Originally Posted by kellee0302
My son is almost 14 and my husband is adopting him. The funny thing is when filling out the paper work, it makes it look like I'm also adopting my own son.
YOU ARE!!! My son was adopted by my (now ex) husband when he was 4 years old. I had raised him alone for over three years, got married and my (now ex) husband wanted to adopt him.
BIG MISTAKE. No one thinks their relationship or marriage is going to fail, but mine did. The adoption process required that I also "give up my rights", I became an adoptive parent (legally) which according to my attorney was to put both parents on equal footing. At the time it seemsed lovely.
Some years later when we were divorced my ex actually tried to get custody of my son, and (although he didn't) in the right circumstance he might have gotten custody. The fact that I was the "natural" parent had no bearing on the case.
I hate to sound cynical but I wouldn't do it, not only are you not married to this man but it essentially changes your relationship to your children. Had I known then what I know now I would NEVER have done it.