave him a couple examples and told him gently that you can convey what you want to without putting anyone down. He doesn't talk to me much since then, but at least he isn't rude!
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Old 06-15-2008, 02:31 PM   #10
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Ok...I have to say that I try very hard to be nice to people, but...


I would have told that man that he was trespassing and to leave. An adult does not get in the pool with kids he doesn't know at someone's house that he hasn't been invited over.

I would have also told him that he was setting a terrible example for his daughter...that you wait to be INVITED before going to somebody's house.

I think you should get some "No Trespassing" signs.

I also think that you should go to this person's house, with hubby in tow, and tell him, politely, what he did was unacceptable.

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