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Old 08-18-2009, 10:46 AM   #1
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Anybody familiar with Narcissistic Personality Disorder?
I've seen there are some books out there, but I was wondering if anybody is familiar with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), and if there has been anything particularly helpful for them in dealing with a loved one with NPD.
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Old 08-18-2009, 11:18 AM   #2
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Did you Google it?
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I've seen there are some books out there, but I was wondering if anybody is familiar with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), and if there has been anything particularly helpful for them in dealing with a loved one with NPD.
I don't know anyone with it..but did you Google it? They say Princess Diana was like that. I still liked her.
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Old 08-18-2009, 11:34 AM   #3
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I didn't know this about Princess Diana--that's interesting!

Yeah, I did Google this, and while the articles I came across were interesting to read, I'm hoping more to find resources on how to manage and cope with somebody with this.
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Old 08-18-2009, 01:32 PM   #4
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Googling about coping brought up a whole slew of links.
http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q...&aq=f&oq=&aqi=
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Old 08-18-2009, 01:37 PM   #5
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This is one of three diagnosis that my mother has. (Our childhood was wonderful! )

If you go to WebMd, they have many listings for it, and links to other sites. It's a very difficult disorder to get a diagnosis for, and if you do, it's almost impossible to get anyone to try to help, after all, the person with it is ALWAYS right, and will never let anyone tell them any different. You can ask until you're blue in the face, "Why is everyone else wrong, and you are right?" Well,it's just that way; they CANNOT see things in any different way.

This may be why I spent fourteen out of my thirty five years as a nurse working psych units.
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I was married to one for 17 years (really). In the end we divorced and the therapist told me He was surprised I lasted as long as I did.

They are NEVER wrong, the bad things they do are transferred to you and YOU are the one doing them. For example, my ex was never faithful, from almost the moment we married. I was always faithful and yet he was continually accusing ME of having affairs. When he got caught there was always a justification.

It was 17 years of hell, there is no medication that I know of and since they don't perceive anything to be wrong with them couseling only helps you deal with it.

I never heard that about Princess D and I don't belive it!!!
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I don't believe it either,Ginny. Her actions weren't those of one with that disorder.

That you stuck it out with your ex for seventeen years amazes me, I swore I'd leave if anything like that ever popped out in my marriage.
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There hasn't been an official diagnosis, and I suspect there won't be; as you guys have aptly put it, if a person is always right and everyone else is to blame, why seek help for yourself, especially when you're the victim and everybody is out to get you? I had just hoped to find some information on the internet about how to effectively manage a relationship with a person affected by this disorder; things are getting worse, and it's getting harder and harder to deal with it. Everything I had searched for on line was informative in giving information about it, but not on how to effectively deal with it.
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I'm sorry you are dealing with this. My way was to just walk away. Believe me I tried everything possible. That may not be possible for you, in which case you need to take care of yourself.

Hopefully it isn't someone you have to deal with on a daily basis. I'm not sure there is a effective way to deal with it, which is why you couldn't find anything. Other than recognizing that THEY are the one who have the problem not you.

You will certainly never convince them there is a problem.

I did look on line for any reference to Princess D having NPD and was unable to find anything. Everything she did and stood for is in opposition to the definition of NPD so I suspect that where ever that information came from it is faulty.
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My story is similar to GinnyG, only I was married to him for 26 years. He also had antisocial personality disorder and borderline personality disorder, which can overlap with narcissism. Borderlines are also very difficult to treat and he did not want treatment. He told me he 'liked himself the way he was'. There are a few books in the library I have read on borderlines, which does incorporate narcissisitic traits. One book that was very helpful to me was "Borderline Personality Disorder: a Guide for Professionals and Families" by John G Gunderson, MD.
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