I'm so sorry you're going through all that
I can totally relate to the situation (minus the blood clot). I know what you mean about feeling selfish about the time off from the prospective employer, my hubby had gone through the same thing...He applied for a job, interviewed, they were really interested and were supposed to call back in a week, then, BOTH guys in charge had family emergencies so we waited on that, and, in the end, they never called back.
He finally got another job, but, the pay still isn't what we need. We're too all out of money, behind on all but 2 bills (house payment and 2nd mortgage), and, we don't know what we're going to do about gas so hubby can get to work the rest of the week.
I don't say this to try to compare, but, hopefully it is somewhat, somehow, sort of a relief knowing that it's NOT you guys and NOT your fault. The whole economy is such a wreck right now it's absolutely ridiculous. We were better off even only 3 years ago than we are now, it's crazy. You'd think, over time, a situation would improve, pay would increase, etc. and it's just incredible it doesn't necessarily work out that way.
I don't know that my point of view is the best, but, I've learned to just stop worrying about it. I spent so much of my time worried that I literally made myself sick. I suffered from panic attacks, stomach pains, sleeplessness, etc. then, one day, I just quit caring...lol...My once excellent credit is now horrible and I don't care!
Well, I do "care" but I just don't worry anymore. It's so much easier for me to get through my days if I just put it out of my mind. As long as I have food for my kids, a roof over our heads, and enough gas in the car for hubby to get to work and back, I say F the rest...lol
I'm truly hoping things work out for you soon, I swear, I know, so many of us know how incredibly difficult it is right now and it just doesn't seem fair. You'll definitely be in my thoughts and I'm hoping for the best for you!